YOUR ATTITUDE IN LIFE DETERMINES YOUR OUTCOME IN LIFE - The Power of a simple thought

There is so much power in your thoughts. I realized that you can determine how you feel everyday, every moment and you can refuse to be moved by happenings or anyone, and everyone possesses compassion, empathy and love in their soul.

Everyone can do good and evil things and it's so much embedded in our thoughts that the devil made you do something so we have someone to blame for our bad :) and yes some may say when people are ‘possessed’ there isn’t anything one can do about it but be released by and through the power of God. We all are capable of good as well as evil, it's our thoughts which determine our outcome.

You can sit there at this moment and probably hear bad news, terrible news that you feel in the pit of your stomach that burns/hurts you to your core and you get lost in that news and dwell on it like eternity. It swallows you, and you wallow in it that you may become bitter, depress and even hateful, those ‘why’ questions invade your mind and then you start blaming everything inconceivable and even question if there is a God of mercy.

Most of the times you may feel sad, depressed and really bad inside from all those ill things said and probably done to you, those feeling can be easily override by your single thought, a ‘vibrational’ thought that echoes in the depth of your soul.

I believe we are more powerful beings than we give ourselves credit for, you don't allow people to determine your circumstance and mode/mood in life, they don't determine your happiness in life, your inner peace is within you, this is a very powerful part of your being, it's spiritual and psychological too.

You determine your state of mind. I can chose to be happy even in the midst of my crisis, no matter how surmounting----everything around you is ‘illusionary’, it means everything is determined by how you see it, it's a feeling/perception in our minds, and we have the power to change our feelings/moods, our illusions.

I can be excited or sad if I choose to, I can think negative and go low in my spirit, releasing the lesser me or I can think positive and go high in my spirit and release the higher me. It begins with a powerful thought.

Happiness is really a state of mind; sadness is on border with happiness- you can choose either. Just like some say, love is a thin line from hate because you determine that----you can love someone to death and in an instant that person wronged you, you hate them like poison, a simple change of feelings.

Someone may give me bad news now and in a few seconds in come some really great news, it's easy to switch from one mood to another in a second if one wants to---- but empathy and compassion will allow you to switch to the 'down' feeling, but it is able to override if you choose to--- therefore we can determine and create our happiness in our minds, and it's important to keep it flowing and active in our minds that you are happy - despite everything happening ill around you because there will always be ill happenings; if not today, a while from now---but you must learn how to take things and life in stride or you’d be always be devoured by your circumstances.

All those things that we worry and beat up ourselves about is not worth it, just chill and let things flow sometimes.

Do you realize what ill feelings do to you; your persona, health, it can literally shut you down. Your entire body; your attitude changes, the good feelings you were feeling a moment ago is killed by a bad feeling; negative energies-----We have the power to ride these feelings--we do and it start with our mind----feed it only positive thoughts--we have to learn to deal with the negatives and bad feelings, it's what releases our compassion, empathy and love but you can not allow it to invade your mind--- who wants to feel down for so long? How can you help someone else if you are always sad and down?

My life may be a sad one and journey but I refuse to see it so---on the outside looking in it will appear so to others but I will triumph over it, cause you will never be able to see a positive note from me if I allowed my circumstance to override me instead I choose not to allow it to devour me and see all the positives from it.

Everyday I face another day is a day of a new beginning for me---and how does one face new beginnings? Excitedly, very excitedly....Do/should I wait to be excited until the storm is over? Hell no! I am excited even in the midst of my storm, can you hear the noise in that storm, it's not the scream of fear, it's screams of excitement ‘cause my storm will subside soon, very soon.

It’s my positive attitude and mindset determines my outcome..

E-V-E-R-Y-T-I-M-E…

Keep a positive mind in everything you do/face and you will triumph....but only if you don't look through every trial through the eyes of fear

I love you and believe you can

Donique C. Perez Copyrighted © 2010/03/19 All Rights Reserved Worldwide

BEING CONSIDERED DIFFERENT- Not doing the 'norm'

I really hate judging people because I hate to be judged; pre-judged, assumed or anything that's negative.

I watch how people judge groups of people, because they see and do things differently and not conform to standards---yet I bypass their way of living//thinking, and I see their spirit like I do with all people in general.

For instance, with homosexuals; some may say it's an abomination, and yes the Bible says so. In my short time here on this earth, I've met quite a few, and they have always been very 'nice' people to me; I have no idea why they are usually exceptionally nice, I tend to believe that it is their readiness to be accepted by society, though some become very reclusive because of harassment.

