Why does a woman decide to remain single, young or not so old? Is it bad past experiences, What is it?
Singleness; doesn't always mean a lady can't find a man, in fact finding a man is the easiest thing but finding a good man may be the problem. Be mindful some have hardened their hearts to the opposite gender so it's almost impossible to break their walls.
Some remain single for all types of reasons, widowed and not willing to give their heart to anyone else as they see it as a contract til death they will part; then again that means after he/she departs from your life through death you can decide thereafter to be united with someone else, ain't?
Some chose not to because they do not want to defile their union even after death and that's ok, some chose to because of past hurts, afraid to love--one too many bruises that has not healed and carried from one relationship to another, lots of scarring there- heal before you move on or you are barely covering up your sores in life.
Some because they feel powerful with their security in life and has no need for a partner, some see men as sperm donors, be mindful men have been doing it for years to women - make babies with them and leave, but it happens more often when you put the horse before the cart- babies coming without commitments in relationships..leaving a bitter taste in their mouths
There's a difference in being single and remaining single; the latter is a permanent decision unless cupid strikes:)
Before I go any further, I am not single because I can't find a man; a good man:) but because my situation won't allow that to be in my life at this moment, I want to be able to give my energies and time to a relationship and not be too preoccupied with my other stresses in life. In fact he has to meet me where I am at halfway or none at all, many may talk but can they empathize with me in my journey, so therefore if you are not going to be walking my journey with me like I would like to with you, why jump in my lane with me if you are not in for the long haul?:)
Some men/women prefer remain single due to past hurt, they don't trust love or some unforgiven reason; what happened in the past is gone, and happened with another person in your life. Everyone deserves another chance and a fair one, probably not with the same person but let love into your heart, home, abodes of your spirit and expect the best, not having doubts in the back of your mind if the relationship will work or not, don't doubt yourself--you are creating negative energies in your mind and it is sensed from your partner and fed to him/her therefore how do you expect a relationship to work with negativity.
While being single, one should use that time to find themselves, figure out and strengthen your weak points, it's a plus in relationships when you can face the fire, you don't lose your compassionate spirit but you get tough and improve on your weaknesses/failing, those that are detriment to your life/relationship.
Strangely, sometime the 'unpolished' thing about you that you may be struggling with and which another partner hated in you, may be perfection for another partner. Each man to his own - just be the best you can be and no better. Sometimes when you bend to be like or suit someone you are not being your true self and you will create an unhappy person eventually. There are discipline in life to follow but in the end be happy with it/you holistically.
They say every cloth in the store has an owner, I know that every lock is created with a key to compliment it - someone truly compliments you, take time to find the perfect someone instead of running from love and from relationships to another..
Nothing is wrong with/in being single, it's how long you plan on remaining single and the reason/s behind it..Still, I believe a heart needs another heart to talk to or it will wither and die..
I am not bashing the single folks but stating it how I see it..through my eyes; my observations and reality
Don't live alone forever..don't stay away from people/love because the world may have given you a good few doses of it's poison with some bad experiences from relationship/people. We were not meant to be/live alone.
We are here to compliment and enhance each others lives.....there's a heart that is whispering to yours..Be still and listen and let that whisper echo to your heart...tear down that wall
Is a heart whispering to mine? There sure is one...someone, somewhere. My heart is open and I am sure this note will not read the same as of the seventh paragraph because my life would have changed by then..nothing remains constant.
To be continued.....
Written by Donique C. Perez. Copyright 2010/03/01 All rights reserved
