I've seen so many kids trying to emulate their parents. Is it because it's the wishes of the parents, or is it the career/field of interest they have personally chosen themselves.
So many unfulfilled dreams we have had of our own probably because our parent could not have afforded us and now we are trying to push it over to our kids as though they can fulfill our dream. What a very selfish thought.
Have you thought of what the kid thinks, although sometimes kids are very confused in decision making? I am not saying you should not encourage your kids to strive for 'excellence' but you must remember that kids have a mind of their own and personality.
You are there to guide them and mold them, however their decisions for life lies with them. You must listen and guide them, there are going to be choices and careers they may choose that you may or do not like but most importantly, it's what make them feel fulfilled.
For instance, I love music very much, like I breathe it daily hence I bought myself a keyboard and guitar with the intention that I expected my son to be interested in it also, though I believe it's a anti-dote for aggressive behaviour, as it may relax him as he is a very hyper child.
However the kid was not interested in either, his preference was the drums. I wanted him to learn the guitar and keyboard to help him relax but it seem he preferred to beat his aggression out of him with the drums. :-))
I say all this to say, though I wanted these things for him, it's not what 'tickles' him. I leave the options open for him, his advantage is that he has choices. I am here to help guide him and encourage him in whatever field he feels comfortable in career-wise or for leisure.
My parents nurtured and guided me to adulthood but in the end I became and steered after a career and path I liked and chose, what made me happy. They are not disappointed in me and even if they were, I would have to tell them sorry because that's the career that I like. Most parents encourage their kids to become lawyers or doctors or the like but everyone care not to follow these careers. The important thing is appreciating your kid's choice of career. I don't want to be blamed by someone for not following their dream and turning them into an 'unfulfilled' person.
The breaking news is that the field that our kids may choose, we sometimes turn up our noses at because we may not see them as top careers but as long as they are happy in that field. If they are, then that's all that matters. As long as it is not anything negative, I am going to stand by him and help him reach the heights of his heart's desire. Not my desire.
Written by Donique C Perez Copyrighted 2009/10/08 All rights reserved
So many unfulfilled dreams we have had of our own probably because our parent could not have afforded us and now we are trying to push it over to our kids as though they can fulfill our dream. What a very selfish thought.
Have you thought of what the kid thinks, although sometimes kids are very confused in decision making? I am not saying you should not encourage your kids to strive for 'excellence' but you must remember that kids have a mind of their own and personality.
You are there to guide them and mold them, however their decisions for life lies with them. You must listen and guide them, there are going to be choices and careers they may choose that you may or do not like but most importantly, it's what make them feel fulfilled.
For instance, I love music very much, like I breathe it daily hence I bought myself a keyboard and guitar with the intention that I expected my son to be interested in it also, though I believe it's a anti-dote for aggressive behaviour, as it may relax him as he is a very hyper child.
However the kid was not interested in either, his preference was the drums. I wanted him to learn the guitar and keyboard to help him relax but it seem he preferred to beat his aggression out of him with the drums. :-))
I say all this to say, though I wanted these things for him, it's not what 'tickles' him. I leave the options open for him, his advantage is that he has choices. I am here to help guide him and encourage him in whatever field he feels comfortable in career-wise or for leisure.
My parents nurtured and guided me to adulthood but in the end I became and steered after a career and path I liked and chose, what made me happy. They are not disappointed in me and even if they were, I would have to tell them sorry because that's the career that I like. Most parents encourage their kids to become lawyers or doctors or the like but everyone care not to follow these careers. The important thing is appreciating your kid's choice of career. I don't want to be blamed by someone for not following their dream and turning them into an 'unfulfilled' person.
The breaking news is that the field that our kids may choose, we sometimes turn up our noses at because we may not see them as top careers but as long as they are happy in that field. If they are, then that's all that matters. As long as it is not anything negative, I am going to stand by him and help him reach the heights of his heart's desire. Not my desire.
Written by Donique C Perez Copyrighted 2009/10/08 All rights reserved
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