FIND THE POWER WITHIN

Don't depend on anyone or thing to make you happy. When you do you give that person or thing power over your happiness. The moment they take it from you you become hopeless. Find the joy within you to make you happy and give yourself that power. Let no one determine your happiness and joy in life except God. Listen to people who will propel you unto greater and positive things in your life. Believe in yourself always. You are worthy ..........Dc Perez

CONGLOMERATE....THE WORLD IS OUR PLAYGROUND.....WE ARE ONE......Namaste

I want to apologize for every thought and every wrong my forefathers and generations before me did or didn't do because that curse still remains and until this generation is willing to break it, it will go on. I am not talking for one race but all races because all are guilty.

So I will start singularly, by apologizing for them, like many more others who are willing to do so, and open my heart and a door to reconciliation and the building of bridges, and boats to travel along those rough seas they created for us. And I say this with very good intentions and for/include all races that inhabit this planet.

The separation of the races is so intense; so many times you will encounter some people who continues to judge each other on their color, creed, class or status in life and shun them, probably smiling with them but won't want them to spend a day at their home in their company or the like.

Yes, racial disharmony still exists among the races. For me, I love them all. I see your soul/spirit, I don't see your race nor your religion, I am blinded to these things, Can you imagine being blind and not knowing color, simply voices, conversation, feeling people's spirit/vibration and judging them on that?

To some, it seems the more they see with their eyes, it's the less they appreciate. I love unconditionally, trying to understand one's mindset, the reason behind that mindset because most people's attitude were developed from life experiences; what they saw, lived and were fed. I usually meet you where you at.

People are not going to be alike and as long as some believe their race is superior than another, separation of beliefs and attitudes, and what we were fed/taught and still caught up in the hate/strife aura, we won't grow away from it. One has to keep an open mind, and even dialogue with your self because sometimes you are your greatest setbacks/enemy. It starts with you to make that change.

Judge me as you meet me, not on my past but my now. We are one, the only thing that separates us is our mindsets and inflexibility.

Truthfully, I haven't really come across many who treated me based on my race, in fact I had met many from different races who were exceptionally kind and very nice to me, I couldn't tell why, and never asked why, was it my appearance?

I somehow believe my spirit greets their spirit wholesomely and that spirit senses you, I've had many people pass me and slightly nod or smile on their journey, people I never met before, two ship passing by without words and you can sense they genuinely want to say hello. I am led to believe that good spirits greet each other even from afar.

That spirit meets you where you are at and I like that spirit but until we conglomerate and greet each other at where we are at, we will always be at our confusions trying to bend others to our liking or else.. That's a stinking, toxic attitude.

Have you ever met people in your life where you felt this inner tugging at your spirit telling you something about that person, you don't feel their vibes; you can't seem to pinpoint anything significant about them but your spirit just doesn't click with theirs, yet no hate.

I always walk with a smile and an extra one for whoever is willing to take it and share it. EVEN THOUGH THE WORLD may SEEM UNKIND AND CRUEL TO YOU, it DOESN'T MEAN that YOU MUST SHARE YOUR UNKINDNESS AROUND. No one needs it.

Though many on here are friends with me and I hope you haven't judge my friendship based on the color of my skin, my looks etc but on the genuine contents of my heart, my being because that is all that remains and is important. I met you where you are at; not your color, religion, class or status.

The spirit that lives in me greets the spirit that lives in you.

Namaste...my friends!!

Written by Donique C. Perez copyrighted 2009/10/05 All rights reserved

I SALUTE YOU.......Hear Ye, Hear Ye, Hailing all mighty men!

So many times, good men get beaten down because of a few of the unscrupulous men in the midst but I want to assure you that I respect your presence and your absolute existence.

I am so pleased with the roles I see many men/fathers play with their kids whether financially, spiritually, education wise and holistically. I am also pleased with the many dads who take on responsibilities and what you must continues as dads is to emphasize the importance of standing up to your responsibility as a man and father to your dependent, your kids.

Remember they were not asked to be born. Show positive examples to your kids and be there for them even if you and the mum are no longer together, whether through divorce or because the relationship simply didn't work out, so that they can follow your example and be better men.

I must stress specifically that I admire the ones who though strayed still remain committed to their kids in every sense of responsibility and I must warn some women that when you find a good guy even though he's left you or strayed and he wants to see his kids, please allow him to continue that bonding/connection with his kids.

Let go off all the strife and bitterness you may be feeling towards him, and think of the kids. I am not saying to go back with him but be courteous and amicable with him, sometimes we are our greatest enemy. Even if he hurt you in the past, a hurt remains a hurt only when you dwell on it; forgive, heal and move on. He hurt you; so what? Life goes on and will go on. Kids 'breathe in' what they see.

I say this because I'm divorced and my kid never knew why we split nor does he ever see us fighting over anything, all he knows is he is loved by us both and that's enough to let him know that life has challenges but mum and dad will make it right for him until he can make it on his own. I put my kid before myself because he never ask me to bring him to this world or mess we created.

His dad supports him financially and is there for moral support in whatever decision he has to make. I never leave his father out of decision making regarding his son, and they get to see each other when time allows as they are oceans apart. Sometimes we purposely make life hard for our kids when we get hard-hearted, forgetting that those kids suffer for our selfishness.

Too many kids are crying out for the attention of a dad, probably haven't seen them for as long as they have known themselves nor they haven't been assisting them in any form or fashion.

So to all the good men out there who do not shun their responsibility but are men enough to admit their mistakes/falters in life but yet face up to their responsibilities, kudos to you. I gently nod my head to you in acknowledgement of all good men.

Never feel belittled by the wrongs of the few. You are my king; I salute you, I cherish you, love you and treasure you.

You are strong, you are the authority God placed on this earth. We compliment each other in every way. In you, I discovered my femininity, and yes my masculinity as well being absorbed into you; your aura.

Sometimes I want to control you and you let me and that's because I want to tame you just like a lioness does to her lion but we both know who's the man. You give me my space, my rhyme and most importantly, my time (oh yes I wrote this line in another poem before but this is how it flows and I'm keeping it real:-)

You have given me an absolute reason to love you and the reason is - no reason. I just love you because you add so much essence to my existence in every sense.

A real 'family' man; in the home, community, the world at large. You are the glue to our kids future.

Never neglect your role and purpose. You are wanted, you are needed. I HAIL YOU!! I SALUTE YOU!!

This poem is dedicated to all strong, great and mighty men who stand tall (nothing to do with height:-) but your presence), yet hold your place in society as stalwarts in the hearts of your family and friends and everyone you have come in contact with.

You Are My Brother, You Are My Father
You Are My Lover And My Teacher
You Are Appreciated, You Are Loved
You Take Care Of Me, I feel So Loved

I Respect Your Fortitude And Your Power
Cause You Hold The Key To My Tower
You Please Me With Your Attitude
And This I Owe You My Gratitude

When I'm In Your Arms, I Feel No Pain
When I'm With You, My Feelings I Can't Contain
Only You Have The Power To Silence My Desire
And Make Me Surrender And Light My Fire

So Many Times You've Been Beaten Down
By The Others Who Couldn't Hold Your Crown
Because They Gave You A Bad Name
And Made You Hold Your Head In Shame

I Am Your Shadow, You Are My King
Though I Don't Worship You
You're The Man Of My Dreams
You Gave Me A Ring And Made Me Your Queen

So Today And Always I Will Hail You
I Am Praising All You Great Men
You Are Appreciated, You Are Like Gems
I Hail You, I Respect Your Presence

You Empower Me, You Protect Me
With Your Presence, Your Existence
You Are God's Gift To Every Woman
God Knew What He Did When He Made Man

Written by DC Perez Copyrighted 2009/10/06 All rights reserved

YOUR DREAM....Are your kids living your dream or theirs?

I've seen so many kids trying to emulate their parents. Is it because it's the wishes of the parents, or is it the career/field of interest they have personally chosen themselves.

So many unfulfilled dreams we have had of our own probably because our parent could not have afforded us and now we are trying to push it over to our kids as though they can fulfill our dream. What a very selfish thought.

Have you thought of what the kid thinks, although sometimes kids are very confused in decision making? I am not saying you should not encourage your kids to strive for 'excellence' but you must remember that kids have a mind of their own and personality.

