APPRECIATE.......STOP BEING MISERABLE

Quit being miserable and learn to make a difference by trying to change the situation. Quit complaining about everything, everybody and make a change, BE THE CHANGE. There are those who needlessly complain, the miserable kind. Nothing is good enough. There's so much I am grateful for and so much to be grateful for. Simply appreciate...

Some complaints go like these: (I'm sure you can add lots more)

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* The kids are a bother

- Some wish they can have kids
Appreciate - Enjoy them they are God's gift

* The birds sings too loud

- Some wish they can hear - They're deaf
Appreciate- Sing louder than them and with them

* The dogs bark too loudly

- Some long for a pet
Appreciate - Play with them or talk to them

* The flower petals and leaves are dropping all over the place

- Some wish they can see the beauty of a flower and its beautiful petals
Admire the beauty of those retired fallen leaves, learn that we all one day will retire too

* The Sea is raging

- Some wish they can hear and see it
Appreciate - enjoy those pounding waves

* The Sun is too hot

- Some pray for those days that the rain will cease
Appreciate - welcome a shiny bright day

* Outside is too cold

- Some prefer the coldness
Appreciate - use the chance to cuddle up and relax

* The weather is too hot and humid

- Some love that weather for family outings
Appreciate - use the chance to get out and absorb the goodness of nature

* The outside is too bright

- Oh beautiful sunlight
Appreciate - welcome in the light, light into your life

* Outside is too dark

-Watch the magic of the night, look at the stars in the sky
Appreciate - be mesmerized by the moon and the stars, relax and dine

* My kids are too noisy

- The joys of hearing beautiful, innocent sometimes mischievous laughter
Appreciate - enjoy their laughter, laugh with them


* The food is not tasty and it is bland

- Some didn't eat today, they are sick or they are homeless, orphaned or just can't afford
Appreciate you can eat a meal

* Tired of cooking everyday

- Some don't even have a choice of meals
Appreciate - some have no choices to cook, they live on food stamps, or caught up in famine etc

* The bed is not soft or hard enough, mattress needs changing

- Some do not have beds to sleep on, they lie on concrete or make-shift cardboard boxes
Appreciate and be happy you can sleep on a bed!

* Don't have any cable

- Some don't even have TVs
Appreciate that you can still watch a movie at least

* Need a new pair of Brand named shoes and clothing

- Some don't even have shoes nor clothes, they wear 'hand me downs'
Appreciate you are blessed and probably own more than two pairs

* I want a bigger house

Some sleep in a shelter
Appreciate you are blessed to have a home

I am not saying that you shouldn't aim for Better, but we lose the importance of APPRECIATION when we complain needlessly and excessively, making us MISERABLE people, if you are willing to make things and your situation better just DO IT, quit complaining excessively, only you can change your situation. No matter how bad you may want something and you got it and have a negative mindset you'll never be pleased or satisfied, you always want more and more, simply bypassing Appreciation. That is what I will call GREED

Look around you now and see the the things around you that add joy to your life and simply Appreciate it or them with a Smile, it could be worse. Appreciate while you strive for better, that gratitude will be rewarded probably ten times more or even more when you APPRECIATE more.

CHEERS TO YOU!!

APPRECIATE WITH A SMILE

25 RANDOM THINGS ABOUT ME..

1. I am the last and the baby in a family of 3 sisters and 3 brothers.

2. I greet each Day with a welcome and positive feeling. - as long as I get up and can move my toes and fingers I’m good to go, Good Day World it is! And ready to take on the challenge whatever it brings.

3. I‘ll turn the house upside down in a jiffy. - all because I am feeling down and need my spirit uplift and find joy in changing around the house furnishings, I once had a friend who on visits used to tell me, ‘one day I’ll come here and find all the furnishing outside’..lol..It’s a de-stresser for me.

4. I am a very positive person, - I love to encourage people that no matter how dreary life appears there’s a rainbow around the corner and there’s always another tomorrow, I am hopeful I’ll always see another tomorrow and if I don’t, my life was not planned to be in that tomorrow.

5. I am a very loyal, honest and devoted person, - whether friendship or in love. That’s the contents and aura of my soul, I am no less than what I exude, no pretense. I’ll tell you like it is, no sugarcoating, people are drawn to me because of my confidentiality, (don’t need to tell someone about another, it’s none of their business) and my positive and down to earth compassionate nature, which some take for granted, however if I do find out you are out to use me, I’ll forgive you but you’ll sure lose my friendship. Take heed!

6. I am in love with me, not vainfully. - I have to love me in order to love you, or I’ll be fooling myself, I couldn’t love unconditionally if I didn’t love myself. At one time in my life, I was an introvert, never expressive until I went into a deep depression and almost lost my soul to satan, however I’ve bounced back and in His shining glory, I’m a new person and possess a different spirit that can climb any mountain, tread every valley and hills, touch the air and clouds, yeah right! I am dreaming, yes - I have big dreams..

7. I am not a bitter person, very forgiving. - I keep nothing bad/negative on my mind/heart because it makes one resentful, bitter and that’s wasted energies, negative energies. I’m sure to have a good sleep at nights because I really don't go to sleep with a ‘heavy’ heart despite all the confusion life can sometimes throw at you.. I usually joke, if you don’t snore hard when you’re asleep, you’re not sleeping joyfully, I snore, yes I do, I am told..lol

8. I have been married and divorced - my son’s father and I remained very good friends, one of the most amicable divorces, I don’t believe we’d be good friends if I didn’t open my heart and be forgiving, knowing the way we parted.. We have to let go of all our bitterness and disappointments in life and love to allow our hearts to heal and to go on to the next stage in life. Look at it as a chapter in your life, turn the leaf, a new page. No animosity, a feeling that gives you a line in the middle of your forehead that only Botox injection can remove..lol

9. I wrote a book of my first and only pregnancy, son and only child in 1998 and has it on CD but never got around to do a full print out, it’s entitled, “For this Child I prayed”.

