Have you ever noticed that some people will love someone until that person did something wrong or out of the way, whether 'morally incorrect', they will stop being their friend? Where were you when I needed you?, is the cry of many who faltered whether through temptation or otherwise.
You see, there are some who make mistakes simply because their will power is weak, some would boast that they will never do such, because they are strong-willed, so why do one cry down the one who's weak when you can uplift them from that stage instead of further pushing them down and beating up on their bruised ego further?
I believe every mistake should and can be corrected and made to be a lesson as harsh as it may be, but never to be exaggerated. I believe most people do not reform because society has failed them, they believe and see that society always scorn them after they have committed any misdeed. How do one rise from that feeling if it's being throw down their throats daily and is reminded of their failures.
We let people pay for their crimes or misdeeds over and over by pulling them down even when they try to rise though remorseful, our unforgiving spirits are cruel to the mistakes of humans, though we are all liable to err.
One of my favorite celebrities of all times, and I've seen many more since, was in the news and they repeatedly drive hm under with all the accusation though pleaded guilty, although it was a petty crime, we forget we are all humans and we all can err, but yet I've seen people who adored him, simply lost adoration simply because of a stupid mistake and thing he did. This is what I call conditional love at its best, the I will love you only if and the I will not love you if you did wrong.
Who are we to judge people? we are all witnesses, not judge. Who am I to judge anyone? I won't condone a person's wrongdoing but I will not hate them, half of the time people need counseling to get them off their down spiraling track, though for some it's useless as they may be simply evil in their tendencies.
We further alienate people when we judge them without trying to understand why or what caused them to do that particular misdeed.
I always have and will continue to say that most people are seasonal and conditional; the majority of people will drop you and become isolated from you if you did something terribly wrong. Jesus thought us to hate the sin and not the sinner.
You see I believe everyone should be given another chance to reform, only God is the judge. I remember having a discussion with a few buddies who I considered to be 'Bible-under-the-arms-Christians', they are what I consider self-righteous people, who thinks no one should falter if you know the word of God, I had to remind them we are still living in the flesh and we were not made angels, not saying that this is an excuse for wrongdoing, even the FALLEN angels as the Bible stated came down and lived with the women of the earth.
I say all this to say. we are merely mortals, trying our utmost best to live a pleasing and righteous life on this given earth and are liable to err yet we continue to down press our kinds when they falter believing we will never do the same, and can never do the same instead of picking them up, brushing them off and give them a little push to get on their feet again instead we stomp them to the ground.
I look way past the misdeed and see the person behind it. Is that person truly evil, was it influence, was it a stressing moment, temptation, whatever that led to the 'crime'? I'm in no way condoning a crime but I believe as soon as someone does something wrong we sometimes tend to become judge and jury automatically, never sifting though the probabilities and reasons and even though they might have been reform in prison we still do not give them a chance, their stain is all we see, so when they are back in society we still see them as what they WERE, how can someone rise above that stigma after paying their dues and are remorseful, when we forever let them pay for that wrongdoing by stigmatizing and alienating them?
I've seen it with many celebrities who got charged for silly acts and we simply lost our adoration for them, we forget they were and are good actors, singers, role players.
Would you do that to your very, very best friend; would you desert them if they ever did something wrong, criminally, though you love them dearly, simply cutting off all the ties, even though they are remorseful and beg forgiveness?
Or are we simply, self-righteous people who see wrong in others and never see perfection in ourselves. The 'this can or will never happen to me or the I'll never do that' kind. You may not do what they might have done, but you may simply find yourself doing something else just as bad. You may just need someone to understand and be there for you too, you never tell.
I've heard so many say they'll defend their families to the end if someone tried to attack them, should that becomes a crime. Won't you want others to stand by you and still love you unconditionally because it was a mistake as passionate as it may have been, chances are you may have to pay for the crime even if you didn't face jail, the stigma that you've injured , hurt or probably killed someone remains and that is what the human mind do not forget, they like to go back into the past and don't see now, a new day , a new chance and a new person.