I have met people who people may label queer, strange but when you listen to their heart speak, a beautiful spirit lies dormant on the inside. Still yet we are quick to judge them based on our thinking pattern.

Yet, I find it hard to judge these people or anybody because I am not God. I believe in the man and woman union, it's what I prefer, it's what I grew up to believe and it's what I feel, however, there are those who have no other feelings but for the same sex. I have yet to understand it, and we are fine tuned that it is wrong, like murder is, but still I can't judge them on their lifestyle and choice, it's God's to do so.

When I look at a gay person, as I do with all people, I come with an open mind, they are compassionate, giving and loving, just like we 'normal' people are, what do I do? Should I ignore one of God's children because he/she is gay, my spirit doesn't allow it, I will not hate anyone because they are gay. Who am I to judge you?

God hates the sin but not the sinner - God knows what he creates/d, The devil has no power to create, if so, does one create themselves?. We have the power to change our minds, but do we have the power to alter God's Creation because underneath there lies His true blue print, no matter how different we appear with our external modifications and enhancements. Can I change the color of my eyes or even change my fingerprint?

There are people who were introduced to it through bad experience with an opposing sex, there are some who were led to it, and there are some who from childhood is like that; was not influenced, but is inbred in them - is it a twist of fate?

I have not the blueprints of anyone's life, not even me and only God has it and can judge their life. Some may say, if we allow them to continue that lifestyle/choice, what will become of the future generation--depopulation will occur--- but there will always be man/woman union no matter what - whether we condemn them, they will go underground and actually it has been happening for a while now, until recently others are coming out the closet.

It's their 'truth' - even though we may not like it. It's their walk and journey and their willingness to face their God for what most considers a 'great' sin..who am I to judge anyone? I don't have that power and you don't. However you have a right to dislike their lifestyle like anything else, it's your right and choice.

I remembered as a child, there was a very nice man who appeared effeminate; he did things somewhat passively, similarly to what we would expect of women, the 'gentleness' of him, probably from upbringing yet he had a strong father, or he was born like that, his genes- somethings you can never assume and many judged him all his life on the way he was; composure, and somehow he was a straight guy with a wife and kids and all his kids grew up to be men, without a trace of effeminacy.

We tend to assume people before we see their hearts - he was one of the nicest people I have met, very kind, loving, compassionate, giving and all the things mankind should possess, yet he was judge on his effeminacy - a beautiful soul on the inside was overshadowed.

This is what we do to people daily when we judge people on appearance and not their heart; on their job and not their heart; on their status and not their heart. We are 'labelers' - we label and tag people, and we are so caught up in it--live by it; those labels that determine you --or you are nobody.

I look past color, creed, class, status and I see a heart of gold; love, kindness, compassion, everything the 'normal' person possesses, I just can't judge you, I leave that for God, for while I do, I may just be sinful before His eyes in a little speck of thing I overlook that may be a sin to Him.

People don't be too quick to say you have no sin; though you may never do 'abnormal' things, or you are not 'sinning' because what you may just feel you are doing so good in one department, chances are, you may just assume it's the right things to do and you are doing, now do a recheck of your life and tell me you are not a 'sinner'. All are sinners and come short of the Glory of God--so tell me, who are you again?:)

Judge not lest ye be judged because while we are pelting large boulders at the sinner, a whole heap of fragment will chipped off it and hit you everywhere---there is no bigger sin.

I often wonder when a homosexual opens his/her mouth to praise God, does he/she not feel the joy like I feel in my heart praising God, if God was angry with us 'sinners', he'd have shut our mouths by now whenever we whisper His name.....because we are all sinners??---Be not quick to judge.

You may not like someone's clothes but is their heart their clothes?..Think about it---Let's look at it another way; your husband/wife got trapped in a dungeon for weeks, came back to you unkempt and smelly, the first thing you see is the appearance(unkempt), as the day goes by he/she cleans up and then comes the revival; the person you married lies inside and not on the surface of what you see with your eyes.

I know this is a topic the average person cares not to elaborate on because they may have closed their minds/hearts to these people and see them as 'evil' sinners - but between all their lifestyle/choice, abode real people; some who may be fighting to even understand who they really are, just like we 'normal' people have fights with our regular 'sins':)--think about it.

I hope everyone can identify who they are in the eyes of God----all God's creation...and leave the rest to God.