You are there to guide them and mold them, however their decisions for life lies with them. You must listen and guide them, there are going to be choices and careers they may choose that you may or do not like but most importantly, it's what make them feel fulfilled.

For instance, I love music very much, like I breathe it daily hence I bought myself a keyboard and guitar with the intention that I expected my son to be interested in it also, though I believe it's a anti-dote for aggressive behaviour, as it may relax him as he is a very hyper child.

However the kid was not interested in either, his preference was the drums. I wanted him to learn the guitar and keyboard to help him relax but it seem he preferred to beat his aggression out of him with the drums. :-))

I say all this to say, though I wanted these things for him, it's not what 'tickles' him. I leave the options open for him, his advantage is that he has choices. I am here to help guide him and encourage him in whatever field he feels comfortable in career-wise or for leisure.

My parents nurtured and guided me to adulthood but in the end I became and steered after a career and path I liked and chose, what made me happy. They are not disappointed in me and even if they were, I would have to tell them sorry because that's the career that I like. Most parents encourage their kids to become lawyers or doctors or the like but everyone care not to follow these careers. The important thing is appreciating your kid's choice of career. I don't want to be blamed by someone for not following their dream and turning them into an 'unfulfilled' person.

The breaking news is that the field that our kids may choose, we sometimes turn up our noses at because we may not see them as top careers but as long as they are happy in that field. If they are, then that's all that matters. As long as it is not anything negative, I am going to stand by him and help him reach the heights of his heart's desire. Not my desire.

Written by Donique C Perez Copyrighted 2009/10/08 All rights reserved

LEARN TO WALK AWAY

So he/she has been cheating on you and you stick around, saw all the evidences and turned a blind eye like as though life goes on.

She/he goes out with her/his friends and you probably don't like his/her social setting and maybe, just maybe he/she is attracted to someone in that circle and eventually a relationship is pursued, probably for fun but you got trapped. Or you hear her/his phone rings one too many times and nervously answers, "Wrong number":-), or he/she boldly answers and chats the caller on the phone with no consideration for your feelings and it goes on and on with the reasons why relationships run into trouble.

Probably quarrels happens frequently in the home for 'unknown' reason, sometimes so that you can leave the home (excuse) to be with that person, the 'cheatee' and continue your rendezvous.. Those kind of relationships do not have real substance in it and it's mostly on a physical/sexual level. How can you be happy when you are dodging to avoid being caught? Why would you chose to remain in such a relationship, such belittling of yourself and self-esteem?

Come on lady/mister you deserve so much better. You deserve to be happy, much happier. If you are not happy why should you and why do you stay?

I recently read of an incident regarding a couple who had split because of cheating. One of the parties went on with their life and started another relationship. The former partner was not happy about that other relationship and stalked her and injured her. What a pity.

We must learn to walk away from toxic relationship. Remaining in it longer is putting yourself at risk as bitterness, anger and probably fights whether physical or verbal can occur and that can get pretty nasty. I have zero tolerance for violence or abuse of any kind.

We are simply here to compliment each other, we don't possess each other. When relationships do not work out, look at it in a positive way. Maybe something/one better is in store for you; just maybe. Who knows? You won't know until you let go off your past and turn a new page.

You don't need to threaten, stalk or belittle each other like some do after break ups. Be man or woman enough to concede. Know your worth and know when it is time to walk away and move on.

Why Did You Lie To Me
Thought I'd Never Find Out About Your Trickery
You Hang Around Like You Care
But I Can Tell You Want To Be Elsewhere

If You're Not Happy With Me Don't Play Me For A Fool
Your Cheating Has Me Feeling So Uncool
With All Your Rantings And Your Ravings
And Your Uncontrollable Cravings

You Flirt Around So Publicly For Everyone To See
Why Don't You Leave Me Alone And Set Me Free
Stop Pretending That You Are In Love With Me
I Can Tell By Your Actions That There Ain't No 'We'

I'll Tell You What, I Am Leaving
I Won't Take Anymore Of Your Cheating
You Are A Big Shame And Disgrace, You Are A Flirt
I'm Leaving You, You Ain't My Worth

Written by DC Perez Copyrighted 2009/09/28 All rights reserved

MAKING A FRESH START

This is for all the sistas who get mistreated by a brotha, probably he thinks your time has ran out, you've become 'extinct' and had used you for his purpose until a fresher prey comes along or have decided to leave you after years of commitment and settle down with another. I am being mindful, that some women do some really awful things to guys also. Some do it out of spite; the 'Peter will pay for Paul' mentality or simply because they may be cold-hearted.

I wrote this because this is real life situations that happen everyday to women who have to literally start all over sometimes without the financial help from deadbeat fathers.

Kudos to all the great fathers who find it important to keep a family together despite all the temptations out there. Whether they stayed or not, most importantly is that they remained part of their kids lives.

Your kids need you, don't get caught up in your misguided sexual emotions; your biggest weakness, and desert your kids. A woman can leave you in a blink but your kids are your kids, your blood. Women, I beg you, don't spite a strayed guy by keeping his kids away from him, don't let the kids pay by not allowing them to see their dads. Kids suffer because of all your foolishness and selfishness. That's emotionally draining and unstable for kids.

Don't get caught in self-pity. No one is worth fighting for, none; whether man or woman.

Know your worth.

Thrive on, it is not the end of the world.

"The silence of a woman's tongue is more piercing than the words of a bitter and hurt woman"...Dc Perez

Why Did You Run Out On A Sista
Yes The One Who Bore Your Babies For Ya
You Cheated On Her, You Beat On Her
And Discard Of Her Like She Was Litter
You Left Her With All Your Kids Crying And Never Looked Back
While She Stuck Around And Took Up All Your Slack
Respect The Lady Who Has Your Back

You Continued On Your Trail Of Deception
With Little and No Intimidation
On To The Next Unsuspecting Sista
Who Thinks You Are A Thriller
But What She Doesn't Know Is That You Are A Traitor
A Bad Reflector Of All The Good Men
Which Get Blame All Because Of A Few Of Your Men
Though Created By The Involvement And Temptation Of These Women
Who Had Incarcerated Your Notorious Mind
But Guys Like Your Kind Will Get Left Behind
Standing In Line, Probably Paying A Fine

You See The Cycle You Continue And That Has You Subdued
Is Part Of Your Mentality And Trap Guys Like You
Your Distorted View Of Your Unflattering Leanings
Probably Came From Your Terrible Upbringing
Your Influences And Your Stinking Mindset
That You See Women As Your Toys And Pet
And You Can Do With Them What Suit You Best
Well I Got News For You Cause A Self-Confident Sista
Won't Settle For That Kind Of Brotha,
She Would Not Settle For Your Crap
While You Mind Is Caught In That Warp

You See I Won't Give You Another Chance
Not Even To Romance Me, My Body
Because I Am Worth More Than What's In Your Pants
So From Today I'll Take A Stance
You Will No Longer Be Part Of My Life,
I Won't Be Caught Up In Your Strife
Cause Your Love Cuts My Heart Like A Piercing Knife
Way Down Deep In My Heart And Soul,
I No Longer Love You, My Love For You Has Ran Cold

You Believe You Are My Joy And Steam
You're A Killer To My Joy, My Self-Esteem
I Am Suppose To Be And Feel Like Your Queen
Instead You Treated Me So Evil And Mean
But I Will Get Better, I'm Going To Strive Harder
To Be The Woman I've Always Been And Carried Inside
Not The One Whom You Chose To Hide
I Will Embrace The Woman That Makes Me Shine
I Am Leaving You Now And My Past Behind
I Will No Longer Be Your Tool, You're No Longer My Kind

Written by Dc Perez Copyrighted 2009/09/26 All the rights reserved

BE KIND TO ONE ANOTHER

How often you have helped someone who needed directions, probably lost their way and you were willing to help them by taking them all the way to their destination if not take time out to show them the way. Maybe you said it in words, showed in in deed or simply smiled and made someone’s day, yes there is kindness in a smile.

I must say I’ve met some really kind and nice people so far on my journey. Don’t let the unkind ones outweigh the kind ones. When you find a very kind one, it makes up 100 folds more for the unkind ones.Yes one kind act could wipe away all the unkind acts that were done to you, if you are not the type who holds on to bitterness.

