THE TORMENTED MIND

Sometimes we think that kids are not affected by what happens in their homes; be it parents or someone living in a home with them who is being abused or taken advantaged of. The poor little kids find it so helpless to voice their opinion or they'd be beaten/abused as well.

The truth is though there are laws to protect kids from such horrible parents, sadly there are a good many countries who don't effectively put these law into full action and there are people who still abuse kids DAILY and though it may not be physical abuse done to these kids.

Verbal abuse is as stinging as physical abuse and affect them mentally, emotionally and psychologically. Sometimes leaving them psychologically scarred for life. What a cross to bear!

With every beating they see someone 'put' on someone close to their hearts, they feel it as well. Oh, and those poisonous words you shout and yell, echo and run deep, really deep.

Most importantly, what most kids grow up with in the confines of their home, surrounding and community mould their mind into their future. Be careful what you say, do or act around these young minds; their minds are like sponges and absorb easily, or you'd be the one trying to squeeze out the 'sponge' while it's too late creating an overflow for others and yourself to deal with later on.

Mummy Please Stop The Screaming
Oh Daddy Please Stop The Beating!
I Can Not Take This Torment Anymore
In My Mind This Is Torturing And Leaves A Sore

Why Did You Brought Me To This World
A World Of Bitterness And So Cold
Everyday I Am Bombarded By Your Noise
Instead Of Peacefully Playing With My Toys

I Need Some Peaceful Sleep And Rest
Why Do You Put Me Through This Mess
I Am Caught Up In Your Stress And Hate
Someone Help Me Before It's Too Late

Daddy Why Do You Beat My Mommy?
Mummy Why Do You Take This So Easily?
I Am A Victim Of Your Confusions
Waiting To Be Rescued From The Situation

Things Are So Bad And Uncontrollable At My Home
That My Other Siblings Leave The Home And Roam
My Parents Are Tormenting Me So Terribly
That I Sometimes Wish I Had A Different Family

Someone Help Me, Please Help Me Now
I Need To Get Out Of This Disaster Somehow
My Parents Are Messing Up My Future Life
When They Continue With Their Daily Strife

Written by Dc Perez Copyrighted 2009/08/26

PRAYER FOR DISTRESS.....Holding the baton for someone who's down

Or simply keeping their candle lit until they make it back on their feet. Today, I whisper a pray for all troubled persons in their spirits whether anxious, sadness, grief or daily hardship. To those who are sick and alert, speak healing into your bodies daily.

O Most Powerful God, Giver of life. You made us all with our distinct personalities and tolerance and You will not give to us more burdens than we can't bear.

I pray for those who are overstressed with burdens; I pray that they will hang on and believe that this moment shall pass, it's only a test and they will persevere and hold on and a light will be released into their darkness.

I say a special pray for the very sick in bodies; I pray for their healing. Breathe health into their sick bodies again and let them be returned whole to their loved one. I pray for guidance for these skilled doctors and nurses to take care of the sick patients they are in charge of, with Your annointing...Amen.

THOUGHT FOR TODAY…

“Don’t depend on anyone to make you happy; when you do, you give that person power over your joy. The moment they take it away from you, you become hopeless. Find the joy within you and give yourself that power. Let no one determine your destiny in life except God. Listen only to people who will guide and propel you to greater & positive things. Believe in yourself. You are worthy”………..Dc Perez

STOP JUDGING

Are you guilty of judging others; do you judge others on their looks and appearance, do you ever at first glimpse without someone opening their mouths and hearts to speak, judge them on the very first sighting and impression?

A lot of us are very guilty of that, so many times we may see someone not dressed in the 'norm' or has a peculiar way about them and you avoid them because they look queer and strange, yet when they are given a chance to express themselves you see a different person on the inside, compared to the exterior appearance.

Before you judge someone's appearance, think of what it will feel like if it were you. We are all different and unique yet special and important

Stop judging others on appearance; there are more to people than what meets the eyes. Does your friends help you grow holistically or are they impressionable friends who make you feel good for the moment? Surround yourself with people who can help you grow holistically, choose friends that will push you on when you fall. Rid yourself of toxic people who stagnate your life. Form meaningful friendships.

Don't Judge Me On My Simple Looks
Or The Roads In Life I Walked And Took
Don't Judge Me By The Shoes I Wear
You Know Not Of The Cross I Bear

Or If My Clothes Have Wear And Tear
Symbol Of My Trials Through The Years
Don't Judge Me On The Job I Do
For It Helps Me To Pay My Dues

Don't Judge Me On The Color Of My Skin
Search My Soul, You'll Find A Gem Within
Who Are You To Judge Me By My Appearance
We All Have Our Faults And Imperfections

I Am More Than What Meets The Eye
My Goals And Aspirations Rise Above The Sky
I Am Priceless I Am Victorious, I Am Humble
I Am Flexible, My Spirit Is Unyielding Yet Gentle

Judge Me On The Contents Of My Heart Insde
In There I Place My Emphasis And Pride
Before You Judge Me Check Yourself Carefully
You'd Sure Realize You're No Better Than Me

I Am Determine To Rise Every Time I Fall
I Will Not Be Defeated, I Will Stand Tall
Your Words And Action Do Not Discourage Me
I Strive On And Be The Best That I Can Be

Written by Dc Perez Copyrighted 2009/08/14

TAKE A SHORT BREAK AND RELAX ....In the midst of your confusions

Laughter is a part of my life. No need to take life so serious, everyday you live you will encounter temporary setbacks (obstacles) in life, NO NEED TO KEEP KNOCKING YOUR HEAD AGAINST A WALL. Learn to accept the things you cannot change, change those you can and the rest you can't, ask God to handle them for you, leave it alone.