10. Most of my computer skills were self-taught and acquired during my most challenging times in my life, I was very hurt and depressed so I invested in a PC and taught myself to use it, I taught myself graphics, web designing, and my Editing skills came from writing my first book. I used my negative energies at that time and turned it into positive energies, which also means I don’t regret being placed in that trying situation of my life. Lessons well learned.

11. My son is the love of my life - and I believe he was sent in my life for a reason and as a cushion to what I had to face during a period in my life, look around you and you’ll see everything and person who enters your life has a role to play in your life, no matter how trivial and sometimes pestering it/they may seem, they are there for a reason, or maybe a season or a lifetime.

12. I admit I talk a lot and write a lot, - the result of not having expressed myself for a long time, being silent too long with my emotions and feelings, now I’ve let go and have become very expressive breaking all my silence that was pent up in me for so long. .It’s important to take time to listen and I also learn the importance of talking, but only talking to the right people..

13. I love and embrace humanity, regardless of race, - I love all the flavors He created and am not bias to race, creed or class, everyone is important in their own way. I love the healing powers of Yoga and Reiki so I practice it and is always looking for ways to improve myself holistically and be of influence positively and to help others achieve that oneness with themselves and their spirit.

14. I really love animals - but I am afraid to own one because if it dies I’ll cry like a hyena..lol.. so I take none home but play with people’s, they are very loving creatures, if one takes time to be absorbed into their love, I had a fish which I loved and had died but could not flush it down the toilet as some people do, so I placed it in a match box and buried it with flowers placed on the spot where it was buried...

15. I 'went' near death in 1990 - and came back, an episode I grew from in my life, everything happens for a reason.

16. There’s nothing I regret doing/happening in my life, - they all turned out as a play, in sequence from one episode to the other, actually my life is like a book/movie filled with some suspense, thriller, love scenes, drama, comedy, everything combine and we all hope the movie ends up really good, don’t we?, I say let it play out, hopefully in the end it will be a good movie, a good life, Be still and know I am God. Let it flow. My experiences were positive life lessons and has sure made me into a better individual.

17. I am a whisperer of good tidings, for the world, - I pray silently and incessantly and for anyone who needs a little encouragement in life..

18. I love music but can’t play a tune,..lol.. - own a guitar, keyboard, about to buy a drum set for my son, music is a comfort to my soul, I like almost every music, my favorite however is Salsa, the drumming tantalizes me, and African drumming wakes up my haunting spirit to dance and just be absorbed into the rhythm, I own tons and tons of songs.

19. I hate pretentious, hateful, jealous people. - They are a vexation to my spirit,. I surround myself with only positive people, hence I don’t have many friends, they are very few. and those I have and keep are very genuine ones..

20. I haven’t had many boyfriends - but fell in love with the wrong ones, lessons learnt, well learnt.

21. I love to laugh endlessly, a very joyful person. - It’s laughter that gives me that positive attitude, we must stop and smell the coffee/rose sometimes, life is not about seriousness alone and even in seriousness one can find a laugh.

22. I love my mum and dad very much, - they have instilled in me some values, principles and qualities that are hard to come by these days, I don’t regret the way they raised me though I was vex with some of their rules and I haven’t strayed much..lol. Thanks dad for your 'copish' and strict attitude. My dad was a cop.

23. I don’t go partying much, - I've been to disco/dancing only five times in my life nor do I enjoy large crowds, I feel intimidated in crowds, I am also afraid of heights, enclosed spaces and going on boat trips, I sound like no fun but I make up for that in many other ways..lol. I love the outdoors, picnics and nature.

24. My son and I celebrate our birthdays one week apart, he was my birthday gift...lol

25. I believe we are all here for a significant purpose and not by accident, - our purpose must be fulfilled, no one dies before it's their time, it's only when it happens we can't face the stark, cold reality that that person's time on earth was fulfilled even though they might have left in a cruel and terrible way. Even Jesus left in a cruel way, and his purpose was fulfilled. That's just how some of our drums will beat. I don’t believe in accidents nor luck, just fate and destiny.

LIFE IS GOOD,..

LIFE IS GREAT..

LIVE EVERYDAY LIKE IT'S YOUR LAST DAY..

HAPPINESS IS A STATE OF MIND

Copyrighted Dc Perez 2009

I CONQUERED.....

We do posses a strong will and power to conquer any adversity we face, only if we believe in ourselves and believe we can. I now realize that every situation in life has a purpose, be still and listen to the message in the midst of that crisis. I now mentor the depressed and down-trodden souls, I've been there but it was only meant for a purpose, now I know...

I love who I am..
Every pore,
Way down to my core
Every sigh, every high
Every hurt, every thought
Every pain, every gain

I love who I have become..
I’ve let go of my hurt and my pains
I am reaching for the sky again
I no longer feel like I’m tied
Nor buried underneath a tide

I am thankful that I have cried..
Tears that have never lied
In my deepest depression
I found a strange consolation
Lifted my head up off my shame
Now I can face the world again

I am humbled by my failings..
Hung in there in hope and aspirations
Saw a rainbow in the midst of my frustration
I didn’t give up, I didn’t give in
No one knows where I’d been
Though dreary, I didn’t give in and die
Nor did I whisper why, oh why

I remained humbled and silent..
In my solitude, I achingly vent
Found the solution was lying within me
I stopped blaming myself and my past
So that I could slowly move on
And be finally happy at last

My soul had cried tormenting pain...
That I swore I’ll never be whole again
But in my depth of my silent pain
I’ve learnt to love and live again
I love the lustre of the new soul I have
Smiling and looking at the footprints I’ve carved

I appreciate what I’d been through..
As painful as it had been
A lesson, so cruel yet sublime
Never in my obscure and wildest dream
Thought I would ever rise again
I am now made completely new
And has a totally different view

I believe and know who I am ...
A unique and wonderful being
With beauty emanating from within
You know not how far and deep I’ve been
To create an everlasting imprint
In the minds of everyone I meet
A wondrous creation so complete

All rights reserved. © Dc Perez - 7/03/09

REASON, SEASON and LIFETIME........Pay Attention to the Purpose!

