Do you live your life based on books, rules, philosophies or your life’s lessons/teachings? I am not saying that the contents of a book which may be inspiring can not be followed but many people can’t survive without advice or base their lives on being spoon-fed with knowledge but knowledge sometimes come from experiences and it’s waiting to be reveal only if you listen to that still voice within you, the voice of wisdom.
Your greatest teacher is your life experiences which include everyone you came in contact with.
There are some people who are ’set’ in their ways and know no other way to live than the one they were spoon-fed from childhood, the inbred and ingrown way. They shut their minds to anything else that what they were taught and to reasoning and be caught up in their own world, their reality or illusion.
You possess most of the info to take you through life by all these experiences, some were taught and they were meant for you as food for thoughts to guide you on your journey, but do we seek it by going inward and searching ourselves? Our answers silently awaits us in the core of our being. However, there is a new lesson to be learnt everyday.
I remembered every time a friend and I had a discussion, the thought of ‘I read in a book that’… comes from his mouth and it goes on and on and an argument ensues because the conversation was based on someone’s philosophy that was spoon fed into his mentality. Not that I dismissed the teachings in a book but I wanted to hear from that person, their personal opinion, their personal view and understanding.
You can change a situation if you want to, it’s a mindset. You don’t need to always follow a rule of thumb. It means everything we were taught and learned can be unlearned. It’s sometimes our brain-drain/washed attitude that keeps us stagnant.
I am of the opinion that we all should leave our baggage behind in entering others lives, and to him that was/is impossible, I assume he wanted the best of both worlds. His response was how do you do that as it was impossible to him.
He entered every partner’s life without closing the door of his former episode in his life, only to continue his trail. He couldn’t understand the importance of closing doors, leaving baggage behind, as he always revert to his past experiences when things went unstable for him. Phisssh!!
He never gave his new partner a fair chance hence the relationship never lasted as he carried all his untamed and unresolved emotions into another relationship. Both sexes are guilty of it, a grave mistake.
Leaving your past behind, doesn’t mean shutting off everyone or circumstances that were part of your life but letting go off a chapter in your life to move on to another chapter, even though that chapter was a determining factor in getting to this point at where you are at now. You must break free and see them as lessons learned. Let go off the things that will put a damper on your life and relationship after weighing all the consequences.
As you will realize, you’ll meet lots of people on your journey in life; some will leave beautiful memories, others won’t but you must move on. The trouble is, many remain stuck in the past; their hurts and even the good memories that may even stagnate their lives because those good memories linger, though it was meant to be part of the experience but it hampers and stagnates you from moving on as you dwell on the past.
How does one leave their baggage behind? I believe to make a clean start one has to. You don’t get amnesia but you learn to let go because on entering others lives with your illusive memories, you may be jeopardizing your relationship with another probably comparing them to someone else, which is unfair as everyone brings a different flavor to the table. The moment you have a misunderstanding you resort to the former relationship though it’s ended, get over it.
I am the type who believe in seeking the ultimate truth, always. No longer am I being spoon-fed information how it was passed down from generation to generation and that cycle continues with the brain draining and then we continue to teach our kids the same, the only difference now is that kids do not simply swallow what you teach them, they’ll dare and challenge you.
I can write you a book of information on how to be positive, you can follow or you can sift through what is being taught to you, it means that what I feed to you as knowledge must be tried and tested to be gospel and ultimate truth for you. I try to be open-mined at all times which is literally leaving doors open to learn something new and listen to others point of view even if it doesn’t match mine.
I believe that we are guided by rules and philosophies of and through life, and hence we believe there is a rule of thumb of ‘how to’ do things or we will fail, not saying you shouldn’t abide by rules. What may have worked for me, may not work for you even though it is my ideal way.
What are your inspiration, your niche, your aspirations, who/what influences you? You should be your biggest inspiration; not saying no one shouldn’t inspire you but be your biggest inspiration and motivator. Have you found your purpose through your life story and not through a book. I can continue to inspire and encourage you but you must find your way in life on your own, by finding your purpose.
Most of us live our lives based on rules and philosophy, which becomes our truth. Is it really the truth, the ultimate truth? Is it your truth and does it work for you? What if your and my truth is really an illusion, something we created in our minds. This is another topic to get into in another note.
I chose to survive in my truths, if it works for me positively.
I Look through life with a golden view all the time.
Written by Dc Perez Copyrighted 2009/09/23. All rights reserved
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