We must stop sometimes in between our daily chores and busy schedules and relax and have a good 'bellyful' laugh, mind you never on the expense of others, unless they are paying for you to see a comedy:-)) and even so, it's ok to laugh at yourself sometimes, and probably at others as long as the person can take the joke and has a sense of humor and not too tight-lipped:-))

I learned to relax, breathe and laugh in the midst of my confusions; no one even realizes that I am walking a daily rugged path because I refuse to drown myself in self pity and simply smile and walk on, walking on with hope in my heart, no one knows I am walking a daily path being tested with patience, tolerance yet flavored with special spices of unconditional love taking care of my mum who has Alzheimer.

Friends it's not an easy journey but I must walk that journey with her, I try hard to keep her smiling and in so doing, I am smiling myself. Try and learn as much as you can about this disease because it never warns you and progresses as the years go by..

So you see when I come here daily to write, it doesn't mean I am a perfectly happy lady; I go through probably similar situations like many of you do, but I've conditioned my mind to deal with it so that it won't swallow me. I chose to remain positive in the midst of it believing that this too shall pass. It's my test I must endure.

I find it necessary to encourage others despite my own trials because there are always people who are facing situations and don't know how to deal with their situation, but I assume a simple few words of encouragement can go a long way and in so doing I hope it touches and heals some broken person who needs to hear a little whisper of hope and I'll do it as long as I know how to and as long as I get up everyday with life in my body. AMEN!.

In encouraging you, I am also encouraging myself, my journey is not an easy one at this very moment but being positive in the midst of it despite, makes it so much easier for me.

I don't go to sleep with a heavy heart because I do not dwell on negative things on my mind too long. Realizing that worrying do not help solve problems but exaggerates problems, lying awake and worrying about it without a solution is useless, daylight is made to act on things in my waking thoughts, when night comes I fall asleep and snore really hard too, the evidence of a very peaceful sleep :-)), this way I can face the next day re-fueled and re-energized and be able to tackle whatever is thrown at me.

No problem should be carried to bed; a bed is a comforting piece of furniture, why carry tears to bed? In my mind, beds are a symbol of comfort, it's where you lie and relax and sleep probably hugging your pillows if you don't have company.:-)) So my motto is, "Carry no problems to bed"

Anything too surmounting that I can't change, I leave it alone, I stop believing I can solve every problem that my life encounters, what I do is keep a positive attitude in the midst of it, i lay those problem with the master solver, there are situations that you just can't solve and need to leave alone, don't be too hard on yourself. Learn to chill and relax sometimes and leave it to the Master.

Life is not going anywhere, it's you who leave this earth, so learn to chill when you get the time, I do so whenever I can, even if it's hard for me to get the quiet quality time I so long for to meditate and do 'me' things..:-)

I found an alternative in the meantime, I relax with my favorite music, comedies and movies and I learn to laugh hard and long. My greatest de-stresser

I hope you will find time to smile, laugh and relax from your hectic schedule.

YOU GOT ONE LIFE AND CHANCE HERE. ENJOY THE JOURNEY AND MAKE THE VERY BEST OF IT.

LIVE LIFE
LOVE LFE
ENJOY LIFE

Hugs

Written by Dc Perez Copyrighted 2009/09/03

IS IT LUST OR LOVE?

Are you caught up in the rapture of love or is it lust?

Have you ever found yourself thinking or attracted to someone and being drawn to that person for no distinct reason but simply lust? Have you ever found yourself falling in love probably for someone you wished later on you never did. Have you found yourself lusting for someone and do fall in love with them eventually and married them, happily ever after, fairy tale story and still going strong? Or was it love or lust?

Is there a far away contrast from lust and love? Or do they both compliment each other?

There are some who for some reason is caught up in relationship because of lust, nothing more to the relationship than good sex and a powerful attraction and chemistry.

However, I do believe, that you can lust after someone and fall in love with them, as long as you don't allow the lust part to be the root of that relationship, as in relationships I also believe you should always have and continue the lust for your partner, I believe it's healthy as it keeps the relationship intimately alive, steamy and hot.

Can anyone honestly say that they have never thought of their partners sexually when dating them, what they may be and feel like in bed. All the little icings that go with the imaginings of the mind sexually. Was it lust or the natural yearning of being in love, the feelings that come long before you're married. Be realistic, those feelings are real.

Tell me that you don't and I am convinced that you are lying. Isn't that thought a result of seeing or communicating with someone you believe is your intended partner who makes your heart flutter or is it because you are just happy to see her or him; no lust, no desires or no temptation?

I am of the impression that if that is the case that probably one is frigid until married,..:-((..no visual stimulation creating fantasies of your intended partner, right?...:-))

Nothing is wrong with the sexual side of love, it is what makes relationships pretty interesting and exciting. I need someone who is in love with me; my mind, my body, my heart, and my soul. All compliments each other and facilitates each other in making it a complete relationship that's worth it.

It will be no good if it is only for good sex because after that climax ends, where's the love? Can we talk, do you have my interests and what makes me happy at heart, can we do things together with passion; our goals, our dreams and our future together?

I maintain, it doesn't matter if you are rich or gorgeous but at the end of the day, are you happy with yourself; your life, your relationship, do you feel fulfilled? There are those who stays for the great sex, the money but are you really happy when all this is over?