A reason, a season or a lifetime. People enter our lives for a reason, a season and a lifetime.

I believe that everyone is important in this world, and we are here to teach each other and everyone who enters our lives, a lesson, an experience, can be learnt from them, even if its a cruel and harsh lesson, it's a lesson and experience all the same, it's what we do with that lesson and experience, do we grow from it or never noticed or take heed to that lesson.

Nothing is by chance, its a definite plan, every reaction develops from every action
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When I say I don't regret my hurts and failings in life, I meant it taught me a great lesson and made me grow from strength to strength, you can't fight destiny, whatever happens in your life were meant to happen, Every happenings in my life had a reason and a purpose and so did people who enters your life. Whatever I'd been through in my life, harsh and cruel, sweet and kind made me who I am today, a stronger woman and full of resilience and importantly a better person.

So may times someone may have entered your life and leave for no reason or a reason, you must remember that their purpose in your life has been fulfilled, don't try to convince them to stay, if they are adamant to leave, it's in the plan that the reason, season has ended, just accept it and move on but grow from and learn and figure out the lesson that the person has taught you.

I am happy to have known the people that I've met on my life journey so far, everyone has taught me the lesson that was meant to be in my life, the harsh realities and the kind and loving realities, they have taught me to be strong, made me realize that I have a defiant and fighting spirit that went through scrapes and bruises and wounds and healed. They have shown me that the world despite its unkindness, that kindness and good can surface in the midst. Despite how cruel and harsh life may have been to you, the hurt, pains and frustrations are all meant to be lessons, although they were painful lessons.

If someone enters your life, though they maybe a pest to you, figure out their purpose there is a lesson that is being learnt from them,. it may appear insignificant at that time but be assured it's meant to be a lesson as trivial as it may seem.

The 'for a REASON' people comes to assist you, to teach you in preparation for your next journey, Embrace them, they sometimes stay.

The 'for a SEASON' people comes to teach you something and leave, Don't try to keep them, they are only there for a season, their reason which was a season is fulfilled. Do enjoy the seasonal people, they may leave lasting memories, as short as their time was with you.

The 'for a LIFETIME' people, are like guardian angels, let them stay, even if they are pestering, they are there to keep you on your P's and Q's, very purposeful. As pestering as some 'lifetime' people may appear, they are there to let you not become so complacent and whatever they are putting you through is to teach you to rise above and stay afloat. It is like a test.

Trust me, they are all teachers, figure out the lesson and pay attention to their purpose in your life, no one survives alone. So when someone departs from your life, whether through death or not, be assured their purpose in your life is fulfilled, learn the lesson which was sent to teach you by that person and treasure it.

I don't know what my purpose is in your life, but it is/was one of the three, whatever it is/was, I hope you learnt a lesson and experience that is/was positive.

I want to say thanks for being part of my life whether you are/were for a reason, a season or a lifetime. I welcome you and embrace you, you complete my life here on earth and your purpose is/was well served.

LIVE LIFE,
ENJOY LIFE,
EMBRACE LIFE
AND NEVER TAKE LIFE FOR GRANTED

Written by D.C. Perez
All rights reserved. © Dc Perez

Finally found LOVE.......

This poem is abstract, it is meant to express the longings of wanting to be loved, finding love, embracing and cherishing love. Not just sexual love but that love we all should possess in our hearts and soul.

Oh Love, Elusive Love
Why are you so elusive
Could it be that you're exclusive
Exclusive, that I've become reclusive
Reclusive has made me compulsive
Compulsive that it makes me indecisive
Love why do you have me so confused

Oh Love, Tormenting Love
Why do you torment my wretched soul
Torture me silently that I cry endlessly
Cry myself to painful and sleepless nights
Rip my heart to pieces, you're nowhere in sight
Love come to me, I long to feel your warm embrace

Oh Love, Sweet Love
Show me your compassionate face
To the heart that wants and yearns,
Needs and longs for your soothing embrace
Could it be that you have forever vanish
Vanish from my life without a trace?

Oh Love, Exciting Love
Finally you are here with me
How you please my soul immensely
Excite me with your soothing touch
A touch I longed for so very much
I feel your love caressing my aching heart

Oh Love, My Lost Love
I have finally found you,
Or was it that you've always been here
Waiting for me with open arms, to accept you?
Right there in my heart and soul
Oh love, why did you elude me
And played this cruel game on me

Oh Love, My Haunting Love
You made me cry a million tears
That worsened all through the years
I stopped and thought for a while
And discovered that you had never left my side
But was waiting on me to embrace and accept you
Into the depths of your peaceful and tranquil sea

Oh Love, My Precious Love
My heart is now serene and complete
Right here you'll stay forever love,
You were there all the time and never left
I embrace you, I cherish you.
Oh Love, Supreme Love,
I finally found love..

Copyrighted 2009 Dc Perez 2009/03/10

THE ANCHOR HOLDS....

We must reach out to the down trodden Give hope to the hopeless. Your candle is lit until the end. Never give up. In the midst of suffering and sadness and trials, joy can show its face

Why not bring light to someone's darkness? Do you see what a positive smile can do to a distressed soul, some great inspiring words or deed can turn someone's darkness into a ray of light?

Be still even in the midst of your confusion and listen to your heart, listen to that silent voice, look into your inner guide, so many times I am caught up with my family stresses and only realize when I get into my own space and alone time, quality time, do I 'find' myself, my inner peace, my solace, the peace which when tapped into, can radiate your soul, and radiate from within that it radiates around you, everything as chaotic as they are, seems peaceful and calm, can you understand?