I remember getting on a flight many years ago to conduct business in a particular country for the very first time and I met this kind middle-aged gentleman on a connecting flight with whom I had a conversation with me on the aircraft as he was seated next to me, and during that conversation he asked me where I was going, which I told him, when we got of the aircraft his son and daughter was awaiting him at the airport as he was a national of that country, co-incidentally ( there’s no co-incidence, nothing just happen:-o) I was going in his direction.

Although I’d never been to that country before, he requested that he took me straight to the business place I had to conduct business with and patiently waited for me. He actually booked me a room at the hotel and he called to make sure I was alright everyday, and even wanted to pay for the room, which I refused as I had already did. He also suggested that he took me back to the airport after I concluded my business which he did. As though he was a relative looking after me to make sure I was safe always.

All those moments in the back of my head I was wondering if he had ulterior motives as all women with intuition would feel, but he surprised me with his “gentlemanly’ attitude; What a gentleman! The average man would have seen me as ‘prey’. I kept in touch with him throughout the years like a father and daughter would.

I was perplexed by the whole episode, a complete stranger took me under his wings like a daughter and protected me from the beginning of my journey to my departure. What a gentleman he was. He felt like an angel in disguise and that’s exactly how I saw him. Not everyone can boast of an experience like that as most people has ulterior motives. All I can reminisce of is his kindness and goodness from a complete stranger; an angel. May God bless him always.

There are still many kind people around. The problem is we take their kindness for granted and some who see themselves as being used, become bitter and stone-hearted towards others. Treat everyone as who they are, not based on bad experiences with someone else. Don’t let Peter pay for Paul simply because of some bad experiences in the past. Learn from your experience and grow from it. Be kind to one another.

A Little Bit Of Kindness Goes A Long, Long Way
It Would Not Hurt But Brighten Someone’s Day
Why Can’t You Help A Hurt And Fallen Brother
Help Him To Rise Again, Please Don’t Leave Him To Falter
We Should Always Be Kind And Loving To One Another
Our Kind Words, Deeds And Thoughts Will Repay Us Later
Be Pleasing And Helpful In Everything You Do
Because Kindness Has A Way Of Returning Back To You

Written by Dc Perez Copyrighted 2009/09/24 All rights reserved

OUR TRUTHS……Our lives based on rules and philosophy

Do you live your life based on books, rules, philosophies or your life’s lessons/teachings? I am not saying that the contents of a book which may be inspiring can not be followed but many people can’t survive without advice or base their lives on being spoon-fed with knowledge but knowledge sometimes come from experiences and it’s waiting to be reveal only if you listen to that still voice within you, the voice of wisdom.

Your greatest teacher is your life experiences which include everyone you came in contact with.
There are some people who are ’set’ in their ways and know no other way to live than the one they were spoon-fed from childhood, the inbred and ingrown way. They shut their minds to anything else that what they were taught and to reasoning and be caught up in their own world, their reality or illusion.

You possess most of the info to take you through life by all these experiences, some were taught and they were meant for you as food for thoughts to guide you on your journey, but do we seek it by going inward and searching ourselves? Our answers silently awaits us in the core of our being. However, there is a new lesson to be learnt everyday.

I remembered every time a friend and I had a discussion, the thought of ‘I read in a book that’… comes from his mouth and it goes on and on and an argument ensues because the conversation was based on someone’s philosophy that was spoon fed into his mentality. Not that I dismissed the teachings in a book but I wanted to hear from that person, their personal opinion, their personal view and understanding.

You can change a situation if you want to, it’s a mindset. You don’t need to always follow a rule of thumb. It means everything we were taught and learned can be unlearned. It’s sometimes our brain-drain/washed attitude that keeps us stagnant.

I am of the opinion that we all should leave our baggage behind in entering others lives, and to him that was/is impossible, I assume he wanted the best of both worlds. His response was how do you do that as it was impossible to him.

He entered every partner’s life without closing the door of his former episode in his life, only to continue his trail. He couldn’t understand the importance of closing doors, leaving baggage behind, as he always revert to his past experiences when things went unstable for him. Phisssh!!

He never gave his new partner a fair chance hence the relationship never lasted as he carried all his untamed and unresolved emotions into another relationship. Both sexes are guilty of it, a grave mistake.

Leaving your past behind, doesn’t mean shutting off everyone or circumstances that were part of your life but letting go off a chapter in your life to move on to another chapter, even though that chapter was a determining factor in getting to this point at where you are at now. You must break free and see them as lessons learned. Let go off the things that will put a damper on your life and relationship after weighing all the consequences.

As you will realize, you’ll meet lots of people on your journey in life; some will leave beautiful memories, others won’t but you must move on. The trouble is, many remain stuck in the past; their hurts and even the good memories that may even stagnate their lives because those good memories linger, though it was meant to be part of the experience but it hampers and stagnates you from moving on as you dwell on the past.

How does one leave their baggage behind? I believe to make a clean start one has to. You don’t get amnesia but you learn to let go because on entering others lives with your illusive memories, you may be jeopardizing your relationship with another probably comparing them to someone else, which is unfair as everyone brings a different flavor to the table. The moment you have a misunderstanding you resort to the former relationship though it’s ended, get over it.

I am the type who believe in seeking the ultimate truth, always. No longer am I being spoon-fed information how it was passed down from generation to generation and that cycle continues with the brain draining and then we continue to teach our kids the same, the only difference now is that kids do not simply swallow what you teach them, they’ll dare and challenge you.

I can write you a book of information on how to be positive, you can follow or you can sift through what is being taught to you, it means that what I feed to you as knowledge must be tried and tested to be gospel and ultimate truth for you. I try to be open-mined at all times which is literally leaving doors open to learn something new and listen to others point of view even if it doesn’t match mine.

I believe that we are guided by rules and philosophies of and through life, and hence we believe there is a rule of thumb of ‘how to’ do things or we will fail, not saying you shouldn’t abide by rules. What may have worked for me, may not work for you even though it is my ideal way.

What are your inspiration, your niche, your aspirations, who/what influences you? You should be your biggest inspiration; not saying no one shouldn’t inspire you but be your biggest inspiration and motivator. Have you found your purpose through your life story and not through a book. I can continue to inspire and encourage you but you must find your way in life on your own, by finding your purpose.

Most of us live our lives based on rules and philosophy, which becomes our truth. Is it really the truth, the ultimate truth? Is it your truth and does it work for you? What if your and my truth is really an illusion, something we created in our minds. This is another topic to get into in another note.

I chose to survive in my truths, if it works for me positively.

I Look through life with a golden view all the time.

Written by Dc Perez Copyrighted 2009/09/23. All rights reserved

REDEEM YOURSELF….....with these ten letters; I APOLOGIZE

Finding it hard to apologize probably you are hard to forgive as well? Apologizing is forgiving yourself and forgiving others. Redeem yourself, remove that heavy cloud over your head and life.

When you find yourself in situations that may have created havoc in others lives even though it was not intentional, be the first to apologize. It curbs bitterness and hostility and it can be corrected with these ten letters; I APOLOGIZE.

You see, I don’t have no pride when it comes to apologizing and forgiving. I’ve learned to forgive others long before they have forgiven themselves. It’s a beautiful feeling, a redeemed feeling, the forgiving feeling. I can now moved on as my spirit is now soaring and no longer is stifled. A joyful feeling.

I’ve watched people who simply can’t accept an apology because their hearts are already closed to that person and what they have done to them. In my opinion, it doesn’t matter if someone did not forgive me for my wrongs done to them, as long as I forgive myself and ask for their forgiveness, that is all that matters because my heart is no longer tormented anymore. They would be the one carrying that tormented, bitter spirit. What a pity! I would have redeemed myself by apologizing to them from my heart. You redeem yourself every time you apologize.

These words are healing, when it’s meant in-depth and from your heart because some can say they apologize and not mean it but says it to appease another. It’s the easiest words for some who genuinely and not so genuinely means it. A cop-out for some.

So many times we have hurt someone to the core of their heart and souls and have never express remorse about what was done and that person has died with a heavy heart because even that person never learned to forgive, apologize and move on. What a heavy spirit to leave this world with.