Let's all be kind to one another and lead each other unto the path to God, and let Him be the judge..the Ultimate Judge.

I wish you Inner Peace..

Donique C. Perez Copyright 2010/03/21 All Rights Reserved Worldwide

PLAYER - Single; still looking, and--still playing?

What is it with most guys--most of the men are 'taken'; married or not--meaning those who seem to be interested or look interesting; all the things a woman may desire in a guy, are taken; then again that's why they are taken, character speaking guys. Then there are single guys who are 'really taken and are in relationships'; long term relationships, yet carry/hide behind the single label.

Some who 'appear' single are really and truly players; the non-commitment ones and remain single because they still want to play their game, be mindful that I am not referring to all. Some 'appear' to be single, but are really in a relationship - but 'open' on their side; while they may have a person waiting at 'home', or want to swing and go back to their bachelor pad they've set aside for surmounting years in 'singlehood'.

How long is a guy really allowed to remain single; the title of waiting for the right woman, while playing and getting it on with and jumping from one bed to another? --- so it will always appear that he doesn't have a woman-- yeah, I see those quite a lot--single for as many years ago and still hold that title but is having snit bits of relationships here and there for sexual fulfillment - those that have a short life span; those that last as long as he changes his clothes; he is a player. I may remind you that there are some sneaky females who practice same.

If you are single; not married and having sex with someone, it means you are in a relationship; sexual relationship - are you hooking up with someone and intend to drop her as soon as you see 'the one'? - that's not nice to a lady who may just be really into you, and hoping the relationship will work out, what is it?

The rule is to avoid or prolong intimacy to avoid being targeted as 'practice and move on' for these guys, the sex as soon as you feel comfortable with the guy is to be avoided, you need more than that to go to bed with him, in fact some will say don't go to bed with him unless he marries you, if he's getting it readily and available from you he may not think he has to marry you ever or in a hurry. The latter, no one wants a hurried marriage:)

With the married guys who still wants to peek at other women; because it's real out there, and 'appear' to be having troubled relationships, they are definitely a turn-off. It's either you work things out at home or get out; don't go assuming another lady may just give you what you're missing, you married her and chances are the sex was great then, and probably now with two kids down the road, all of a sudden she's not that pleasing to your eyes anymore, while she hustles taking care of your kids and home.

I actually detested a guy who was married and 'chased' me down, assuming he can win me over, firstly he was married and came with a BS (The BS means Bachelor of--S*$#):) story, that he and his wife were not in a relationship.

In life being single, you'll met those kinds, so you got to look out for them--- most guys assume you are single because you can't find a guy:) and most may not be aware that you may be single because of a cheating spouse like him:)----or whatever, and now he has thrown acid on your wound - he went on with, that they're only together because he married her a while ago, so he made those vows to her but is now suddenly unhappy, actually he said that he married her to help her ---so what is the problem, you are going to sin your soul continuously cheating on her, while you remain married to her - my advice to him was to get his act together, work things out with her - he seemed to not be able to leave her--well, solution--work things out, sometimes it's a simple as that, who knows?

Chances are, things may have worked out, but as long as he finds a willing participant, bait and hook--he'll continue to go on his prowl---there are many willing participants out there -- yes, you willing and unsuspecting women, you encourage married men to continue to be on their prowl--

There are those who want spontaneous relationships to make them feel wanted and loved while their wife may be at home wanting to be loved as well, only if you took the effort and do things together, the 'for better, for worse' logo, well if she's a pest and nag I can understand what she'll do to your mind and appetite, though I heard sex is better after a quarrel, I never tried it:)..I will attempt to at some time in my life, just to test it---:)

So I ask myself, why are so many guys 'appear to be single' and misleadingly so, yet seem to be hiding in/behind a relationship, but tag themselves single-- are you still looking while you enjoy the comforts of what you are getting from your 'hidden' partner, are you having non-committed relationships or are you simply still wanting to be a player and remain open to the unsuspecting female who assume single means you have no ties to anyone?

Be truthful to yourself always.

It means some of the single guys out there may require investigation; private detective scoop on them to verify their status--before hooking up with them:). Chances are investigations may dig up more than he puts out there...it's not a matter of not trusting someone--but they come in all color and packages----neatly packaged lies that are sometimes easy and convincing to swallow.

Single means--not committed to anyone, animal or thing:)-----well except for kids--that's inevitable.

Make sure that you are single and not really hooking up with a significant other, or you will become your biggest fraud...

What is it--are you still single??--or just baiting--or in a relationship...