Does the person who looks into your eyes, feel your soul and makes you happy beyond measure, it's most important. I'd walked away from a life of 'wealth' to keep my sanity if I'm not happy. Love has no price and so is happiness. I love being in love but it should never come with a price or conditions except to love unconditionally.

We walk around with unfulfilled lives pretending we are happy, settle for mediocre and some may say if the majority didn't settle there won't be no family units, but in your heart do you believe you should sacrifice your inner peace and happiness to suit the norm of the world?

Because it's easier to have a relationship than to be lonely, and so many ends in divorce because you bore it until you can't anymore though you know if would have eventually led to it, though some divorces are created by relationship realizing long after that they are not compatible, and selfishness, greed and mostly infidelity the forerunner of lust, temptation and lost of desire for the partner for all kinds of reasons.

Relationships are complicated and I often believe if you are not willing to go for the long haul after weighing all the impossibilities and possibilities don't get tangle up in it unless you are ready. You must be willing to compromise, it's not about you anymore but a team effort.

People tend to believe they can grow to love someone and I believe yes you can, you may not fall in love with someone at first sight but after getting to know them and learn their personality, you may eventually grow to love them totally, especially if it's unconditional love you're bringing to the table.

We tend to base our intentions on visuals; how the person looks, does he or she turns me on?, wealth etc and it's ok but in reality when looking for someone to spend your life with because I swear most persons when they meet someone that rock their boat they want to keep them forever. You must choose someone that can walk the distance with you, the real distance.

There may be some little conflicting of personality but we are all uniquely different trying to conglomerate our personalities, it's what makes life and love interesting. I don't want someone exactly like me, I'd be bored to heavens :-) I appreciate my uniqueness and in so doing I am and will appreciate yours much better.

Everyone has their yardstick on judging what their impression of love is, once it makes them feel peaceful and in tune with yourself holistically and you are extremely happy, that's all that matters. I can't tell you what love should be but what you see it as, it's what makes you feel as a person fulfilled. Some like the extra trimmings while to others it's the simple things that matters.

Does my lips tease you
Does my hips tempt you
Why do you look at me so lustfully
Like you want to slowly devour me
I say to you go, go on walking
If it's your thoughts and not your heart speaking
You are caught up in deep temptation
Such lustful and delicious infatuation
This will only lead to an unfulfilled climax
Can't be with you if my heart is not relaxed
I need someone who loves me exclusively
Not someone who wants me for their cravings momentarily

Written by Dc Perez Copyrighted 2009/07/25

HAVE NO REGRETS..

So many times we have encountered difficulties in our lives, walk roads we wish we never did and regret that journey but in my life. I've learnt to appreciate every turn, corner and bend that I encountered, every hump, every pothole, every straight road, every bridge, every hurdle in my life and I'll continue to drive on...:o))

The road of life is not smooth, lots have travelled on it before you so you are going to find some potholes, from time to time, that's the journey, it's a mixture of both. Just remember to heed the red lights when they come up, the most important part of your journey and know when to continue the journey safely.

The hurdle makes it interesting, very interesting. Let's compare it and say that you are driving along a straight road, no humps to slow you down, no potholes to be careful about, no bends, no uphills, no downhill, just simply driving head on in full speed on a straight road; you are sure to crash.

These little obstacles, which I call lessons, are meant to slow down your speed, in so doing you learn to appreciate the surroundings around you, taking time to look around you, help someone around the bend, slow down to climb over the hump so you don't crash, all these little hurdles are there for a reason.

Same with your obstacles in life, sent to teach you lessons, important lessons to help you unto the next steps and level in life.

I learn to take disappointment in stride, not surrendering but looking to find the lesson in that disappointment. Believe me, there is a lesson in every disappointment..

I also believe when you have exhausted all your possibilities of getting something you so desire even through handwork, prayers and fasting and it doesn't happen; it's not meant to happen.

Don't feel despondent, simply accept it and move on. There are things we'd like, we'd want and we'd crave but if it's not for you, no matter how hard you try it will not materialize. Look at it his way, God has another plan for you. Hence my disappointments in life I've learned not to take it so hard but simply look the other way and think positive.

I have no regrets. Some people would wonder why i would say that when my life journey had not been quite easy. Looking back at it, every problem I encountered brought me to this direction that was destined for me, You can't fight your destiny, it's your path that must be followed.

Always ask God for the strength to carry on when things get rough and learn to be still in the midst of your confusion, yes find your inner peace even in the midst of your confusions and figure out what is the lesson this confusion is teaching you, you'll even learn to humbly appreciate your confusions.

There are time you may encounter people who seem to be of no good to you in your life, they are negative, pestering and discouraging people, but don't be fooled and discouraged, they are there to test you, to make you stronger and resilient in preparation for the rest of your journey. I chose to look at it that way positively.

They are there in preparing you for your further steps in life you have to take, don't buckle under their pressure and negativity but thrive on them. It's a test of your patience, tolerance and how well you handle life from there on.

Mind you, the test never ends for those who haven't put that lesson into action, because some who have learnt it, still will allow themselves to bend when another similar lesson comes up in their lives, the resilient ones usually shrug their shoulder at these tests and acknowledge it as part of life and their journey, and simply move on.

Try hard to not see your life as a life full of regrets, it stagnates your mind, instead be still and figure out all the lessons that were sent and meant to teach you from these good and bad life experiences, you'd sure to see the purpose of your journey.

All the rugged paths you walked and crossed, to get where you are right now, is very purposeful, life is teaching you something everyday and every moment. Are you heeding life's lessons?