To me, apologizing is a s easy as ABC when you have an open heart, love unconditional, carry that inner peace, and possess a compassionate spirit, its not a hard thing to say. You apologize even if the other doesn’t forgive you, it’s important to let go off all tormenting feelings and move on.

I write this note because I know what apologizing did for me, it set my mind/spirit free and so did the spirit of another.

There is so much to apologize for. Free your mind and make a change and difference today in someone’s life, starting with yourself first.

However, I make no apology for writing this note to make you change your mind about something you’ve been carrying in your heart against someone or something offending that you did to someone for a long time. Apologize to them now:-))

Redeem yourself. Set your mind free.

I love you always. Hugs

Written by Dc Perez Copyrighted 2009/09/19

ALL IS NOT LOST…Find the strength to carry on when others ‘fail’ you

Have you ever been hurt or wounded deeply by a close friend, family, partner, lover or spouse? You dwell on it so long that you actually lost weight, your desire to eat, to socialize or even love yourself. You believe you have lost a good friend and they have walked out of your life and you can’t go on. You are so absorb into that disappointed feeling, blaming yourself and probably hating yourself and the person as well and even the ones who has nothing to do with those ill feelings you are feeling.

I believe that people really do come into your life for a purpose, nothing just happens. they are and were meant to be part of your life and existence here on earth. Everyone is purposeful in your life, even if they ‘wrecked’ your life.

The point I am getting at is, it may or may not be your fault that that friendship has ended, it simply had to end whether it was something you did or didn’t do. The life span of that friendship has expired, two ships passing in the night kinda feeling, you met them on your journey in life, and as you’ve realize when someone dies, you don’t die with them. They enter this world alone and leave alone, be grateful for the privilege to share their lives which help you grow and taught you the lessons meant only for your trip here and the purpose of that friendship.

Don’t believe it’s the end of the world, the next person you meet after that person ‘departs’ from your life is also coming to your life to teach you another lesson. Sometimes we are going to be taught a lesson over and over until we get it right. These are the ones who do things the same way over and over and they do not learn nor grow from it, sometimes it is being taught to them until they get it right or sometimes that lesson becomes extinct and the person perishes in the process, end of the lesson.

Don’t dwell on hurts too long, they are important lessons and see them as only that. Sometimes you may exclaim, why did I let this person into my life, they’ve wrecked your life? Think back to the time you first met that person what joy they brought you but your joy was temporary this is just a reminder to you that your joy lives within you and not dependent on anyone.

You must learn and discipline yourself and your mind that you don’t make the minds of others, they can change their minds at anytime when least expected without notice. Your reaction is that of pain, hurt and disappointment and it’s ok to feel that way because we are emotional beings. However, I see them as lessons, valid lessons.

I remember I was going through some trying times in my life sometime ago and a friend who I believed in (another mistake to do) believe in yourself not place your belief in others, remember you are not in control of another person’s mind; that person was not within my reach, to reach me where I was at in that trying moment in my life; not a word of comfort, not a ‘it’ll be ok’, I simply wanted to vent, to talk out my feelings at that moment and I said to myself and reminded myself that I can really do this game of life by myself because I had learned to do it all by myself in my solitude so many times before they entered my life. Some will break while others will look at it positively. I stop believing that my problems can be solve by others and found my answers lying within me. People are in your life to enhance your life not to control your life, your life is your responsibility.

I am not saying you don’t need anyone to be there for you to guide you through but there will be times when your world comes crashing down on you and you can’t find anyone to light a candle for you until you see your way and make it around the bend and up the hill. Remember that before you met them they were physically non-existent and you got to tarry on whether they slip in or out of your life.

We need each other, we compliment each other but when there is no one to be there for you in ways you’d like them to be you must find the strength within yourself to tarry on. In the midst of that journey you are being taught a lesson but most tend to dwell on the negative feeling from that episode in their life and it overshadows the intended purpose of that person in their life. Lesson, lesson, lessons! main purpose.

All is not lost. Find the strength to carry on when others fail you or wound your heart deeply, they haven’t really failed you, it’s simply a test of your strength in enduring a test being place before you. It seriously teaches you that we all have our own burdens to bear, others come into our lives to assist and ease some of that burden. Some may say that some people add to their burdens but we must carry our own crosses, our lives are our sole responsibility, it’s how well we travel that journey that makes us complete the journey.

The fact that you took your time to read this means I’m part of your journey. I hope I have been and can be a blessing in your life. You are gong to met many more others on your journey who will propel you unto better things. Don’t worry. Don’t be afraid of the negatives ones, they are also there as part of your journey to encourage you to triumph over them. The perfect lesson.

So DON’T KEEP BLAMING YOURSELF FOR YOUR DISAPPOINTMENTS IN LIFE AND LIVE IN SELF-PITY. SIMPLY TARRY ON, TURN THE PAGE AND READ ON. More lessons to come.
Happy journeying
I love you.

Written by Dc Perez Copyrighted 2009/09/18. All rights reserved.

DON’T MISTAKE ME FOR YOUR DELICACY…Game Done!

There are some guys who see an unsuspecting and sometimes insecure and vulnerable female as their intended target for’ fair’ game, chances are she may turn it around on him.

I must say this poem can swing either way, both male and female but more so female as they are more affected.

Some women also prey on some ‘nice men’ vulnerabilities; weakness, sweetness whether for financial gains or simply because they see them as someone to ‘use and discard’ when they’ve had their fills. So I’m going to keep it real here…

Don’t Mistake My Subtlety For Your Delicacy
I’m Not A Sista Who Will Play Your Silly Game Of Trivia
You See, I’d Been Led And Been Fed
No Longer Will I Be Caught In A Web
This Web Of Your Triviality
Cause I’m In Tune With My Sexuality And Sensuality
And Know My Intuitiveness Is Too Powerful For Your Frivolity

Don’t Think Of Playing Me For A Fool
Cause You’d Be Left Holding Your Tool
Only Fools Play On Their Insecurities
And Get Blinded By Their Curiosity
To Be Trapped In Their World Of Mediocrity
I Can Sense From A Million Miles Your Ingenuity

So I Beg You, Don’t Get Caught
Because You Will Be Setting Your Own Trap
Don’t Ever Believe You Have Got Me Trapped
Cause I Ain’t Gonna Be Your Prey
Not In Your Fantasy Not Even For Just One Day
Thought You Can Prey On My Vulnerabilities And Insecurities
Well Honey I Ain’t Got Nothing To Be Insecure About

You See I’m Way Ahead Of Your Game
Cause I’d Been Played This Game Before
By Some Fool Who Didn’t Understand The Rule
The Rule That If You Played This Game Wrong
You’d Be Defeated By A Sista Who Is Strong
In Intellect, Intuition And Knows Her Position
Graced With Beauty, Passion And Wisdom

I Am Not Meaning To Belittle Your Manhood
But To Make Sure That I’m Not Misunderstood
And Mistaken For Your Playground For Your Misguided Notions
In Which You Have Created This Inevitable Commotion
So The Game You Intending To Play On Me
Sure Will Backfire On You, You See

So Brotha, Don’t Be Mistaken By This Sista’s Subtlety
Don’t Mistake It For Frivolity
Cause I’m Always Ahead Of Your Game
Bow Out Now And Step Out Of My Lane
Or Your Reward Will Be In The Hall Of Shame
You’re An Impostor, Trying To Fool a Sista

I Ain’t Nobody’s Toy And Fool
Go Away And Take With You, Your Tool
You Thought Your Tool Was Cool, Well It ain’t That Cool
And Had The Power To Devour My Desire
I Know My Worth And I’m Priceless
I Guess I Have Now Left You Clueless
Your Silly Game You’ll Never Win With Me
Cause You Set A Trap And Instead You Got Caught
I’m Too Way Ahead Of Your Game And Fun
Way, Way Ahead Of Your Game. Game Done!

Written by Dc Perez Copyrighted ©2009/09/15

POOR VISION......…Excellent eyesight

Are you looking and seeing life as it appears before you; maybe an illusion you created which became your reality? Many possess excellent eyesight but few have great vision that enables them to stare the world in its eyes and see beyond their illusion.