I 'find' myself to re-focus, absorb my light and let it glow from within, so i can solve my problems, the echoing of all life's confusion, confuses your mind, your time and your space. are you feeling me? I find a sense of peace within me that in the midst of quarrel and confusion, I an eerily and surprisingly still and peaceful, despite the fact that I am an exuberant and anxious person, I learnt to be anxious for nothing, I am filled with an inexplicable joy within me, a joy that surpasses even my understanding after having been a depressive person nearly twenty years ago

Why am I so relaxed and joyful, though things are collapsing around me emotionally? I being a single, divorced mum, has an Alzheimer mum to take care of, and a hyper 11 year old and yet as stressing as that situation is, I am holding on bravely that some friends are wondering how I cope mentally especially with an Alzheimer mum .

You see I believe every circumstances and experience and lessons in life are sometimes meant to prepare you for the challenges you may face in the later stages in your life; the unexpected, but the intended, because I believe in destiny. I believe it was the conditioning of my mind and heart, and having dealt with a divorce, becoming single, and raising a child alone from the marriage, built the resiliency in me so when
I was faced with the task of taking care of my mum, I was pre-programmed with tolerance and patience, love and gratitude, and we all know that Alzheimer is a crippling mental disease that emotionally drags you into it.

I am actually watching one of the loves of my life deteriorate mentally right before my eyes and I can't really do anything about it but offer that unconditional love but my anchor still holds in the midst of my tumultuous storm. I truly believe that God has chosen me to walk the journey alongside her, though I have many other siblings but they live away from, it meant my private and personal life became on hold for a while, while I take that journey with her. There is a lesson learning in the process, humility, selflessness, patience, tolerance and even gratitude.

I believe we sometimes go through situations in preparation for what is to come in life, I now believe, I've been prepared from those lesson; believe me, Alzheimer patients are difficult to deal with and handle, as their memories deteriorate as the months/years go by but I have an unconditional love for my mum though I am the only one dealing with her as all her kids, my brothers and sisters, are living abroad so there's no physical nor emotional back-up/support but I am committed to doing it.

I've bear many crosses in life and every part of the journey so far has led me sequentially from one journey to another and prepared me for the other steps of my journey in life and has led me and guide me all the way to this eventual moment in my life and on my journey. I still hope to find someone/others who will encourage and inspire me along the way and journey and help keep that candle burning.

The happiness I found inside me is a realism and determination that I can do it, face the odds head on. I realize I had to look within me to find the peace, comfort, encouragement, even if the world fails me, to go on and also to extend that peace, that overwhelms me, and to others. That peace I found is overwhelming and alarming as I'd been such a confused and depressed person a while ago.

I realize I had a determination and will power to deal with almost every problem and obstacle no matter how surmounting that problem is, not necessarily giving up what the problem is but look inside myself, within me to find the solution, how do I explain this? I believe the peace you find within yourself you can conquer whatever you are facing.

I am full of joy, I laugh endlessly, that doesn't mean I don't have stresses, I do, it's right in front me everyday but in the midst of it I know all is not lost and learn to smile and laugh really loud, really hard and really long.

Even in the midst of my darkness and darkest hours I always and still keep the candle lighted, my candle, it will always lead my way and cover all my darkest moments and hours.

We all have a candle; What do you do with yours, do you let your candle burn so bright in your hours of darkness that the only dark you see in it is the reflection of your shadow. Keep your candle lighting, and also keep another one lighting for a brother just incase he needs one or can not find his way..

I LOVE YOU VERY MUCH, MUM!

Written by D.C. Perez
All rights reserved. © Dc Perez 2009

Below is an inspirational song by Ray Boltz

The Anchor Holds - Ray Boltz

I have journeyed
Through the long, dark night
Out on the open sea
By faith alone
Sight unknown
And yet His eyes were watching me

CHORUS:
The anchor holds
Though the ship is battered
The anchor holds
Though the sails are torn
I have fallen on my knees
As I faced the raging seas
The anchor holds
In spite of the storm

Ive had visions
Ive had dreams
Ive even held them in my hand
But I never knew
They would slip right through
Like they were only grains of sand

CHORUS

I have been young
But I am older now
And there has been beauty
That these eyes have seen
But it was in the night
Through the storms of my life
Oh, that's where God proved
His love to me
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DON'T GIVE UP
DON'T GIVE IN
STAY STRONG
THE ANCHOR HOLDS IN THE MIDST OF THE STORM

YOU ARE...

You are.
The very first soothing touch I feel
I still can't believe you are real
You are.. the breath besides my face
As you hold me tenderly in a sweet embrace

You are..
The joy that overflows my heart
I hope my darling we will never part
You are...the tingling I feel in my soul
The one whom my heart enfolds


You are
The warm glimmer in my smiles
You bring me joy beyond a million miles
You are my constant shadow in the dark
You're always there, right behind my back

You are
The aroma and taste of my early morning breakfast
Oh how I pray this wonderful feeling will last
You are the smooth strides in my steps
Oh Boy, Ooh you are my best secret well kept.


Yes, you are
You are, the love of my life

Written by D.C. Perez
All rights reserved. © Dc Perez 2009/03/18

I HAVE THE ABILITY..

Tap into your potential, we all have the ability to make this a better and happier world for all.

I have the ability
To rise above my painful transgression
To fight against all spiteful oppression
To find a good and positive solution
To make a new and great transformation


I have the ability
To make a positive difference each and everyday
To change a person's thinking with the words that I say
To listen to the troubled and silent sighs
Of those longing to hear a comforting, 'It's alright'

I have the ability
To be more loving and kind to everyone
To make a positive impact when I am gone
To be compassionate to the hurting
To be understanding to the deserted

I have the ability
To give and love unconditional
To triumph and rise after I stumble and fall
I have the ability to forgive and forget
Though others haven't forgiven and forgotten yet
I have the ability to learn from my failings
To climb above it and go on sailing

We all have that ability to make a difference
Do you use your ability?