Never be regretful of your circumstances, my positive outlook on life has come about from my mindset that all my encounters have taught me a lesson the good and bad, we don't see lessons when we become bitter.

I really don't beat up myself for the obstacles and paths I walked and encountered in my life and my past, they were my destined path that I had to take, I could not have avoided it even if I wanted to. I wouldn't change anything in my life even if I could, they were part of my intended journey meant only for me, to teach me and in so doing will be be of help to others.

We are all sent other people to show us and even stop us on our journey in life, it's part of our destiny. When you meet them, they are suppose to be in your life. It may sound harsh and unrealistic to some because they may have met some really evil people in their lives but everyone you meet on your path has a distinct purpose in your life, reason, season or lifetime?

I can't promise you that your journey will be free of complications and obstacles but it's how you look at life and your attitude towards life determines your happiness in life.

May your days be filled with blessings over pouring, be sure to share some with someone who needs a little and encourage them on their journey.

I may not be rich financially, then that again is a state of mind, but my heart is rich and that's enough to make me believe I'm rich.

Happy journeying.

Written by Dc Perez copyright 2009/07/21

DEPRESSION---Suicide's warning signal

I engage in this topic and feel compelled to write on it because I know a person very close to my heart who attempted suicide. That person was on a batch of anti-depressants and sleeping pills to get them through the day, when it was taken they were in a state of 'blankness", in that state of mind it was said it created the feeling of ' I could kill you and not know I did it'. Terrible isn't it?

Do these mood altering drugs help these people or does it push them further into despair, that person one day attempted suicide with those same pills and was taken to the hospital, had their stomach pumped, but was put back on another set of sleeping pills and anti-depressants until one day they decided it was enough, in their will power, came off those drugs and live a drug free life, no signs of depression, the 'too blessed to be stressed attitude' envelops that person right now and now lives to tell the story......

It's important to give a listening ear to the depressed, many people get depress for many different reasons, something that is simple that you can shrug your shoulder at, may be a surmounting problem to another.

That doesn't mean that the person is bad, mentally or emotionally they are not strong, they may easily bend under pressure but need to be encouraged and probably be placed in a different environment, though sometimes that won't help some as their mindset is clouded by that emotion.

I do not condemn and never will condemn the person who commits suicide, firstly I am not the giver of life and secondly, I know not the extent of the person's emotion at that time. I pray for their soul, which was a tormented soul.

There are some we can reach who have not gone past the stage of 'unreachable and there are those we can seek help for or even as simple as a listening ear will help, the suicide person who attempts to take their lives is seeking and crying for help silently and probably is fighting with their inner confusions.

I've seen people who are treated medically/psychologically only to return the same home and state of confusion that created the feeling to thrive. That person is tagged as mad, mentally unstable, but are they really unstable, or are they seeking help and silently crying for help?

Most suicidal people are caught in a world of self pity and feels the world is a cruel place to live, some resort to drugs to alleviate the uneasy feeling they are feeling, to be absorbed into another world far away from here, away from the hype and rat race. They chose to be in their own world, that's when it becomes harder to reach them.

There are some that is not too hard to reach, if we only pay attention because you can reach a person before they get deeper into their other world.

It's important to be there for one another and some may assume that some of these people don't need help, they go deeper into drugs and we numb them further by giving them drugs to control their problem leaving them in a state of comfort with anti-depressants and sleeping pills etc. What a sad road to travel.

I've noticed young kids are hooked on alcohol for their 'high' even other drugs and I am amazed at this new generation isn't coping very well, they get absorbed into alcohol and drugs to mask their discomforts in life or it is a trend to look 'cool".

Some are just simply having a good time but I am also seeing the over abuse of alcohol like it's a glass of water, leading eventually to liver damage later on in life, they are drinking alcohol as early as fifteen and if one continues to middle age, it sure will be hazardous to their health.

My point, however, is that the suicidal person, need not be castigated as though they are evil, these are people who could not handle life and did an injustice to themselves and all connected but if one understands the mind and the circumstances leading to the tormented mind of a suicidal person, they'll try and forgive them for such a cruel act.

When people commit suicide, I don't believe they simply take a gun, weapon and decide at this moment they are going to kill themselves, it takes a process of negative thoughts that might have occurred over a period of time or a trying moment that leads to it. Happy people do not commit suicide. I've never heard the saying, 'I'm happy, I'm going to kill myself":-D

Can we reach them before they do it, convincing them that we all deserve to live and all is not lost, talk, talk, talk. Get psychological help for them. Sometimes even you as person can make a difference in that person's life.

Get into their minds long before they get past the stage of no return, it can be done. It take a strong will power to turn away from that negative thought, one must be willing to walk the distance and make their life different, see the world different.

How can we do that? Pay attention and take time to listen to someone, there are lots whose hearts are crying out for help but afraid to talk, be on the lookout for the depressed, some hide it very well not wanting no one into their personal business, afraid someone will whisper it to someone else, they are afraid to enter a counseling office because they will be stigmatized.

It's important to encourage others on their journey, you never know how someone is handling life, many mask their feelings while they battle with all their insecurities. A listening ear goes a long, long way. It may save a life.

Give someone hope, a smile today. All is not lost, the world is still a beautiful place to be, there are angels walking with you to help you on this journey. You are not alone.

I can go on and on, on this topic but it will be too lengthy.

I wish those who are not handling life comfortably, better days.

You must believe that better days will come but you must also be willing to change your mindset and think and do positive things, rise above that toxic thinking that is stagnating your mind and life.

Trust me, all is not lost. Your are very, very important and purposeful. You are needed here.