APPRECIATING THE BEAUTY AND PURPOSE OF EVERYTHING

I am inspired to write this poem as my son was disgruntled because he wanted to go outside and play but the rain started falling and to his dismay he exclaimed, ‘Look how the rain has messed up my day!'

The short poem is my response to him. He knows me so well, the moment I start forming rhyme to what he just said to me. He immediately said to me, ‘Mummy, why not make this into a poem? So this poem is candidly put together by both my son, Enrique and I.

LIFE IS AN INSPIRATION. EVERYTHING IS AN INSPIRATION, IT DEPENDS ON HOW YOU LOOK AT LIFE.

The Rain Falls For Whoever Needs It
With Every Drop It Echoes,
Here I Am For Whoever Needs Me
The Sun Shines For Whoever Needs It
With Every Ray That Shines It Says
Here I Am For Who Ever Needs Me

From The lips of The Disgruntled, He Whispers
The Rain Has Fallen And Messed Up My Day
While To Another He Sees It In A Positive Way
The Sun Shines With Such Scorching Rays
To Another He’s Glad His Work Won’t Be Delayed

So You See A Curse To You May Be A Blessing To Another
Appreciate All Of Earth’s Greatest Wonders
Simply Be Thankful For The Moon, The Stars, The Rain And Sun
Because They All Play A Part For Everyone

Laugh, Play, Smile; In The Rain, The Moon, The Stars And The Sun
A Lifetime Of Fun Has Just Begun

Written by Dc Perez & Miguel Enrique ©2009/09/12

SOUL EMBRACE

I remembered telling a guy who was very interested in me romantically; whether it was lust or love, I couldn’t tell as I never pursued the relationship. We both laughed when I said to him, the guy who falls in love with me, has to be tested and I used the line,” Are you feeling my soul, or are you sensing my soul?” I told him I needed to feel the same, was I feeling his soul?

It wasn’t about surface lustful feelings, it was about love beyond the surface, are you feeling my soul?…:-))

Love goes beyond loving in the physical, can you feel me here? I do believe, it’s way down to the soul…

When you find that someone who feels your soul like you do theirs; your vibration, aura, grab them gently and absorb them, it might be that once in a lifetime you get that chance to experience that.

Don’t you ever longed to have that experience and to be loved beyond the physical or intimately? ‘Soulistic’ love is blissful, it’s certainly inexplicable and only you can tell when you meet that someone that explore and fits comfortable in unison with your soul, way past the physical presence that you see with the eyes.

Are you feeling my soul, can you feel my soul?

Hence the reason for this poem.

You enshrine me
You embrace me
You define me
You envelop me
Am I feeling your soul?

You are my wings
I am your wind
You help me to rise
Your presence has me hypnotized
I am feeling your soul

Your serenity astounds me
You are my refuge, my comfort
I feel you, I welcome you
I get lost in you, your vibration
I am feeling your soul

Your aura encircles me
From the core of your essence
To the stillness of your presence
I am fully absorbed into you
I am feeling your soul

The purity of your soul
Speaks to me so echoing yet gentle
Way down into the depth of my being
I look at you and I’m speechless
I am feeling your soul

No words, no breath, no air
Just your stillness of your being
Our souls speaking to each other
In an unknown and inexplicable language
I am feeling your soul

Are you sensing me?
Are you feeling me?
I am feeling you
I am feeling your soul
The purity of your soul

Written by Dc Perez Copyrighted © 2009/07/22

Oh yes and this is on wax, in the process of making my album:-)

Shhh!!…BE SILENT AND LISTEN

Are You Listening With Your Ear Only? Be Silent And Listen To The Echoes Of Your Inner Voice; Your Inner Guide….Your Wisdom

LEAVE YOUR GARBAGE AT THE DUMP…..Where it should be

Anyone who’s thinking of making a fresh new start, I beg you to leave all your dirty linens, baggage at the dump, don’t even think of bringing it near the door of the ‘entrance to the new home’ in your life and heart.

You see, I’ve heard so many said they have made a new start, new life and still hang to the remnants of their past episodes in their lives, making it a continued series and their past continues to ruin their present life and relationships with others.

Are you putting one foot through that new door and still leaving the other one on the outside, is it fear or you don’t trust yourself? Some may say that they trust no one, oh what a sad way to live. Yes there are ‘gremlins’ out there waiting to use and devour you, nothing is wrong with having a little air of caution about you but if one base their present life on their past experiences they’ll get no where as you’d be stuck in the past with all your fears; your ‘if I only knew.

‘If I only knew’, was meant to be a lesson even though it was a cruel and harsh lesson. I’ve had my share of disappointments but I’ve decided to make an appointment instead with my destiny. I don’t cry over spilled milk instead I wipe it off, clean that ‘table’ or ‘floor’ of my life so that I don’t slip and fall over that spill, walk over that part where the milk was spilled but now dried. And move on. Do you get my drift?:-))

Learn to close doors in your life instead of hanging on to the knobs, let it go, slam that door and push open the other one. Don’t look back; look back to only pleasant memories and if you can smile at a lesson. Stop feeling sorry for yourself. The journey won’t end until your last breath, and should you encounter challenges don’t become despondent, learn from these challenges/lessons and move on.

That’s what I do, I do have my unhappy moments, but I challenge them every time. Those moments will not win and don’t last forever. Don’t let them win. Happiness is a state of mind.

I am happy despite my challenges. I am at peace with myself. The world will always have its echoes of confusions but singularly one must find their inner peace in the midst of it and thrive on or you’d be devoured by it.

Learn to be happy with yourself before sharing yourself with anyone. That’s important or you’d see life and people through the negative eyes you are enveloped in. Don’t step into people’s lives with all your garbage you’d only stagnate their life. Even if they are a good person, you’d find everything wrong with them, masking everything wrong with you and place that insecurities unto that person without realizing you’re doing so.

Love yourself, so you can love others unconditionally. Hugs.

Why Do You Walk Through My Door
With All Your Baggage Lying On The Floor
I Say Clean It Up And Put It At The Dump
Don’t Carry With You All Your Life’s Thumps And Bumps

You Want To Make A New Start In Life
I Beg You Let Go Off All Your Past And Strife
I Don’t Need Your Crowded Space And Past
I Only Need To Make A Fresh New Start

If You’re Planning To Crowd Me In
I Suggest You Search Yourself Deep Within
Let Go Of All Your Folly And Misconceptions
And Face Life Head On Without Retrogression

Your Happiness In Life Depends On Your Now
You Made It Through Your Past Somehow
Place Your Confidence In Your Now And Today
Forget What Others Did Or What They Would Say

I Don’t Need Your Insecurities
Cause in your Hands You Hold The keys
The Keys To A bright And Promising Future
If You’d Only Stop Being Bitter

All You Need Is A Clean Slate To Write On
Not Your Past Which Keeps You Stagnant
Close Those Cracked And Broken Down Doors
And Move On To Face Your Brighter Tomorrows

~ Leave You Garbage At The Dump ~

Written by Dc Perez copyrighted 2009/09/10

THE TORMENTED MIND

Sometimes we think that kids are not affected by what happens in their homes; be it parents or someone living in a home with them who is being abused or taken advantaged of. The poor little kids find it so helpless to voice their opinion or they'd be beaten/abused as well.

The truth is though there are laws to protect kids from such horrible parents, sadly there are a good many countries who don't effectively put these law into full action and there are people who still abuse kids DAILY and though it may not be physical abuse done to these kids.

Verbal abuse is as stinging as physical abuse and affect them mentally, emotionally and psychologically. Sometimes leaving them psychologically scarred for life. What a cross to bear!

With every beating they see someone 'put' on someone close to their hearts, they feel it as well. Oh, and those poisonous words you shout and yell, echo and run deep, really deep.

Most importantly, what most kids grow up with in the confines of their home, surrounding and community mould their mind into their future. Be careful what you say, do or act around these young minds; their minds are like sponges and absorb easily, or you'd be the one trying to squeeze out the 'sponge' while it's too late creating an overflow for others and yourself to deal with later on.