Written by D.C. Perez
All rights reserved. © 2009/03/21 Dc Perez

I FELT YOUR PAIN..

This poem is in consolation to the frustrated individuals who have lost hope and believe the world has failed them and finally found the joy and strength within themselves to go on and face life head on.

Happiness is a state of mind, even the vagrant in his abode finds contentment in his confines, though depressing to others, it's his reality that he's accepted, the average person, wants to be rich and is always seeking better, nothing is wrong with that, however, their happiness is measured and won't accept 'happiness' unless they're rich hence I say happiness is a state of mind.

Be grateful and contented with your small or big blessings whichever way one looks at it, because a small blessing to someone may be a big blessing to another. Be grateful for small mercies. Never stop reaching for the stars, but if you didn't get to touch the stars, I'm sure you've touched some beautiful clouds which cushioned you on your journey.



I felt your pain
In the midst of all your confusion
I watched you as you struggle in frustration
Could it be that you're facing retribution
Or did you fall into that illusion?


The illusion that the world had failed you
And you no longer cared and your friends were few
And you felt that life was so useless
So useless that you became so careless

I felt your pain
When you said you were feeling empty
That the aching of your heart ran deeply
That you cried yourself to sleep all night and day
How you wished you could have ran far, far away

I feel your joy
When you say, you're glad you were tested
Tested though torturing becomes your strength
The strength that tomorrow always comes
Tomorrow is here, it's called today, You are home

I feel your joy
You are a new person and now have a new spirit
You can climb high mountains, You're so upbeat
You are grateful that you have braved the tests
Goodbye unhappiness, welcome home happiness

HAPPINESS IS A STATE OF MIND


Written by D.C. Perez
All rights reserved. © 2009/03/22 Dc Perez

I FORGIVE YOU.....

Is there something that has been bothering you for a while; a day, month or even years? Seems you've been carrying around a lifetime of burdens, doesn't it?. Do you have and feel the need to forgive?

It may be something that's burdening you, no matter how happy you may assume you feel unless you haven't forgiven you are in denial, you can never be truly happy unless you forgive.

Do you search your soul and found there's something you might be guilty of whether it's jealousy, greed, envy or just simply harboring negative feelings that you are so absorbed into it that you draw everyone around you into your negative realm or simply despise people because you think the world is just a hard and wicked place to live in because someone has wronged or hurt you.

Firstly you need to forgive yourself, then you can have room and compassion to forgive others, it begins with you. Look into yourself, your inner guidance, search your self/soul, as long as you find that peace within yourself, you'll find the spirit to forgive others quite easily.

Let go off those negative vibes, aura that has been swallowing you, your spirit feels lighter. your spirit can now soar and you feel free, a new person. Forgiveness heals your tormented spirit and mind and sets you free.

Try forgiving that person today before it's too late, you're not promised the next moment. Whatever wrong, as hurting as it is or was, to move on in life you must forgive. You must let go, and let God.

I know there are some very evil and cruel people who do not care of the pain they have caused someone as they have evil tendencies, but dwelling on their evil behaviour harbors hatred, bitterness and resentment making it harder to rise above it and heal and move on.

Try as hard as it may be; to slowly let go and forgive, to heal that tormented mind, it's the only way to heal from that pain of what was done to you so cruelly. When you don't forgive, you continue to accommodate hatred, bitterness and resentment in the abodes of your heart and soul and you begin to see the world through those eyes, beginning to think the world owes you and then you fall into the self-pity category.

Do not wait until it's too late. Now is never too late. Do it right now. Break free the chains of the unforgiving spirit that stifles and keeps you from soaring. The aroma of forgiveness lingers long after you make that great step. Do it with chin up and walk on with a big smile.

I am so happy the spirit of forgiveness lives in me, My burdens are so much lighter; very much lighter.

Copyrighted 2009/03/29 DC Perez

LOVING UNCONDITIONALLY..

I am encouraged to write this poem as I am convinced that we can love someone unconditionally without seeing what they look or feel like. We can sometimes actually be deceived into friendships that do not last by judging only on appearances and looks which can sometimes mask one's perception of the true person.

That you can become great friends with someone by the joining of like-minded spirits and be encapsulated in that friendship like you knew them forever without having touched nor seen the person. That you can feel and taste their essence of their genuine and pure spirit, though far away.

There are lots of misleading people who form friendships for some reason or another, the only ones that last are the ones bonded/binded by unconditional love. The best love is unconditional love. The I love you 'just because', ' I got your back', 'come what may'. To love genuinely, is to love with your heart and soul......

I love you, just because
I don't have the words to express why
To express why I love you, and this is no lie
Or could it be that love has no specific reason
And goes way beyond measure and seasons

My love for you is infinite and endless
I feel so loved by you, I feel so blessed
To love someone whom I have never met nor touched
That I can be loved in return, and be loved this very much

I love you just the way you are
No excessive flattering disguised package
You make me smile even when I feel hurt and discouraged
I love you though you're so far away
You're simply a friend who makes my day

Copyrighted 2009/03/31 DC Perez

LONG DISTANCE

The tortures of waiting on and for your love and sweetheart who's gone or been away from you a day, month or a year too long. Studying, working or simply taking a break from each other.


As I look through my window pane this early morn
I can't believe that you are really gone
Gone to a distant land, far away from me
Oh my darling, it is you who I long to see

I long for your sweet early morning kisses
Your warm and tender embraces I truly miss
I love the way you romance me oh so gently
Oh baby I miss you, I miss you so badly

You are the sweet melody in my song
Come back to my arms where you belong
I miss you, I love you, I need you here with me
My nights are empty, and to my heart you hold the key

Copyrighted 2009/03/31 Dc Perez

I THANK YOU

How many times do we stop to say "Thank you" to someone, not only on special occasions, like Christmas, Birthday, Valentine, Mother's/Father's Day, but really thank them for being a part of your life in a meaningful way?