I love you unconditionally. Hugs

I felt your pain
In the midst of all your confusion
I watched you as you struggle in frustration
Could it be that you're facing retribution
Or did you fall into that illusion?


The illusion that the world had failed you
And you no longer cared and your friends were few
And you felt that life was so useless
So useless that you became so careless

I felt your pain
When you said you were feeling empty
That the aching of your heart ran deeply
That you cried yourself to sleep all night and day
How you wished you could have ran far, far away

I feel your joy
When you say, you're glad you were tested
Tested though torturing becomes your strength
The strength that tomorrow always comes
Tomorrow is here, it's called today, You are home

I feel your joy
You are a new person and now have a new spirit
You can climb high mountains, You're so upbeat
You are grateful that you have braved the tests
Goodbye unhappiness, welcome home happiness

HAPPINESS IS A STATE OF MIND


Written by D.C. Perez
All rights reserved. © 2009/07/18

YOU HAVE TO GO!...'The abused victim speaks loud and clear'

This poem is the echoes of the pleas and cries and solution of the abused person. The one who has finally decided to walk away from those years of constant abuse and start a new page and life.

This poem specifically ends with 'I won't let you make me pay for a heinous crime', because the extent of abuse that sometimes is tolerated sometimes also leads to murder when the victim decides to take it in their own hands.

Deciding to leave than to stay and take the abuse is the better solution, yet some are stiff scared to move on, afraid to start all over again, they are emotionally scarred.

I believe the abused victim should always seek professional and psychological help if they can't go on in life comfortably, it's important to heal those scars in order to move on.

You have to go
I am no longer feeling your flow
You say you love me but you hate me
You hit me, you beat me and mistreat me

You brought me so much pain
That I feel like I'm going insane
I took care of you through the years
All you repaid me with was a bed of tears

I am letting you go
I will not take your abuse no more
You treated me like a dirty soiled rag
I won't stay around and wait to be tagged

My life had been a life of constant shame
I stayed while you played your game
You treated me like if I am dirt
I've got news for you, I know my worth

My screaming and crying days are now over
I will no longer be your punch bag and lover
You do not worth my precious effort and time
I won't let you make me pay for a heinous crime

Written by Dc Perez copyright 2009/07/16

REJECTION....Ooops, That Hurts!

Have you ever encountered someone who adores you completely yet for some unknown reason you can't seem to feel the same about them intimately. Probably because of their looks, appearance, their pushiness or you don't feel their vibes at all. We tend to judge people for all kinds of reasons, but that person may simply be the perfect mate for you because perception can get the better of you judging only on someone's outward appearance.

You don't hate them but you just don't feel what they are feeling towards you, oh a broken heart follows for the pursuing party, a punch in the face effect but you must go on and walk on by.

There is someone that will return that love to you, the funny thing is sometimes the one you love isn't necessarily the one that loves you, do you believe in loving the one who loves you and not the one you love as the old saying goes? Well, I believe in loving someone who loves me back as much or even more :-() "It's so good loving somebody, when somebody loves you back"

There's no easy way to break somebody's heart.

I wish that I can love you the way you love me
You chase me, you woo me, you adore me
Yet my heart won't respond in ways that you'd like me to
Could it be that I'm not meant for you
Still you pursue my affections continuously
I'm not feeling what you're feeling
Why can't you see that and just let me be
I truly don't hate or despise you
I just don't feel the same way you do
Don't think your love isn't worth my time
It is just that I can't hear your bells chime
Your vibes, your aura, your love, your soul
Your love for me I can't seem to enfold
Look for love and affection in someone else
I'm not in love with you, oh can't you tell?
I really don't feel the same way you do for me
Don't take my subtle rejection too personal
It's just that I don't feel your soul at all

Sorry that I CAN'T LOVE YOU THE WAY YOU LOVE ME

It will never be easy saying this to someone..

Written by Dc Perez copyrighted 2009/07/15

LIFE IS INDEED PRECIOUS

Having been so close to death in 1990, I've learnt to appreciate life. I do believe it was not my destined time to depart from this world. I don't believe I was given another chance but simply it was not my time to die, yet it was one of my most important lessons and experiences in life that has furnished the way to my discovery of myself and finding my purpose. I didn't die because my purpose was not fulfilled yet.

Evey circumstance and situation that led to it had its purpose, everyone who was placed in that position to rescue me was destined to be there at that given time. I really don't believe in luck but fate and destiny.

Never, ever question why you are going through situation, instead be still and you'd discover the reason behind that journey. Yes it may be frustrating and sometimes extreme at the moment but it has its purpose.

When someone departs this world it was their time to leave, the destined purpose has been fulfilled. That is why I take no one for granted, today you're here, next second you're gone, whether for good or for the season or reason has ended.

I simply appreciate.

I can express myself so freely because I have been through a negative situation which was meant to teach me a lesson positively, this was and is my journey, I must and had to walk that road, it was destined for me, way long in advance before conception in my mom's womb. No one could have stopped it and can't stop it.

Have you ever realized that you may have some friends who simply breeze through life; no concerns, no preoccupation, nothing, they simply take life as it comes, some would assume they are not goal setters but they simply see life as a journey to be enjoyed without all the fancy ribbons and bows. It takes nothing much to make them happy; another lesson yet that same person because they know how to enjoy life, can give you the biggest smile and make your day.

You see everyone who enters your life has a role and purpose, it's not by chance they enter your life, nothing happens. If you can read or see the book of your life, you'd simply accept it. I live in faith.