Mummy Please Stop The Screaming
Oh Daddy Please Stop The Beating!
I Can Not Take This Torment Anymore
In My Mind This Is Torturing And Leaves A Sore

Why Did You Brought Me To This World
A World Of Bitterness And So Cold
Everyday I Am Bombarded By Your Noise
Instead Of Peacefully Playing With My Toys

I Need Some Peaceful Sleep And Rest
Why Do You Put Me Through This Mess
I Am Caught Up In Your Stress And Hate
Someone Help Me Before It's Too Late

Daddy Why Do You Beat My Mommy?
Mummy Why Do You Take This So Easily?
I Am A Victim Of Your Confusions
Waiting To Be Rescued From The Situation

Things Are So Bad And Uncontrollable At My Home
That My Other Siblings Leave The Home And Roam
My Parents Are Tormenting Me So Terribly
That I Sometimes Wish I Had A Different Family

Someone Help Me, Please Help Me Now
I Need To Get Out Of This Disaster Somehow
My Parents Are Messing Up My Future Life
When They Continue With Their Daily Strife

Written by Dc Perez Copyrighted 2009/08/26

PRAYER FOR DISTRESS.....Holding the baton for someone who's down

Or simply keeping their candle lit until they make it back on their feet. Today, I whisper a pray for all troubled persons in their spirits whether anxious, sadness, grief or daily hardship. To those who are sick and alert, speak healing into your bodies daily.

O Most Powerful God, Giver of life. You made us all with our distinct personalities and tolerance and You will not give to us more burdens than we can't bear.

I pray for those who are overstressed with burdens; I pray that they will hang on and believe that this moment shall pass, it's only a test and they will persevere and hold on and a light will be released into their darkness.

I say a special pray for the very sick in bodies; I pray for their healing. Breathe health into their sick bodies again and let them be returned whole to their loved one. I pray for guidance for these skilled doctors and nurses to take care of the sick patients they are in charge of, with Your annointing...Amen.

THOUGHT FOR TODAY…

“Don’t depend on anyone to make you happy; when you do, you give that person power over your joy. The moment they take it away from you, you become hopeless. Find the joy within you and give yourself that power. Let no one determine your destiny in life except God. Listen only to people who will guide and propel you to greater & positive things. Believe in yourself. You are worthy”………..Dc Perez

STOP JUDGING

Are you guilty of judging others; do you judge others on their looks and appearance, do you ever at first glimpse without someone opening their mouths and hearts to speak, judge them on the very first sighting and impression?

A lot of us are very guilty of that, so many times we may see someone not dressed in the 'norm' or has a peculiar way about them and you avoid them because they look queer and strange, yet when they are given a chance to express themselves you see a different person on the inside, compared to the exterior appearance.

Before you judge someone's appearance, think of what it will feel like if it were you. We are all different and unique yet special and important

Stop judging others on appearance; there are more to people than what meets the eyes. Does your friends help you grow holistically or are they impressionable friends who make you feel good for the moment? Surround yourself with people who can help you grow holistically, choose friends that will push you on when you fall. Rid yourself of toxic people who stagnate your life. Form meaningful friendships.

Don't Judge Me On My Simple Looks
Or The Roads In Life I Walked And Took
Don't Judge Me By The Shoes I Wear
You Know Not Of The Cross I Bear

Or If My Clothes Have Wear And Tear
Symbol Of My Trials Through The Years
Don't Judge Me On The Job I Do
For It Helps Me To Pay My Dues

Don't Judge Me On The Color Of My Skin
Search My Soul, You'll Find A Gem Within
Who Are You To Judge Me By My Appearance
We All Have Our Faults And Imperfections

I Am More Than What Meets The Eye
My Goals And Aspirations Rise Above The Sky
I Am Priceless I Am Victorious, I Am Humble
I Am Flexible, My Spirit Is Unyielding Yet Gentle

Judge Me On The Contents Of My Heart Insde
In There I Place My Emphasis And Pride
Before You Judge Me Check Yourself Carefully
You'd Sure Realize You're No Better Than Me

I Am Determine To Rise Every Time I Fall
I Will Not Be Defeated, I Will Stand Tall
Your Words And Action Do Not Discourage Me
I Strive On And Be The Best That I Can Be

Written by Dc Perez Copyrighted 2009/08/14

TAKE A SHORT BREAK AND RELAX ....In the midst of your confusions

Laughter is a part of my life. No need to take life so serious, everyday you live you will encounter temporary setbacks (obstacles) in life, NO NEED TO KEEP KNOCKING YOUR HEAD AGAINST A WALL. Learn to accept the things you cannot change, change those you can and the rest you can't, ask God to handle them for you, leave it alone.

We must stop sometimes in between our daily chores and busy schedules and relax and have a good 'bellyful' laugh, mind you never on the expense of others, unless they are paying for you to see a comedy:-)) and even so, it's ok to laugh at yourself sometimes, and probably at others as long as the person can take the joke and has a sense of humor and not too tight-lipped:-))

I learned to relax, breathe and laugh in the midst of my confusions; no one even realizes that I am walking a daily rugged path because I refuse to drown myself in self pity and simply smile and walk on, walking on with hope in my heart, no one knows I am walking a daily path being tested with patience, tolerance yet flavored with special spices of unconditional love taking care of my mum who has Alzheimer.

Friends it's not an easy journey but I must walk that journey with her, I try hard to keep her smiling and in so doing, I am smiling myself. Try and learn as much as you can about this disease because it never warns you and progresses as the years go by..

So you see when I come here daily to write, it doesn't mean I am a perfectly happy lady; I go through probably similar situations like many of you do, but I've conditioned my mind to deal with it so that it won't swallow me. I chose to remain positive in the midst of it believing that this too shall pass. It's my test I must endure.

I find it necessary to encourage others despite my own trials because there are always people who are facing situations and don't know how to deal with their situation, but I assume a simple few words of encouragement can go a long way and in so doing I hope it touches and heals some broken person who needs to hear a little whisper of hope and I'll do it as long as I know how to and as long as I get up everyday with life in my body. AMEN!.

In encouraging you, I am also encouraging myself, my journey is not an easy one at this very moment but being positive in the midst of it despite, makes it so much easier for me.

I don't go to sleep with a heavy heart because I do not dwell on negative things on my mind too long. Realizing that worrying do not help solve problems but exaggerates problems, lying awake and worrying about it without a solution is useless, daylight is made to act on things in my waking thoughts, when night comes I fall asleep and snore really hard too, the evidence of a very peaceful sleep :-)), this way I can face the next day re-fueled and re-energized and be able to tackle whatever is thrown at me.

No problem should be carried to bed; a bed is a comforting piece of furniture, why carry tears to bed? In my mind, beds are a symbol of comfort, it's where you lie and relax and sleep probably hugging your pillows if you don't have company.:-)) So my motto is, "Carry no problems to bed"

Anything too surmounting that I can't change, I leave it alone, I stop believing I can solve every problem that my life encounters, what I do is keep a positive attitude in the midst of it, i lay those problem with the master solver, there are situations that you just can't solve and need to leave alone, don't be too hard on yourself. Learn to chill and relax sometimes and leave it to the Master.

Life is not going anywhere, it's you who leave this earth, so learn to chill when you get the time, I do so whenever I can, even if it's hard for me to get the quiet quality time I so long for to meditate and do 'me' things..:-)

I found an alternative in the meantime, I relax with my favorite music, comedies and movies and I learn to laugh hard and long. My greatest de-stresser

I hope you will find time to smile, laugh and relax from your hectic schedule.

YOU GOT ONE LIFE AND CHANCE HERE. ENJOY THE JOURNEY AND MAKE THE VERY BEST OF IT.

LIVE LIFE
LOVE LFE
ENJOY LIFE

Hugs

Written by Dc Perez Copyrighted 2009/09/03

IS IT LUST OR LOVE?

Are you caught up in the rapture of love or is it lust?

Have you ever found yourself thinking or attracted to someone and being drawn to that person for no distinct reason but simply lust? Have you ever found yourself falling in love probably for someone you wished later on you never did. Have you found yourself lusting for someone and do fall in love with them eventually and married them, happily ever after, fairy tale story and still going strong? Or was it love or lust?

Is there a far away contrast from lust and love? Or do they both compliment each other?

There are some who for some reason is caught up in relationship because of lust, nothing more to the relationship than good sex and a powerful attraction and chemistry.