I am humbled by my personal failures and achievements in life, though failures were my stepping stones to my success, I'm humbled that every part of my journey taught me a lesson quite unique and I am thankful for that.

For instance, Do we say 'Thank you' often enough to who deserves it, it is almost the equation of 'I love you', because both come with a gratitude beyond measure.

Do you stop sometimes, after making a great leap in life as difficult or easy as it may have been and ponder on all the determining factors that created that in your life?

Was it a family member, a friend, a stranger? Stop to thank them and show appreciation, not necessarily indebtedness to them, the truth is whenever I do something for someone I do it with my heart and soul and you owe me nothing, a 'thank you' is sufficient.

There are those who may have done kind things for others and always remind them or speak to others of what they have done for others. Self-praising themselves.

Is it necessary for you the 'doer' to talk of it, 'self-praising', when the person you did that kind act for, should be the one doing so? in your heart, you should remain happy that you have helped someone along the way and not necessarily boast of it, too many of us do that. Humility goes a long way.

Also, if it was your self-determination to succeed,that made you who you are, then thank yourself, not forgetting something negative or positive may have given you that self-determination and reliance to succeed.

Be mindful that even the negative person who may have raised your determination to succeed, might just be needed thanking too, sounds funny but it's reality.

Whenever my son completes a grade at school, and I'd been doing this from kindergarten, I have always found it important to thank the teachers for being part of my son's life; nurturing, tutoring, guiding and mentoring him in his learning journey and small steps in life. We must remember the importance of a teacher, caretaker doing a duty you probably can't do because you have to go to work, they are there to help you mould a child, even if they are being paid, thank you is nothing I take for granted.

I have always been grateful for my circumstance, this is what made me who I am. I am quite sure if you search yourself , you may also find the same.

Don't be discouraged by your circumstances, build your strength from it and be thankful that you survived it and can probably share and encourage someone in a similar or worse situation.

Be thankful to everyone who shares your life and makes it worth living. Never take them for granted. So many times I've seen so many who talked highly of a loved one or friend and never took the time to thank that person for being part of their lives in a significant way or simply saying "I Love You". You should say it now, show appreciation now.

Thank you for being a friend and I love you. Be Blessed!

I THANK YOU....

Copyrighted 2009/04/03 DC Perez

I CELEBRATE YOUR LIFE AUNTY, You were my friend.......R.I.P.

Dedicated to my loving Aunt whose life and purpose was fulfilled on earth, April 04, 2009, and was like a gem to me..

You showed me nothing but unselfish love
Always forgiving and peaceful like a dove
You showed me nothing but simple compassion
Willing to help me in any situation

With open arms always ready to serve
You were like an angel sent from above
I miss your loving and jovial smile
I wished you would have stayed awhile

I was oh so lucky that He had warned me
Way in advance that you were on your journey
I took that time to spend them with you
To show you how much I had loved you

But God was ready for his chosen angel
And waited on that day to ring that bell
An angel so loving, kind and sincere
Little did I know He was always standing near

I thank you God for sending us an angel on earth
I thank you God for her meaningful and wondrous birth
I am happy she’s with you and no longer in pain
I thank you God that someday I’ll get to see her again

I celebrate your life Auntie, you were my friend
Someday, someday I'’ll surely meet with you again
Thank you for sharing your life with us
One who had always put others first

Your purpose here on earth was fulfilled
Goodbye, goodbye, It was His will

May you Rest in Peace. Your loving spirit lives on.

Copyrighted 2009 D.C. Perez 2009/04/04

Her sister has since joined her on 2009/05/31
Rest in peace Aunties

YOUR PAST IS GONE.....

"No matter how bad your past may have been, you still have a bright future ahead waiting for you. Just don’t let the burden of the past stop you"
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CONTENTMENT

"The secret of inner contentment lies in NOW! Enjoy now, Live now, Love now. Yesterday is gone and the future is merely a dream. Your imaginations and worries may never come. Live in the moment, cherish and embrace it"
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THANKFUL

"Be thankful to everyone who shares your life and makes it worth living. Never take them for granted" Thank you for being a friend and I love you.

SOME ORIGINALQUOTES By DC Perez

All my quotes are Copyrighted 2009

I BELIEVE I'm PURPOSEFUL. I BELIEVE in me. I can RISE above stigmatization and all negativity. I can LOVE UNCONDITIONALLY. I can FORGIVE with a smile. I am the ESSENCE of HIS creation. I am UNIQUE, IMPORTANT and PURPOSEFUL and SO ARE YOU. Let no one determine your worth, YOU ARE PURPOSEFUL.Think POSITIVE today. KEEP AWAY from NEGATIVE people!!..Blessings to you.....Dc Perez

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Stop; Look, Listen & be still for a moment. APPRECIATE. I KNOW NOT YOUR STRUGGLES IN LIFE BUT THERE IS HOPE AS LONG AS YOU SEE A NEW DAY. I remain in a blissful state of GRATITUDE. Simply grateful for the simple things in life that can still make me smile. I am appreciating the simple, small things while I rocket my way to GREATER things. Simply Appreciate. This is GRATITUDE in its purest form.