Every moment that is given to me and breath I take is precious. Hold tight onto the rails of life, persevering in faith & hope while laying a carpet of wisdom to travel and cushion yourself on your walk through life. We must encourage each other on our journey. Live life, love life & embrace life. Life is you. This moment is precious.

I am hopeful the rest of my pages in my book of life reads really good and if it doesn't, I ask God to give me the strength to persevere unto the end of my journey. I am so happy for this moment and in this moment.

When and if tomorrow comes for me, I'll deal with it like another today.

Life is indeed PRECIOUS to me.

P-R-E-C-I-O-U-S:

Purposely Revealing Endless Capabilities Inspiring Others Unto Success.

Written by Dc Perez Copyrighted 2009/07/15

NEVER BE AFRAID, YOU WILL SUCCEED!!

Do you find it hard to go on to take that leap in faith about something you have in mind for a little while or years and are afraid you'll fail?

Surround yourself with people who are positive and will propel you to greater things, endless possibilities and countless opportunities. You see when you do, even when something depressing comes up and you get disappointed, others will be standing by to pick you up when you fall, that what positive friends and people do.

There are going to be many challenges on your life journey but be willing to face it, head on positively. Sometimes people question how can they stay positive when everything around them is crumbling, it takes a will power to conquer that emotion that is against you and only you can do it for yourself, it's a mindset that you will succeed, you will conquer it and you will triumph.

Dwelling on negatives will allow it to thrive; when something negative happens to me I always consider my back up plan, always walk through life with a backup plan in case things don't work out the way you'd expect. Your disappointment get the better of you when you simply do, doing without Faith. Faith is my backup plan. make faith and perseverance your backup plan but also knowing when to quit without being disappointed.

If you need a push in life, don't immerse yourself around negative people though negative people dares me to do better and succeed. Everyone doesn't have that resiliency, some will bend under stress while others propel. However learn from their negativity, funny but true.

There may be something you wanted to do for a while and someone had stopped you with your dreams telling you it will fail, sometimes it's best to tell no one of your dreams and plans because most will discourage you or run with your idea. Tell your dreams only to positive people that will encourage you unto your dreams.

There are many out there that will propel you onto better things; positive people do not try to take your dreams from you or discourage you but encourage you to develop and believe in yourself because they want you to experience the joy and success they are in, they have no time for negatives.

If someone who you assume was a positive person did that to you, trust me they were not your friend because positive people are positive enablers, they allow you to ride on them, their exuberance, positivity, perseverance and help and encourage you to believe in yourself and reach your goals.

I honestly do not have a whole lot of friends, friends share your ideals; your dreams, your plans and are never jealous of you but encourage you positively. they smile genuinely with you when you succeed and you share your success with them.

I don't surround myself with negative people, I really don't. If they should come in my path, so be it, it will be for a purpose and lesson but I don't as they are a vexation my upbeat spirit, it's like removing sand from water, very hard unless you sift it out through a sifter, the water still will become a little cloudy with traces of sand, if you get my drift.

They will leave their stench on you if you don't know how to override their negativity.

You are going to meet more negative people in your life than you do positives as they are there to teach you a lesson, you can't stop them, they on a mission, don't dwell on them as they can kill your spirit with their negativity especially if you are not pliable and resilient.

Negative people are people whose agenda is to challenge you and see you fail, you have to be on guard always to look out for them, they're all around. They are there to dare you; instead dare them to succeed by persevering, let them propel you to success..Negative energies turned around positively. Never let them win.

Never, never feel you are and can't be successful because someone told you so and because you failed on the first try. Never!!

Simply try until you succeed, persevering with a positive attitude, impressing yourself and disappointing those who wish you to fail. You'll know when to give up but never give up without exhausting all avenues.

I don't believe we came here to struggle but to help each other, I sincerely believe that but if life was simple and uncomplicated trust me, you won't have a positive story that is worth telling without a negative experience. It's all part of the plan, simply go on and be the best you can be with those challenges making you a stronger individual. Don't be discouraged, ever.

Open doors to happiness, success and endless possibilities by believing in yourself, trusting that your plans will succeed doing it in faith and persevere, even if you falter at first, simply persevere.

Whatever you do acknowledge God, the highest power and he'll direct your path.

Don't give in, don't give up,

Best wishes in all your endeavours

Written by Dc Perez Copyrighted 2009/07/14

Bitterness defeated.....OPEN YOUR HEART AND MIND

Please don't allow others to change your positive and cheery outlook on life

I've heard so many friends who have lost their trust in someone or something and began judging everyone on that single unhappy episode in their lives.

They develop bitterness, resentment and it's an ugly feeling that leaves your soul tattered as you have not forgiven the person, yourself or even the world.

I refused to be moved or be daunted by someone who's done me wrong, or as some may say that all they have done for this person, they've turned around and stabbed them in the back so they'll never trust nor do anything for anyone like that again.

Remember this was a lesson to be careful but why shut off everyone in your life because of one terrible encounter.

Nothing will stop me from loving or appreciating because I was hurt or disappointed; I refuse to judge others on what another did to me nor would I judge someone on what they may have done to me spitefully or the like. I've learned to move on and hold no bitterness in my heart, it shatters your heart and outlook of like when you do and make you resentful using that emotion against almost everyone who crosses your path.

Stop assuming because someone did you wrong that everyone is the same and will do the same to you, closing your hearts to probably great friendships, simply be a little more cautious and do things differently but don't close your heart to a world of great people waiting to embrace you because someone has wronged you.

Walk on, don't let others change your great personality, you are who you are.