However, I do believe, that you can lust after someone and fall in love with them, as long as you don't allow the lust part to be the root of that relationship, as in relationships I also believe you should always have and continue the lust for your partner, I believe it's healthy as it keeps the relationship intimately alive, steamy and hot.

Can anyone honestly say that they have never thought of their partners sexually when dating them, what they may be and feel like in bed. All the little icings that go with the imaginings of the mind sexually. Was it lust or the natural yearning of being in love, the feelings that come long before you're married. Be realistic, those feelings are real.

Tell me that you don't and I am convinced that you are lying. Isn't that thought a result of seeing or communicating with someone you believe is your intended partner who makes your heart flutter or is it because you are just happy to see her or him; no lust, no desires or no temptation?

I am of the impression that if that is the case that probably one is frigid until married,..:-((..no visual stimulation creating fantasies of your intended partner, right?...:-))

Nothing is wrong with the sexual side of love, it is what makes relationships pretty interesting and exciting. I need someone who is in love with me; my mind, my body, my heart, and my soul. All compliments each other and facilitates each other in making it a complete relationship that's worth it.

It will be no good if it is only for good sex because after that climax ends, where's the love? Can we talk, do you have my interests and what makes me happy at heart, can we do things together with passion; our goals, our dreams and our future together?

I maintain, it doesn't matter if you are rich or gorgeous but at the end of the day, are you happy with yourself; your life, your relationship, do you feel fulfilled? There are those who stays for the great sex, the money but are you really happy when all this is over?

Does the person who looks into your eyes, feel your soul and makes you happy beyond measure, it's most important. I'd walked away from a life of 'wealth' to keep my sanity if I'm not happy. Love has no price and so is happiness. I love being in love but it should never come with a price or conditions except to love unconditionally.

We walk around with unfulfilled lives pretending we are happy, settle for mediocre and some may say if the majority didn't settle there won't be no family units, but in your heart do you believe you should sacrifice your inner peace and happiness to suit the norm of the world?

Because it's easier to have a relationship than to be lonely, and so many ends in divorce because you bore it until you can't anymore though you know if would have eventually led to it, though some divorces are created by relationship realizing long after that they are not compatible, and selfishness, greed and mostly infidelity the forerunner of lust, temptation and lost of desire for the partner for all kinds of reasons.

Relationships are complicated and I often believe if you are not willing to go for the long haul after weighing all the impossibilities and possibilities don't get tangle up in it unless you are ready. You must be willing to compromise, it's not about you anymore but a team effort.

People tend to believe they can grow to love someone and I believe yes you can, you may not fall in love with someone at first sight but after getting to know them and learn their personality, you may eventually grow to love them totally, especially if it's unconditional love you're bringing to the table.

We tend to base our intentions on visuals; how the person looks, does he or she turns me on?, wealth etc and it's ok but in reality when looking for someone to spend your life with because I swear most persons when they meet someone that rock their boat they want to keep them forever. You must choose someone that can walk the distance with you, the real distance.

There may be some little conflicting of personality but we are all uniquely different trying to conglomerate our personalities, it's what makes life and love interesting. I don't want someone exactly like me, I'd be bored to heavens :-) I appreciate my uniqueness and in so doing I am and will appreciate yours much better.

Everyone has their yardstick on judging what their impression of love is, once it makes them feel peaceful and in tune with yourself holistically and you are extremely happy, that's all that matters. I can't tell you what love should be but what you see it as, it's what makes you feel as a person fulfilled. Some like the extra trimmings while to others it's the simple things that matters.

Does my lips tease you
Does my hips tempt you
Why do you look at me so lustfully
Like you want to slowly devour me
I say to you go, go on walking
If it's your thoughts and not your heart speaking
You are caught up in deep temptation
Such lustful and delicious infatuation
This will only lead to an unfulfilled climax
Can't be with you if my heart is not relaxed
I need someone who loves me exclusively
Not someone who wants me for their cravings momentarily

Written by Dc Perez Copyrighted 2009/07/25

HAVE NO REGRETS..

So many times we have encountered difficulties in our lives, walk roads we wish we never did and regret that journey but in my life. I've learnt to appreciate every turn, corner and bend that I encountered, every hump, every pothole, every straight road, every bridge, every hurdle in my life and I'll continue to drive on...:o))

The road of life is not smooth, lots have travelled on it before you so you are going to find some potholes, from time to time, that's the journey, it's a mixture of both. Just remember to heed the red lights when they come up, the most important part of your journey and know when to continue the journey safely.

The hurdle makes it interesting, very interesting. Let's compare it and say that you are driving along a straight road, no humps to slow you down, no potholes to be careful about, no bends, no uphills, no downhill, just simply driving head on in full speed on a straight road; you are sure to crash.

These little obstacles, which I call lessons, are meant to slow down your speed, in so doing you learn to appreciate the surroundings around you, taking time to look around you, help someone around the bend, slow down to climb over the hump so you don't crash, all these little hurdles are there for a reason.

Same with your obstacles in life, sent to teach you lessons, important lessons to help you unto the next steps and level in life.

I learn to take disappointment in stride, not surrendering but looking to find the lesson in that disappointment. Believe me, there is a lesson in every disappointment..

I also believe when you have exhausted all your possibilities of getting something you so desire even through handwork, prayers and fasting and it doesn't happen; it's not meant to happen.

Don't feel despondent, simply accept it and move on. There are things we'd like, we'd want and we'd crave but if it's not for you, no matter how hard you try it will not materialize. Look at it his way, God has another plan for you. Hence my disappointments in life I've learned not to take it so hard but simply look the other way and think positive.

I have no regrets. Some people would wonder why i would say that when my life journey had not been quite easy. Looking back at it, every problem I encountered brought me to this direction that was destined for me, You can't fight your destiny, it's your path that must be followed.

Always ask God for the strength to carry on when things get rough and learn to be still in the midst of your confusion, yes find your inner peace even in the midst of your confusions and figure out what is the lesson this confusion is teaching you, you'll even learn to humbly appreciate your confusions.

There are time you may encounter people who seem to be of no good to you in your life, they are negative, pestering and discouraging people, but don't be fooled and discouraged, they are there to test you, to make you stronger and resilient in preparation for the rest of your journey. I chose to look at it that way positively.

They are there in preparing you for your further steps in life you have to take, don't buckle under their pressure and negativity but thrive on them. It's a test of your patience, tolerance and how well you handle life from there on.

Mind you, the test never ends for those who haven't put that lesson into action, because some who have learnt it, still will allow themselves to bend when another similar lesson comes up in their lives, the resilient ones usually shrug their shoulder at these tests and acknowledge it as part of life and their journey, and simply move on.

Try hard to not see your life as a life full of regrets, it stagnates your mind, instead be still and figure out all the lessons that were sent and meant to teach you from these good and bad life experiences, you'd sure to see the purpose of your journey.

All the rugged paths you walked and crossed, to get where you are right now, is very purposeful, life is teaching you something everyday and every moment. Are you heeding life's lessons?

Never be regretful of your circumstances, my positive outlook on life has come about from my mindset that all my encounters have taught me a lesson the good and bad, we don't see lessons when we become bitter.

I really don't beat up myself for the obstacles and paths I walked and encountered in my life and my past, they were my destined path that I had to take, I could not have avoided it even if I wanted to. I wouldn't change anything in my life even if I could, they were part of my intended journey meant only for me, to teach me and in so doing will be be of help to others.

We are all sent other people to show us and even stop us on our journey in life, it's part of our destiny. When you meet them, they are suppose to be in your life. It may sound harsh and unrealistic to some because they may have met some really evil people in their lives but everyone you meet on your path has a distinct purpose in your life, reason, season or lifetime?

I can't promise you that your journey will be free of complications and obstacles but it's how you look at life and your attitude towards life determines your happiness in life.

May your days be filled with blessings over pouring, be sure to share some with someone who needs a little and encourage them on their journey.

I may not be rich financially, then that again is a state of mind, but my heart is rich and that's enough to make me believe I'm rich.

Happy journeying.