.....Dc Perez

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The power of a SMILE: Smile more, because this will help you think positively. Be optimistic and confident, shine through your smile. Live a life of quality by thinking and speaking positively. Do not feed negative thoughts, they can easily thrive. Simply smile on and BELIEVE in yourself, creating an aura of positive vibes. "Smile and watch the world smile with you

.....Dc Perez

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Stop crying over the PAST; the SHOULD HAVE BEEN, the COULD HAVE BEEN, the IF I ONLY KNEW. They were simply disguised as lessons. Make NOW; the I CAN, the I WILL. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF and walk through that DOOR WHICH IS OPENED for you and move along swiftly. Make things happen. PERSEVERE and don't give up. KEEP AWAY from TOXIC people, they will STAGNATE you

.....Dc Perez

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You must BELIEVE you are WORTHY & no one has the right to determine less for you. No one can place a price on you, you are PRICELESS, UNIQUE & very IMPORTANT. Don't ever feel because someone made you feel worthless, you are worthless. Present a new YOU to the world and be judged on NOW; yesterday is a memory, TODAY & NOW is what matters.& what you do NOW with your life.

.....Dc Perez

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Take the burdens of the past off your shoulder and leave it there. You might have disappointed or hurt others with what you did or said in the past or vice versa. But it’s over. It’s already in the past & there’s nothing you can do about it except forgive yourself & others and heal and move on. Today is a new day and you have the chance to start again. Ride on. TODAY IS NOW..Make a difference

.....Dc Perez

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I AM the fine prints of HIS perfection and creation. There's NO DUPLICATE to me. I AM UNIQUE and IMPORTANT and I'm PURPOSE driven. I am here for a specific REASON and PURPOSE that must be FULFILLED. NO ONE has the power to stop that fulfillment. My purpose will be fulfilled. Make a difference NOW. We are all very IMPORTANT. MOTIVATE yourself

.....Dc Perez

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Today, I present to you a buffet table filled with POSITIVE FOOD. Fill your plate with HOPE, PERSEVERANCE & FAITH. Drinks are in abundance; choose from MOTIVATION, ENCOURAGEMENT, TOLERANCE and many more. Eat & drink these slowly with a GREAT ATTITUDE. Share in the dessert of BLESSINGS, LOVE & GRATITUDE after. Share them abundantly with others while listening to music of JOY & INSPIRATION. Enjoy and be Blessed

.....Dc Perez

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TODAY is a NEW day; a new chance. I will RISE and FACE whatever challenges today brings. Riding with tides of DETERMINATION, oaring along with HOPE and ASPIRATION, with my life jacket of POSITIVE ENERGIES. The ocean is rippling beneath me with POSITIVE WAVES of INSPIRATION and all I can see from there is a horizon filled with POSITIVE RAYS of BLESSINGS. I am the ESSENCE of my CREATOR.

.....Dc Perez

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Always surround yourself with POSITIVE people; they will PROPEL you unto your DREAMS and to BIGGER IDEAS. Avoid NEGATIVE people; they carry DEPRESSING and VEXATIOUS spirits that will pull you down.....ALWAYS STRIVE FOR THE VERY BEST

.....Dc Perez

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Afraid to turn the pages in your book of life? Don't be stuck in the same page; read on, the next page may contain load of Blessings and thrills. Always remember to share some of that Blessings with others. Pass on your joy.....BELIEVE YOUR FUTURE LOOKS GREAT because your future is NOW

.....Dc Perez

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Every part of my life's journey so far, has led me sequentially from one journey to another preparing me for the other steps towards my journey in life and has led me and guide me all the way to this eventual moment in my life. PAY ATTENTION TO LIFE'S LESSONS... Figure out the purpose of these lessons and experiences, don't overlook them, they are very purposeful.......Dc Perez

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Learn from your failings, your lessons in life, though sometimes painful; don't be discouraged. In the meantime celebrate your strengths while you strive for excellence ...Walk on with hope...NEVER BE DISCOURAGED.....Dc Perez

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Be grateful and contented with your small or big blessings; whichever way one looks at it, a small blessing to someone may be a big blessing to another. Be grateful for small mercies. Never stop reaching for the stars, but if you didn't get to touch the stars, I'm sure you've touched some beautiful clouds which cushioned you on your journey to the stars............Dc Perez

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I am full of joy, I laugh endlessly, that doesn't mean I don't have stresses, I do, it's right in front me everyday but in the midst of it I know all is not lost and learn to smile and laugh really loud, really hard and really long. - Take a moment and laugh hard today, good cleansing for the soul.....Dc Perez

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In your book of life you are going to read some pages you do not like, but there are some that are going to make you really happy. Some books have a few pages while others seem endless, but the story always ends, hopefully the story reads and ends really beautiful....Dc Perez

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We all have a candle; What do you do with yours, do you let your candle burn so bright in your hours of darkness that the only dark you see in it is the reflection of your shadow. Keep your candle lighting, and also keep another one lighting for a brother just incase he needs one or can not find his way....Dc Perez

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When things seem hopeless, don't panic. Everything works out for good. Try hard and be silent in the midst, a solution will show it's face. It often does. We often get solutions when we are calm....Dc Perez

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Take a moment today and be thankful for your blessings, whether small or large, stop a moment and sprinkle some on someone who needs a little push in life, it will bless their heart and yours..Dc Perez

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Surround yourself with positive people, they are the ones who will uplift you and help you grow. Be wary of negative people, they'll kill your spirit with all their negative energies....Dc Perez

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I believe we are all here for a purpose and are all unique and important. We are here to learn from each other, no matter how trivial and insignificant it may seem, we all are here for a specific purpose that must be fulfilled...Dc Perez

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I've learned to be anxious for nothing. Everything happens in perfect timing, it may not be your timing but it happens. Sometimes, when it doesn't happen at all, He may just have a different plan for you...Dc Perez

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I'm awed by simple little things; Beautiful world, people, nature; butterflies, birds, the scenic view, the clean air, the smiles, so much more to be thankful for and be absorbed into. Simply appreciating His wondrous creation. Make a difference today, while you can...Dc Perez

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Every breath I breathe, is a breath of hope because I'm alive. If you live without hope, life seems useless. Never believe so. We are all unique and important. Today is a good day....Dc Perez

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Be thankful to everyone who shares your life and makes it worth living. Never take them for granted. Thank you for being a friend and I love you. Be Blessed!....Dc Perez