That person's attitude may just need changing not yours. Stay positive and ride on. Everyone is different and unique and deserves a chance, don't judge me on someone else mishaps.

Leave your baggage at the door, infact discard of it before entering people's lives, and treat each other individually. I hate it when some women group all men into the same bag and say all men are bad or vice versa simply because of their bad encounters with some men or generalize people.

Well I have good news for you, there are lots of good men out there, probably you haven't found him as yet. and when you do, you'll probably eat your words. I don't generalize people as with life you are going to get some bad experiences in the midst.

I've seen people who have become miserable and lonely and remained so to their death because of past pain, probably of the heart or in general, their dislike or trust of people and the world and become recluse because they began to think the world is a hateful place to live.

It's hard and sad when you can't rise above that thinking because it ruins your entire life, so much to appreciate despite the cruel and unkind people and experiences you may face. You must believe that though you may have experienced the bad sides of life, if you'll only open your hearts and mind you can embrace some good ones in the midst waiting to enfold you.

The world is still a good place to be, there must be someone out there that reaches and touches your spirit and when you do find them, its blissful, because they can probably understand you well, in ways you'd like to be understood.

There are soul mates out there; I believe we all have a soul mate but I also believe there are many more who can understand you, your soul and feel you without speaking, and when you find that friendship, it is golden.

It's way past the 'surface' understanding, this may be complicated to understand if you are thinking within the box but I've passed the stage of surface understanding and realize that my soul speaks and not just my heart. The peace that I feel is way past my heart, it's in my soul.

You can't make and mold people into your personality, they have their own distinct personality or you will robotize them trying to replicate them into your likeness.

I also think of how some people isolate themselves from others because they simply do things differently and are considered weird because they are not doing the 'norm' and this is sad because most possess of genuine love and compassion but we closed our hearts to them without listening.

Some can't accept them because we subscribe to a train of thoughts, the ones we were spoon fed from childhood, and there is no other way but what we were taught and the ones that were handed down to us from generation of philosophical thinking; if you dare change that pattern of thinking, you will be deemed to be called strange and sometimes weird and mad.

I always leave room for those who are seen as strange thinkers because you must keep an open mind to understand why people think and do what they do before shutting them off without even listening or trying to understand them. Even the foolish and the ignorant do have a say, they must be given an ear.

I'll always try to lead someone off a destructive path even if they don't heed, then you must let go with love.

I choose to love unconditional and open my heart to love and be loved in return.

I wish you love and a forgiving spirit to help you move on to better things.

Hugs to you

Written by Dc Perez Copyrighted 2009/07/13

Does your HEART surpass your beauty?..

I've been receiving lots of emails complimenting me on my beauty, though in my mind it's not a drop dead gorgeous beauty :-)) Everyone's beauty is unique if we only look past the physical.

Thanks for all the compliments but I am beautiful with a purpose. When I'm gone from this physical body, I want to be remembered for my heart.

Forget my looks; my beauty will fade. Did my living touch you, did my words and deed teach you and inspire you to better things, did I encourage you and if I did then I made a difference in your life?

That's more important than my outward appearance or my past. Do I make a difference in your life positively and now?. Not my looks, my wardrobe, my hair nor my makeup, or the way I look, my physical beauty surely WILL fade, my looks will fade, but my heart remains and will never fade...That's what I count on, not the little wrinkles that may slowly creep in. and when they do, it will appear to me as lines of wisdom..:~)))

It's a plus to be beautiful but being beautiful with a positive purpose is more alluring.

BEAUTY OF THE HEART SURPASSES THE OUTWARD PHYSICAL APPEARANCE

Written by Dc Perez Copyrighted 2009/07/09

SMILE...the power of a smile. Here's one For you.

Smiling is actually staying positive even in the midst of your trials. It's saying, I am happy despite or I love you despite. I've smiled through tears because even though my heart was breaking or the pain was immense, the smile that came from deep within me, gave me hope that things are going to get better. Be sure to Smile from the heart always when you smile.

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Smile though your heart is aching! Smile even though it's breaking! When there are clouds in the sky, you'll get by. If you smile through your fear and sorrow. Smile and maybe tomorrow...You'll see the sun come shining through for you, If you just smile ...

Here's a smile to you from me.

Lyrics by John Turner and Geoffrey Parsons. Song written by Charlie Chaplin, 1936.

Smile though your heart is aching
Smile even though its breaking
When there are clouds in the sky, you'll get by
If you smile through your fear and sorrow
Smile and maybe tomorrow
You'll see the sun come shining through for you

Light up your face with gladness
Hide every trace of sadness
Although a tear may be ever so near
That's the time you must keep on trying
Smile, whats the use of crying?
You'll find that life is still worthwhile
If you just smile

That's the time you must keep on trying
Smile, whats the use of crying?
You'll find that life is still worthwhile
If you just smile

CELEBRATING LIFE..

As I write this, I can see tears trailing down the face of my young son as he watches the memorial of Michael Jackson. I'm moved that he can feel such empathy, compassion and grief for someone he's never met but seems to admire his dancing and all the positive things he had done and contributed to humanity. Yet I had to comfort him that his journey had ended and purpose fulfilled as if that would have helped appease him, the sadness he was feeling at that moment was tremendous. I let him let it all out through his tears instead.

We must realize that death is not final, we must believe that it's simply the extraction of our bodies physically from earth to be exchanged for another form in the spiritual realm.

I do not become too absorbed into death because I've learnt it is a part of life. I die everyday and reborn everyday, this is not a cold expression but a realistic expression.