Written by Dc Perez copyright 2009/07/21

DEPRESSION---Suicide's warning signal

I engage in this topic and feel compelled to write on it because I know a person very close to my heart who attempted suicide. That person was on a batch of anti-depressants and sleeping pills to get them through the day, when it was taken they were in a state of 'blankness", in that state of mind it was said it created the feeling of ' I could kill you and not know I did it'. Terrible isn't it?

Do these mood altering drugs help these people or does it push them further into despair, that person one day attempted suicide with those same pills and was taken to the hospital, had their stomach pumped, but was put back on another set of sleeping pills and anti-depressants until one day they decided it was enough, in their will power, came off those drugs and live a drug free life, no signs of depression, the 'too blessed to be stressed attitude' envelops that person right now and now lives to tell the story......

It's important to give a listening ear to the depressed, many people get depress for many different reasons, something that is simple that you can shrug your shoulder at, may be a surmounting problem to another.

That doesn't mean that the person is bad, mentally or emotionally they are not strong, they may easily bend under pressure but need to be encouraged and probably be placed in a different environment, though sometimes that won't help some as their mindset is clouded by that emotion.

I do not condemn and never will condemn the person who commits suicide, firstly I am not the giver of life and secondly, I know not the extent of the person's emotion at that time. I pray for their soul, which was a tormented soul.

There are some we can reach who have not gone past the stage of 'unreachable and there are those we can seek help for or even as simple as a listening ear will help, the suicide person who attempts to take their lives is seeking and crying for help silently and probably is fighting with their inner confusions.

I've seen people who are treated medically/psychologically only to return the same home and state of confusion that created the feeling to thrive. That person is tagged as mad, mentally unstable, but are they really unstable, or are they seeking help and silently crying for help?

Most suicidal people are caught in a world of self pity and feels the world is a cruel place to live, some resort to drugs to alleviate the uneasy feeling they are feeling, to be absorbed into another world far away from here, away from the hype and rat race. They chose to be in their own world, that's when it becomes harder to reach them.

There are some that is not too hard to reach, if we only pay attention because you can reach a person before they get deeper into their other world.

It's important to be there for one another and some may assume that some of these people don't need help, they go deeper into drugs and we numb them further by giving them drugs to control their problem leaving them in a state of comfort with anti-depressants and sleeping pills etc. What a sad road to travel.

I've noticed young kids are hooked on alcohol for their 'high' even other drugs and I am amazed at this new generation isn't coping very well, they get absorbed into alcohol and drugs to mask their discomforts in life or it is a trend to look 'cool".

Some are just simply having a good time but I am also seeing the over abuse of alcohol like it's a glass of water, leading eventually to liver damage later on in life, they are drinking alcohol as early as fifteen and if one continues to middle age, it sure will be hazardous to their health.

My point, however, is that the suicidal person, need not be castigated as though they are evil, these are people who could not handle life and did an injustice to themselves and all connected but if one understands the mind and the circumstances leading to the tormented mind of a suicidal person, they'll try and forgive them for such a cruel act.

When people commit suicide, I don't believe they simply take a gun, weapon and decide at this moment they are going to kill themselves, it takes a process of negative thoughts that might have occurred over a period of time or a trying moment that leads to it. Happy people do not commit suicide. I've never heard the saying, 'I'm happy, I'm going to kill myself":-D

Can we reach them before they do it, convincing them that we all deserve to live and all is not lost, talk, talk, talk. Get psychological help for them. Sometimes even you as person can make a difference in that person's life.

Get into their minds long before they get past the stage of no return, it can be done. It take a strong will power to turn away from that negative thought, one must be willing to walk the distance and make their life different, see the world different.

How can we do that? Pay attention and take time to listen to someone, there are lots whose hearts are crying out for help but afraid to talk, be on the lookout for the depressed, some hide it very well not wanting no one into their personal business, afraid someone will whisper it to someone else, they are afraid to enter a counseling office because they will be stigmatized.

It's important to encourage others on their journey, you never know how someone is handling life, many mask their feelings while they battle with all their insecurities. A listening ear goes a long, long way. It may save a life.

Give someone hope, a smile today. All is not lost, the world is still a beautiful place to be, there are angels walking with you to help you on this journey. You are not alone.

I can go on and on, on this topic but it will be too lengthy.

I wish those who are not handling life comfortably, better days.

You must believe that better days will come but you must also be willing to change your mindset and think and do positive things, rise above that toxic thinking that is stagnating your mind and life.

Trust me, all is not lost. Your are very, very important and purposeful. You are needed here.

I love you unconditionally. Hugs

I felt your pain
In the midst of all your confusion
I watched you as you struggle in frustration
Could it be that you're facing retribution
Or did you fall into that illusion?


The illusion that the world had failed you
And you no longer cared and your friends were few
And you felt that life was so useless
So useless that you became so careless

I felt your pain
When you said you were feeling empty
That the aching of your heart ran deeply
That you cried yourself to sleep all night and day
How you wished you could have ran far, far away

I feel your joy
When you say, you're glad you were tested
Tested though torturing becomes your strength
The strength that tomorrow always comes
Tomorrow is here, it's called today, You are home

I feel your joy
You are a new person and now have a new spirit
You can climb high mountains, You're so upbeat
You are grateful that you have braved the tests
Goodbye unhappiness, welcome home happiness

HAPPINESS IS A STATE OF MIND


Written by D.C. Perez
All rights reserved. © 2009/07/18

YOU HAVE TO GO!...'The abused victim speaks loud and clear'

This poem is the echoes of the pleas and cries and solution of the abused person. The one who has finally decided to walk away from those years of constant abuse and start a new page and life.

This poem specifically ends with 'I won't let you make me pay for a heinous crime', because the extent of abuse that sometimes is tolerated sometimes also leads to murder when the victim decides to take it in their own hands.

Deciding to leave than to stay and take the abuse is the better solution, yet some are stiff scared to move on, afraid to start all over again, they are emotionally scarred.

I believe the abused victim should always seek professional and psychological help if they can't go on in life comfortably, it's important to heal those scars in order to move on.

You have to go
I am no longer feeling your flow
You say you love me but you hate me
You hit me, you beat me and mistreat me

You brought me so much pain
That I feel like I'm going insane
I took care of you through the years
All you repaid me with was a bed of tears

I am letting you go
I will not take your abuse no more
You treated me like a dirty soiled rag
I won't stay around and wait to be tagged

My life had been a life of constant shame
I stayed while you played your game
You treated me like if I am dirt
I've got news for you, I know my worth

My screaming and crying days are now over
I will no longer be your punch bag and lover
You do not worth my precious effort and time
I won't let you make me pay for a heinous crime

Written by Dc Perez copyright 2009/07/16

REJECTION....Ooops, That Hurts!

Have you ever encountered someone who adores you completely yet for some unknown reason you can't seem to feel the same about them intimately. Probably because of their looks, appearance, their pushiness or you don't feel their vibes at all. We tend to judge people for all kinds of reasons, but that person may simply be the perfect mate for you because perception can get the better of you judging only on someone's outward appearance.

You don't hate them but you just don't feel what they are feeling towards you, oh a broken heart follows for the pursuing party, a punch in the face effect but you must go on and walk on by.

There is someone that will return that love to you, the funny thing is sometimes the one you love isn't necessarily the one that loves you, do you believe in loving the one who loves you and not the one you love as the old saying goes? Well, I believe in loving someone who loves me back as much or even more :-() "It's so good loving somebody, when somebody loves you back"

There's no easy way to break somebody's heart.

I wish that I can love you the way you love me
You chase me, you woo me, you adore me
Yet my heart won't respond in ways that you'd like me to
Could it be that I'm not meant for you
Still you pursue my affections continuously
I'm not feeling what you're feeling
Why can't you see that and just let me be
I truly don't hate or despise you
I just don't feel the same way you do
Don't think your love isn't worth my time
It is just that I can't hear your bells chime
Your vibes, your aura, your love, your soul
Your love for me I can't seem to enfold
Look for love and affection in someone else
I'm not in love with you, oh can't you tell?
I really don't feel the same way you do for me
Don't take my subtle rejection too personal
It's just that I don't feel your soul at all

Sorry that I CAN'T LOVE YOU THE WAY YOU LOVE ME

It will never be easy saying this to someone..

Written by Dc Perez copyrighted 2009/07/15