Donique C. Perez Copyright 2010/03/21 All Rights Reserved Worldwide

SOMEONE LOVES YOU JUST THE WAY YOU ARE

There is someone out there for everyone. Would you believe there is someone alive who loves every fibre of/in your being, and won't like you to change anything about you; Nothing? They'll accept you just as you are. Your distinct personality that mesmerizes them yet flows with theirs; that someone who is the unique and perfect match for you. You are the 'essence' that he/she smells near or afar - that unique aroma...Your Soul Mate.

Sometimes we spend our life trying to change who we are designed to be, based on our influences around us and what we grew up thinking is ideal. We form our future on what we emulate of others, who we'd like to be/become.

Even in trying to meet our 'dream' partners; the one we create in our minds, we try to become what we assume he'd/she likes, and yes no one likes 'negative' things about someone, yet I believe when that person doesn't match, it's because that person is not for you but that negative may suit someone else just right:)

Then when we peel off our true shell/self; the real person comes alive-- the real you, the one that he/she may just love or do not like:) Falling in love is about being yourself, loving yourself firstly, accepting who you are, and are designed to be-- we try so hard to be a particular image which we have/created in our heads based on an external assumption, not necessarily what we feel deep inside the core of our hearts.

Things that you may assume negative in you and you'd like to change, someone is willing to accept you that way; just the way you are----it means that if you found someone who accepts you the way you are - you will probably love and appreciate yourself better - the true power of/in love.

We sometimes spend our life moving from partner to partner, some of which we spend years with and then realize they are not the one, too incompatible - and yes if we should wait forever - we'll never have families, because we are waiting on the 'right' one - but I believe there is that perfect someone.

There are people who go around in circles, had partners and got married, spent most of their years together, split and then got married again to someone else, then finally realize this is it! - finally you have found your soul mate - sometimes it happens in the later half/quarter of your life journey. Some never will, yet some do. Some find them without all those efforts.

Probably you have already found that someone; when he/she looks at you, he/she sees his/her soul mirror, you actually are bonded and flow really smoothly together, you are about to say something and he/she finishes your sentence:) a poem in the making here.

We spend endless years searching, probably I did/do and sometimes the person is not far away, or probably that person came by and you never noticed 'cause you are looking/judging on physical, status, color, etc...those particular standards:)..The ones we live by, and pass on to our kids, the repeated and continuous cycle, therefore your kid may not marry someone based on size, shape, color, job, status and the list goes on.

They are mind our matter identifications, it's what you believe is the ultimate. Every cloth in the store has a buyer. When you meet your soul mate you will know instantly because you've met them before, (please don't ask me how and when, you'll know:)---he/she seems oh so familiar; everything about them--kinda dejavu experience-- and I don't mean those corny lines some guys throw at you, the "I met you sometime/where before but can't figure out where"--those silly pick up lines:)--your soul mate won't say so to you because you'll both know without speaking a word!

We spend so much time 'fine tuning/polishing' up ourselves to meet the mate we want to attract when there is a mate that will look past our superfluous appearance/act - the one we fine tuned and groomed - the ones that can peel off after a time--instead he/she may look skin deep and see your soul beyond that 'act' and discover the true you--that is what lasts - that's what makes relationships work - and last.

Most marriages are breaking up over superficial things --money, appearance, and those conditional things--so when those conditions are not met---we take a dive and run hard----out goes the marriage.

When last have you heard your partner say to you, 'I love you to your soul'--if he does/did, don't let him/her go------If he/she says 'I love you'--it may be conditional:)--let him/her add 'to your soul' to it----that's a lifetime promise and goal----it's unconditional----he/she loves you come what may--'til the end of time--to your soul--to every string and fibre in your body; to the veins that carry the blood through every part of your body---if he/she was blood; she/he'll be the one flowing through you to keep you alive.:)

Until you can hear those words don't trust the 'I love you'--or 'you know I love you' it must echo these others words:)) "I love you to your soul" --the 'I love you' is too conditional:)

I am sure some of you may have found your soul echo; the one that resonates to your soul - yeah he/she is your soul mate--Happy journeying, that's what soul mates do--they flow with you on your journey--free flowing and in sync...

To be continued...

Donique C. Perez Copyright 2010/03/23 All Rights Reserved Worldwide

YOU ARE A SPECIAL FRIEND - You've touched my heart

I dedicate this poem to you because you are special to me and make a difference in my life. Your encouragement with your kind sentiments echoed encouraged me to continue writing, as my words and inspiration was being felt by people like you daily.