I 've learnt to enjoy each moment with close family and friend and even you; to appreciate, to love in the present and unconditionally, to absorb myself in now, extracting every moment and essence of now, so that when death come to me through family and friends, I can at least be realistic with my emotions, it will be up in my face at first but I have a better understanding of it since the recent passing of my two aunts back to back.

I'll cry, I'll mourn but we must not do it too long, because it is also important to celebrate one's life while on earth. Not stopping you from crying, mourning or grieving, sometimes the best cure is to let it all out as long as you don't let the sad emotion absorb you.

In each passing of my aunts, I asked myself did I learn anything from their life on earth, because they were here for a significant purpose. I don't dwell on their passing but the purpose and how they touched my life in a meaningful way.

My last aunt who died, died suddenly of a heart attack, I pondered a lot on it because it was sudden but then I came to the reality that it was her time, though it seemed untimely, it was the end of her journey here, the first one who had passed a month before her, I'd expected, as she had a terminal illness that was almost incurable so there we had time to prepare for her death.

However, both aunts time on earth was fulfilled and it's most important that I treasured their presence while here, this is why I celebrated and refused to extend mourning their departure. I'm grateful for their time spent here, even if I wished they had stayed longer, I refuse to question why because that was their destined time.

It's sad when I see people have parties or wakes for people who deserved a celebration of their life while they were alive but never was treated as such while alive. We sometimes take each other for granted.

I remember watching tributes to some artists on a channel from time to time, which I found very inspiring; celebrating and acknowledging them while they can hear it, appreciate and accept that acknowledgement instead of the grand tribute only at death.

It happens most of the time, we celebrate with eats, drinks and parties after they are gone but never while alive do we show such deep appreciation.

I am simply saying show appreciation while they are alive, say you love them many times, show you love them countless times so that when they're gone you won't mourn so long and the celebrations will continue and flow easily.

I don't want to be mourned when I'm gone, celebrate my life with a smile, treasured memories, it means my purpose was fulfilled, no death is in vain and my time was up. Destiny fulfilled.

I always chose to celebrate the lives of the ones who passed with thanksgiving, simply appreciating the pleasure to have known and met them on my journey in life, they probably taught me some lessons.

We all have a date with destiny at some point in our lives, the road ends somewhere, don't be afraid. We are so afraid to talk of the topic death, I don't dwell on it, I celebrate life and I celebrate now.

In the meantime, enjoy life, friends, family and all who you meet on this journey here on earth. You're going to meet some you wish you'd never met but they are part of your destiny.

Learn and move on to the next stage. Learn as you go.

My friends, enjoy this journey on earth, it's a wonderful place to live and be, make the very best of life here. We are here to compliment each other, only if we just believe so, we're on the same journey, slightly different roads. The journey finishes at the same end.

Think positive and happy thoughts always. Love endless and unconditional, hug endless, smile long and simply appreciate life. CELEBRATE LIFE NOW.

I write this note to encourage others who have and are taking loved ones for granted so that you can learn to appreciate their presence while they are living and not be sorry you didn't say or do positive things with them. Appreciate them now while they are alive, so that when they are gone, it will be a beautiful transition..

Love and endless hugs to all, making the journey easier for us all

Peace be unto you always

Written by Dc Perez Copyrighted 2009/07/07

LIFE LESSONS.....Life's tablet of wisdom

Open up your hearts and mind and love unconditional

Life is a lesson, a tough lesson., Despite all the challenges you’ve been through,
you can still be grateful for the many blessings and people who’ve entered your life. The good and the bad, the bad isn't necessarily bad but consider it an uncomfortable experience to teach you a lesson.

Those who came with negative attitudes but have taught you life lessons and how to rise above their negativity, Did you rise or learn from them like I did and am still doing? The lessons are never done, endless lessons to be learned. Your book of wisdom is in the making, your diploma of your life.

I am learning everyday. heeding my lessons as I travel life’s journey, jotting it down in the back of my mind, using them to climb over the hurdles in my life and probably to help someone on the way.

Life’s treasured wisdom, some call them mistakes and I call them challenges disguised to teach us life’s lessons.

Have patience. Pay attention. Learn well.

Be sure to move on and grow from these life lessons..The bad and the good

Hope and faith exist despite the coldness of this world and unkindness of some.

You've taught me all is not lost and that someone, somewhere out there in the midst of this world, seen and unseen and most powerful than you and me though I am like a grain of sand in the midst, someone still loves me for a lifetime; never for a season or a reason but indeed a lifetime, and that is God..

Learn to find the peace within.

Hugs

I thank you for the reason, season and the lifetime you have or had in my life
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I am grateful For you who love me
You taught me to love unconditionally

I am grateful for you who dislike me
You taught me to love and appreciate myself more

I am grateful For you who discourage me
You taught me to persevere

I am grateful For you who encourage me
You taught me endurance

I am grateful For you who envied me
You taught me humility

I am grateful For you who doubted me
You taught me to believe in myself

I am grateful For those who believe in me
You taught me the power of faith

I am grateful For those who adore me
you taught me compassion and made me feel important

I am grateful For you who smile with me yet stab me behind my back
You taught me to choose my friends well, very well

I am grateful For those who hurt me
You taught me that pain doesn't last forever but it was simply a painful lesson

I am grateful for the challenges I face in life
It has taught me the greatest lesson, the will to go on from day to day positively

Most of all..
For you who have lost faith and hope and joy
I am showing you that peace, love and a very positive attitude conquer all adversity.

Written by DC Perez. Copyrighted 2009/07/07