Have you ever been hurt or wounded deeply by a close friend, family, partner, lover or spouse? You dwell on it so long that you actually lost weight, your desire to eat, to socialize or even love yourself. You believe you have lost a good friend and they have walked out of your life and you can’t go on. You are so absorb into that disappointed feeling, blaming yourself and probably hating yourself and the person as well and even the ones who has nothing to do with those ill feelings you are feeling.
I believe that people really do come into your life for a purpose, nothing just happens. they are and were meant to be part of your life and existence here on earth. Everyone is purposeful in your life, even if they ‘wrecked’ your life.
The point I am getting at is, it may or may not be your fault that that friendship has ended, it simply had to end whether it was something you did or didn’t do. The life span of that friendship has expired, two ships passing in the night kinda feeling, you met them on your journey in life, and as you’ve realize when someone dies, you don’t die with them. They enter this world alone and leave alone, be grateful for the privilege to share their lives which help you grow and taught you the lessons meant only for your trip here and the purpose of that friendship.
Don’t believe it’s the end of the world, the next person you meet after that person ‘departs’ from your life is also coming to your life to teach you another lesson. Sometimes we are going to be taught a lesson over and over until we get it right. These are the ones who do things the same way over and over and they do not learn nor grow from it, sometimes it is being taught to them until they get it right or sometimes that lesson becomes extinct and the person perishes in the process, end of the lesson.
Don’t dwell on hurts too long, they are important lessons and see them as only that. Sometimes you may exclaim, why did I let this person into my life, they’ve wrecked your life? Think back to the time you first met that person what joy they brought you but your joy was temporary this is just a reminder to you that your joy lives within you and not dependent on anyone.
You must learn and discipline yourself and your mind that you don’t make the minds of others, they can change their minds at anytime when least expected without notice. Your reaction is that of pain, hurt and disappointment and it’s ok to feel that way because we are emotional beings. However, I see them as lessons, valid lessons.
I remember I was going through some trying times in my life sometime ago and a friend who I believed in (another mistake to do) believe in yourself not place your belief in others, remember you are not in control of another person’s mind; that person was not within my reach, to reach me where I was at in that trying moment in my life; not a word of comfort, not a ‘it’ll be ok’, I simply wanted to vent, to talk out my feelings at that moment and I said to myself and reminded myself that I can really do this game of life by myself because I had learned to do it all by myself in my solitude so many times before they entered my life. Some will break while others will look at it positively. I stop believing that my problems can be solve by others and found my answers lying within me. People are in your life to enhance your life not to control your life, your life is your responsibility.
I am not saying you don’t need anyone to be there for you to guide you through but there will be times when your world comes crashing down on you and you can’t find anyone to light a candle for you until you see your way and make it around the bend and up the hill. Remember that before you met them they were physically non-existent and you got to tarry on whether they slip in or out of your life.
We need each other, we compliment each other but when there is no one to be there for you in ways you’d like them to be you must find the strength within yourself to tarry on. In the midst of that journey you are being taught a lesson but most tend to dwell on the negative feeling from that episode in their life and it overshadows the intended purpose of that person in their life. Lesson, lesson, lessons! main purpose.
All is not lost. Find the strength to carry on when others fail you or wound your heart deeply, they haven’t really failed you, it’s simply a test of your strength in enduring a test being place before you. It seriously teaches you that we all have our own burdens to bear, others come into our lives to assist and ease some of that burden. Some may say that some people add to their burdens but we must carry our own crosses, our lives are our sole responsibility, it’s how well we travel that journey that makes us complete the journey.
The fact that you took your time to read this means I’m part of your journey. I hope I have been and can be a blessing in your life. You are gong to met many more others on your journey who will propel you unto better things. Don’t worry. Don’t be afraid of the negatives ones, they are also there as part of your journey to encourage you to triumph over them. The perfect lesson.
So DON’T KEEP BLAMING YOURSELF FOR YOUR DISAPPOINTMENTS IN LIFE AND LIVE IN SELF-PITY. SIMPLY TARRY ON, TURN THE PAGE AND READ ON. More lessons to come.
Happy journeying
I love you.
Written by Dc Perez Copyrighted 2009/09/18. All rights reserved.
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