I encouraged you and in that process a beautiful Karma existed and resulted; You encouraged me as well. Thank you for being part of my life in a meaningful way. You are Special.

Sometimes I feel we've met somewhere before
I guess we all do, who ever knows
But your whispers sounds oh so familiar
Or are we all one, so similar?

Though we've never touched each others hands
It may seem we've met through odd circumstance
Everyone we'll meet here on our journey
Were meant to be part of our life, our destiny

I'm happy to have made the connection
With you, and it was a pleasant introduction
I am delighted to have made your acquaintance
Nothing just happen or ever by chance

I am happy to know you, I'm glad we're friends
So glad I am able to make a difference
Hope to see you sometime, somewhere
You're so very special to me, you're sincere

Written by Donique C. Perez Copyright 2010/02/26 All rights reserved

ARE YOU SINGLE BECAUSE YOU'VE CLOSED YOUR HEART?

Why does a woman decide to remain single, young or not so old? Is it bad past experiences, What is it?

Singleness; doesn't always mean a lady can't find a man, in fact finding a man is the easiest thing but finding a good man may be the problem. Be mindful some have hardened their hearts to the opposite gender so it's almost impossible to break their walls.

Some remain single for all types of reasons, widowed and not willing to give their heart to anyone else as they see it as a contract til death they will part; then again that means after he/she departs from your life through death you can decide thereafter to be united with someone else, ain't?

Some chose not to because they do not want to defile their union even after death and that's ok, some chose to because of past hurts, afraid to love--one too many bruises that has not healed and carried from one relationship to another, lots of scarring there- heal before you move on or you are barely covering up your sores in life.

Some because they feel powerful with their security in life and has no need for a partner, some see men as sperm donors, be mindful men have been doing it for years to women - make babies with them and leave, but it happens more often when you put the horse before the cart- babies coming without commitments in relationships..leaving a bitter taste in their mouths

There's a difference in being single and remaining single; the latter is a permanent decision unless cupid strikes:)

Before I go any further, I am not single because I can't find a man; a good man:) but because my situation won't allow that to be in my life at this moment, I want to be able to give my energies and time to a relationship and not be too preoccupied with my other stresses in life. In fact he has to meet me where I am at halfway or none at all, many may talk but can they empathize with me in my journey, so therefore if you are not going to be walking my journey with me like I would like to with you, why jump in my lane with me if you are not in for the long haul?:)

Some men/women prefer remain single due to past hurt, they don't trust love or some unforgiven reason; what happened in the past is gone, and happened with another person in your life. Everyone deserves another chance and a fair one, probably not with the same person but let love into your heart, home, abodes of your spirit and expect the best, not having doubts in the back of your mind if the relationship will work or not, don't doubt yourself--you are creating negative energies in your mind and it is sensed from your partner and fed to him/her therefore how do you expect a relationship to work with negativity.

While being single, one should use that time to find themselves, figure out and strengthen your weak points, it's a plus in relationships when you can face the fire, you don't lose your compassionate spirit but you get tough and improve on your weaknesses/failing, those that are detriment to your life/relationship.

Strangely, sometime the 'unpolished' thing about you that you may be struggling with and which another partner hated in you, may be perfection for another partner. Each man to his own - just be the best you can be and no better. Sometimes when you bend to be like or suit someone you are not being your true self and you will create an unhappy person eventually. There are discipline in life to follow but in the end be happy with it/you holistically.

They say every cloth in the store has an owner, I know that every lock is created with a key to compliment it - someone truly compliments you, take time to find the perfect someone instead of running from love and from relationships to another..

Nothing is wrong with/in being single, it's how long you plan on remaining single and the reason/s behind it..Still, I believe a heart needs another heart to talk to or it will wither and die..

I am not bashing the single folks but stating it how I see it..through my eyes; my observations and reality

Don't live alone forever..don't stay away from people/love because the world may have given you a good few doses of it's poison with some bad experiences from relationship/people. We were not meant to be/live alone.

We are here to compliment and enhance each others lives.....there's a heart that is whispering to yours..Be still and listen and let that whisper echo to your heart...tear down that wall

Is a heart whispering to mine? There sure is one...someone, somewhere. My heart is open and I am sure this note will not read the same as of the seventh paragraph because my life would have changed by then..nothing remains constant.

To be continued.....

Written by Donique C. Perez. Copyright 2010/03/01 All rights reserved