Will you forgive yourself, will you forgive your friend. Or are we simply conditional people. I hate the sin but not the sinner.
Copyrighted 2009 Dc Perez
You see, there are some who make mistakes simply because their will power is weak, some would boast that they will never do such, because they are strong-willed, so why do one cry down the one who's weak when you can uplift them from that stage instead of further pushing them down and beating up on their bruised ego further?
I believe every mistake should and can be corrected and made to be a lesson as harsh as it may be, but never to be exaggerated. I believe most people do not reform because society has failed them, they believe and see that society always scorn them after they have committed any misdeed. How do one rise from that feeling if it's being throw down their throats daily and is reminded of their failures.
We let people pay for their crimes or misdeeds over and over by pulling them down even when they try to rise though remorseful, our unforgiving spirits are cruel to the mistakes of humans, though we are all liable to err.
One of my favorite celebrities of all times, and I've seen many more since, was in the news and they repeatedly drive hm under with all the accusation though pleaded guilty, although it was a petty crime, we forget we are all humans and we all can err, but yet I've seen people who adored him, simply lost adoration simply because of a stupid mistake and thing he did. This is what I call conditional love at its best, the I will love you only if and the I will not love you if you did wrong.
Who are we to judge people? we are all witnesses, not judge. Who am I to judge anyone? I won't condone a person's wrongdoing but I will not hate them, half of the time people need counseling to get them off their down spiraling track, though for some it's useless as they may be simply evil in their tendencies.
We further alienate people when we judge them without trying to understand why or what caused them to do that particular misdeed.
I always have and will continue to say that most people are seasonal and conditional; the majority of people will drop you and become isolated from you if you did something terribly wrong. Jesus thought us to hate the sin and not the sinner.
You see I believe everyone should be given another chance to reform, only God is the judge. I remember having a discussion with a few buddies who I considered to be 'Bible-under-the-arms-Christians', they are what I consider self-righteous people, who thinks no one should falter if you know the word of God, I had to remind them we are still living in the flesh and we were not made angels, not saying that this is an excuse for wrongdoing, even the FALLEN angels as the Bible stated came down and lived with the women of the earth.
I say all this to say. we are merely mortals, trying our utmost best to live a pleasing and righteous life on this given earth and are liable to err yet we continue to down press our kinds when they falter believing we will never do the same, and can never do the same instead of picking them up, brushing them off and give them a little push to get on their feet again instead we stomp them to the ground.
I look way past the misdeed and see the person behind it. Is that person truly evil, was it influence, was it a stressing moment, temptation, whatever that led to the 'crime'? I'm in no way condoning a crime but I believe as soon as someone does something wrong we sometimes tend to become judge and jury automatically, never sifting though the probabilities and reasons and even though they might have been reform in prison we still do not give them a chance, their stain is all we see, so when they are back in society we still see them as what they WERE, how can someone rise above that stigma after paying their dues and are remorseful, when we forever let them pay for that wrongdoing by stigmatizing and alienating them?
I've seen it with many celebrities who got charged for silly acts and we simply lost our adoration for them, we forget they were and are good actors, singers, role players.
Would you do that to your very, very best friend; would you desert them if they ever did something wrong, criminally, though you love them dearly, simply cutting off all the ties, even though they are remorseful and beg forgiveness?
Or are we simply, self-righteous people who see wrong in others and never see perfection in ourselves. The 'this can or will never happen to me or the I'll never do that' kind. You may not do what they might have done, but you may simply find yourself doing something else just as bad. You may just need someone to understand and be there for you too, you never tell.
I've heard so many say they'll defend their families to the end if someone tried to attack them, should that becomes a crime. Won't you want others to stand by you and still love you unconditionally because it was a mistake as passionate as it may have been, chances are you may have to pay for the crime even if you didn't face jail, the stigma that you've injured , hurt or probably killed someone remains and that is what the human mind do not forget, they like to go back into the past and don't see now, a new day , a new chance and a new person.
Will you forgive yourself, will you forgive your friend. Or are we simply conditional people. I hate the sin but not the sinner.
Copyrighted 2009 Dc Perez
