DEPRESSION---Suicide's warning signal

I engage in this topic and feel compelled to write on it because I know a person very close to my heart who attempted suicide. That person was on a batch of anti-depressants and sleeping pills to get them through the day, when it was taken they were in a state of 'blankness", in that state of mind it was said it created the feeling of ' I could kill you and not know I did it'. Terrible isn't it?

Do these mood altering drugs help these people or does it push them further into despair, that person one day attempted suicide with those same pills and was taken to the hospital, had their stomach pumped, but was put back on another set of sleeping pills and anti-depressants until one day they decided it was enough, in their will power, came off those drugs and live a drug free life, no signs of depression, the 'too blessed to be stressed attitude' envelops that person right now and now lives to tell the story......

It's important to give a listening ear to the depressed, many people get depress for many different reasons, something that is simple that you can shrug your shoulder at, may be a surmounting problem to another.

That doesn't mean that the person is bad, mentally or emotionally they are not strong, they may easily bend under pressure but need to be encouraged and probably be placed in a different environment, though sometimes that won't help some as their mindset is clouded by that emotion.

I do not condemn and never will condemn the person who commits suicide, firstly I am not the giver of life and secondly, I know not the extent of the person's emotion at that time. I pray for their soul, which was a tormented soul.

There are some we can reach who have not gone past the stage of 'unreachable and there are those we can seek help for or even as simple as a listening ear will help, the suicide person who attempts to take their lives is seeking and crying for help silently and probably is fighting with their inner confusions.

I've seen people who are treated medically/psychologically only to return the same home and state of confusion that created the feeling to thrive. That person is tagged as mad, mentally unstable, but are they really unstable, or are they seeking help and silently crying for help?

Most suicidal people are caught in a world of self pity and feels the world is a cruel place to live, some resort to drugs to alleviate the uneasy feeling they are feeling, to be absorbed into another world far away from here, away from the hype and rat race. They chose to be in their own world, that's when it becomes harder to reach them.

There are some that is not too hard to reach, if we only pay attention because you can reach a person before they get deeper into their other world.

It's important to be there for one another and some may assume that some of these people don't need help, they go deeper into drugs and we numb them further by giving them drugs to control their problem leaving them in a state of comfort with anti-depressants and sleeping pills etc. What a sad road to travel.

I've noticed young kids are hooked on alcohol for their 'high' even other drugs and I am amazed at this new generation isn't coping very well, they get absorbed into alcohol and drugs to mask their discomforts in life or it is a trend to look 'cool".

Some are just simply having a good time but I am also seeing the over abuse of alcohol like it's a glass of water, leading eventually to liver damage later on in life, they are drinking alcohol as early as fifteen and if one continues to middle age, it sure will be hazardous to their health.

My point, however, is that the suicidal person, need not be castigated as though they are evil, these are people who could not handle life and did an injustice to themselves and all connected but if one understands the mind and the circumstances leading to the tormented mind of a suicidal person, they'll try and forgive them for such a cruel act.

When people commit suicide, I don't believe they simply take a gun, weapon and decide at this moment they are going to kill themselves, it takes a process of negative thoughts that might have occurred over a period of time or a trying moment that leads to it. Happy people do not commit suicide. I've never heard the saying, 'I'm happy, I'm going to kill myself":-D

Can we reach them before they do it, convincing them that we all deserve to live and all is not lost, talk, talk, talk. Get psychological help for them. Sometimes even you as person can make a difference in that person's life.

Get into their minds long before they get past the stage of no return, it can be done. It take a strong will power to turn away from that negative thought, one must be willing to walk the distance and make their life different, see the world different.

How can we do that? Pay attention and take time to listen to someone, there are lots whose hearts are crying out for help but afraid to talk, be on the lookout for the depressed, some hide it very well not wanting no one into their personal business, afraid someone will whisper it to someone else, they are afraid to enter a counseling office because they will be stigmatized.

It's important to encourage others on their journey, you never know how someone is handling life, many mask their feelings while they battle with all their insecurities. A listening ear goes a long, long way. It may save a life.

Give someone hope, a smile today. All is not lost, the world is still a beautiful place to be, there are angels walking with you to help you on this journey. You are not alone.

I can go on and on, on this topic but it will be too lengthy.

I wish those who are not handling life comfortably, better days.

You must believe that better days will come but you must also be willing to change your mindset and think and do positive things, rise above that toxic thinking that is stagnating your mind and life.

Trust me, all is not lost. Your are very, very important and purposeful. You are needed here.

I love you unconditionally. Hugs

I felt your pain
In the midst of all your confusion
I watched you as you struggle in frustration
Could it be that you're facing retribution
Or did you fall into that illusion?


The illusion that the world had failed you
And you no longer cared and your friends were few
And you felt that life was so useless
So useless that you became so careless

I felt your pain
When you said you were feeling empty
That the aching of your heart ran deeply
That you cried yourself to sleep all night and day
How you wished you could have ran far, far away

I feel your joy
When you say, you're glad you were tested
Tested though torturing becomes your strength
The strength that tomorrow always comes
Tomorrow is here, it's called today, You are home

I feel your joy
You are a new person and now have a new spirit
You can climb high mountains, You're so upbeat
You are grateful that you have braved the tests
Goodbye unhappiness, welcome home happiness

HAPPINESS IS A STATE OF MIND


Written by D.C. Perez
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