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Be fluid like water and just let your spirit flow and touch everyone whom it reaches positively. Sprinkle a little on someone whose spirit is dried up...Dc Perez

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Love has no measure, reason nor season, if you love unconditional. I love you guys!...Dc Perez

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Remember every time you fall; get up, brush yourself off and walk on with hope in your heart . Don't look back. Persevere...Dc Perez

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I've learnt to be happy in whatever situation and circumstance I'm placed in, my happiness is a state of mind, it's how I see the situation. Do I rise from it or allow myself to be sucked into it...Dc Perez

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Become an ANTENNAE for POSITIVE signals & vibrations. You create your REALITY. If you think POSITIVE, positive energies will surround and inhabit you even in the midst of negativity. Be careful with your thoughts, YOUR THOUGHTS BECOME YOU, process positive thoughts daily. Be the antennae for positive signals, others will surely pick up your signals. Sending everyone POSITIVE signals......Dc Perez

I WISH.

I wish I'd wake up to a world of peace
Where hunger, crimes and wars no longer exist

I wish the poor and destitute are daily fed
And find a happy home to rest their heads

I wish, people will no longer fight and fuss
About where to eat while others don't even own a purse
I wish we'd stop for a while and ponder and obey
And listen to the cries of other hearts today

I wish, we'd take a friend or stranger's hand
And remind them to always form a band
That we are stronger when we join together
Just like we would help and be there for a brother

I wish, that kids caught between broken homes and wars
Can sit around in happy homes, playing with little toy cars
They should never be burden with the selfishness of mankind
But live in stability and with a peaceful and joyful mind

I wish the lonely widowed women and elderly
Who feel so lost and hopeless without a family
Be told and shown love daily by someone who cares
Because their burden seem so heavy and hard to bear

I wish, our daily words and deed will reflect
Our desires of an honest and pure heart in effect
I wish that all of mankind will live in harmony and unity
And live lovingly and peacefully among humanity

Oh how I wish, I wish.....

Photo credit to Osmond Griffith

Written by DC Perez copyrighted 2009/04/16

JUST FOR YOU MUM

A Mother's love can never be replaced
The one who gave me my first embrace
Your love is pure and unblemished
A Mother is to be forever cherished

We should always love our Mother
They are our very first teacher
The one who loves sincere and unselfish
And tries to fulfill our every wish

Your kindness to me is beyond measure
Your love for me I will forever treasure
Nothing can compare to your unconditional love
Even at times when I got on your nerve

A Mother's love will live on forever
Will stay around and leave you never
What I am and have become today
Were sacrifices made by you from day to day

The sacrifices that you have made
Can never, never be repaid
Love your mother, love her dearly
She's God special gift to you daily

I love you mom, I will love you forever!
I carry you always in my heart

Written by DC Perez Copyright 2009/04/26


My mum is and have always been my best and closest friend. A mum who's also a friend is a plus. We talk about almost anything.

Cherish your mum.

MENTAL SLAVERY

Slavery is a terrible and horrible thing but the most depressing is the oppression and slavery of the mind. We need to rise above our mediocre thinking and believe we are all very important and all deserves a fair chance at life - what makes us think we are not, is the stagnant mentality - the slave mentality.

Slavery of the mind goes way beyond the race and color thing, I believe I can become who I want to be if I only try, defying all obstacles place before me, what makes me determine that is - my mindset, determination and my belief that I am as good as the next person.

No matter how much money, wealth, ties one has I believe I am as rich as them probably not financial but in other ways positively.

My positivity is what propels me and make me rise above that oppressive mind - the mental slavery illusion that hinders and stagnates you.

The mind is an awful thing to waste. Let it work for the good of you and everyone around you, never let it oppress you but uplift you.

As with all races, I embrace all regardless. I judge people on attitudes not race, you are nothing but a difference of color of skin, when you open your mouth and heart to speak, all I can see and hear is a person, personality, heart and more so human - not a race nor color.

I feel warmth - not race; I embrace kindness - not race; I see compassion - not race; I see humanity - not race or color. If we go about judging on race and color, that mental slavery, we are sure to lose, because race and color will mask the pureness of the human spirit.

I do not teach my kid race, I teach him the unity of the humane spirit. Any race can do each other bad, that doesn’t make that whole race bad, even if you had a bad experience with a particular race, you should never paint all with the same brush.

If you are judging others; judge others singularly. Won’t you hate if your parents did something bad and everyone judged you on your parents’ past mistakes and wrongdoings and you have developed a totally different attitude and philosophy in your thinking, opinion and view but yet some others tend to only remember the wrongs of your parent or ancestors, and judge others by their past? That is what remains from the” mental slavery crumbs” attitude.

Should I be judged on the color of my skin and race, or should I judge one on their race and color? I live by my ideals and my philosophy, I’ve broken the chains of the slave mentality a long time ago, as soon as I became aware that we are living in a world of -isms, pessimism, criticisms, and embrace the realism that we are all here on the same journey of reaching our ultimate goals of achieving and wanting to live in a comfortable happy world, don’t you? My smile has no colors but warmth and compassion, so does my love for the human race.

Yes there are some who’d try to knock you down every time you try to rise, they are the negative echoers, they stand by at every corner and wait to discourage you, placing obstacles in your way, every chance they get, but you must take control of your future with the Maker guiding you. No one has the power to make you fail but you because every time you fail, you are suppose to get up and try again, try harder and persevere, maybe in a different way and method but never give up and let the naysayers win.

Conquer and kill the mental slavery that oppresses you and keep you back from excelling, acclaiming and propelling. You are what you think you are. Accept and dream only the best and put it into effectiveness and watch yourself RISE above MENTAL SLAVERY, MENTAL OPPRESSION AND MENTAL DEPRESSION.

Stop closing our hearts and open our minds......

Copyrighted DC Perez 2009/05/13