I've heard so many friends who have lost their trust in someone or something and began judging everyone on that single unhappy episode in their lives.
They develop bitterness, resentment and it's an ugly feeling that leaves your soul tattered as you have not forgiven the person, yourself or even the world.
I refused to be moved or be daunted by someone who's done me wrong, or as some may say that all they have done for this person, they've turned around and stabbed them in the back so they'll never trust nor do anything for anyone like that again.
Remember this was a lesson to be careful but why shut off everyone in your life because of one terrible encounter.
Nothing will stop me from loving or appreciating because I was hurt or disappointed; I refuse to judge others on what another did to me nor would I judge someone on what they may have done to me spitefully or the like. I've learned to move on and hold no bitterness in my heart, it shatters your heart and outlook of like when you do and make you resentful using that emotion against almost everyone who crosses your path.
Stop assuming because someone did you wrong that everyone is the same and will do the same to you, closing your hearts to probably great friendships, simply be a little more cautious and do things differently but don't close your heart to a world of great people waiting to embrace you because someone has wronged you.
Walk on, don't let others change your great personality, you are who you are.
That person's attitude may just need changing not yours. Stay positive and ride on. Everyone is different and unique and deserves a chance, don't judge me on someone else mishaps.
Leave your baggage at the door, infact discard of it before entering people's lives, and treat each other individually. I hate it when some women group all men into the same bag and say all men are bad or vice versa simply because of their bad encounters with some men or generalize people.
Well I have good news for you, there are lots of good men out there, probably you haven't found him as yet. and when you do, you'll probably eat your words. I don't generalize people as with life you are going to get some bad experiences in the midst.
I've seen people who have become miserable and lonely and remained so to their death because of past pain, probably of the heart or in general, their dislike or trust of people and the world and become recluse because they began to think the world is a hateful place to live.
It's hard and sad when you can't rise above that thinking because it ruins your entire life, so much to appreciate despite the cruel and unkind people and experiences you may face. You must believe that though you may have experienced the bad sides of life, if you'll only open your hearts and mind you can embrace some good ones in the midst waiting to enfold you.
The world is still a good place to be, there must be someone out there that reaches and touches your spirit and when you do find them, its blissful, because they can probably understand you well, in ways you'd like to be understood.
There are soul mates out there; I believe we all have a soul mate but I also believe there are many more who can understand you, your soul and feel you without speaking, and when you find that friendship, it is golden.
It's way past the 'surface' understanding, this may be complicated to understand if you are thinking within the box but I've passed the stage of surface understanding and realize that my soul speaks and not just my heart. The peace that I feel is way past my heart, it's in my soul.
You can't make and mold people into your personality, they have their own distinct personality or you will robotize them trying to replicate them into your likeness.
I also think of how some people isolate themselves from others because they simply do things differently and are considered weird because they are not doing the 'norm' and this is sad because most possess of genuine love and compassion but we closed our hearts to them without listening.
Some can't accept them because we subscribe to a train of thoughts, the ones we were spoon fed from childhood, and there is no other way but what we were taught and the ones that were handed down to us from generation of philosophical thinking; if you dare change that pattern of thinking, you will be deemed to be called strange and sometimes weird and mad.
I always leave room for those who are seen as strange thinkers because you must keep an open mind to understand why people think and do what they do before shutting them off without even listening or trying to understand them. Even the foolish and the ignorant do have a say, they must be given an ear.
I'll always try to lead someone off a destructive path even if they don't heed, then you must let go with love.
They develop bitterness, resentment and it's an ugly feeling that leaves your soul tattered as you have not forgiven the person, yourself or even the world.
I refused to be moved or be daunted by someone who's done me wrong, or as some may say that all they have done for this person, they've turned around and stabbed them in the back so they'll never trust nor do anything for anyone like that again.
Remember this was a lesson to be careful but why shut off everyone in your life because of one terrible encounter.
Nothing will stop me from loving or appreciating because I was hurt or disappointed; I refuse to judge others on what another did to me nor would I judge someone on what they may have done to me spitefully or the like. I've learned to move on and hold no bitterness in my heart, it shatters your heart and outlook of like when you do and make you resentful using that emotion against almost everyone who crosses your path.
Stop assuming because someone did you wrong that everyone is the same and will do the same to you, closing your hearts to probably great friendships, simply be a little more cautious and do things differently but don't close your heart to a world of great people waiting to embrace you because someone has wronged you.
Walk on, don't let others change your great personality, you are who you are.
That person's attitude may just need changing not yours. Stay positive and ride on. Everyone is different and unique and deserves a chance, don't judge me on someone else mishaps.
Leave your baggage at the door, infact discard of it before entering people's lives, and treat each other individually. I hate it when some women group all men into the same bag and say all men are bad or vice versa simply because of their bad encounters with some men or generalize people.
Well I have good news for you, there are lots of good men out there, probably you haven't found him as yet. and when you do, you'll probably eat your words. I don't generalize people as with life you are going to get some bad experiences in the midst.
I've seen people who have become miserable and lonely and remained so to their death because of past pain, probably of the heart or in general, their dislike or trust of people and the world and become recluse because they began to think the world is a hateful place to live.
It's hard and sad when you can't rise above that thinking because it ruins your entire life, so much to appreciate despite the cruel and unkind people and experiences you may face. You must believe that though you may have experienced the bad sides of life, if you'll only open your hearts and mind you can embrace some good ones in the midst waiting to enfold you.
The world is still a good place to be, there must be someone out there that reaches and touches your spirit and when you do find them, its blissful, because they can probably understand you well, in ways you'd like to be understood.
There are soul mates out there; I believe we all have a soul mate but I also believe there are many more who can understand you, your soul and feel you without speaking, and when you find that friendship, it is golden.
It's way past the 'surface' understanding, this may be complicated to understand if you are thinking within the box but I've passed the stage of surface understanding and realize that my soul speaks and not just my heart. The peace that I feel is way past my heart, it's in my soul.
You can't make and mold people into your personality, they have their own distinct personality or you will robotize them trying to replicate them into your likeness.
I also think of how some people isolate themselves from others because they simply do things differently and are considered weird because they are not doing the 'norm' and this is sad because most possess of genuine love and compassion but we closed our hearts to them without listening.
Some can't accept them because we subscribe to a train of thoughts, the ones we were spoon fed from childhood, and there is no other way but what we were taught and the ones that were handed down to us from generation of philosophical thinking; if you dare change that pattern of thinking, you will be deemed to be called strange and sometimes weird and mad.
I always leave room for those who are seen as strange thinkers because you must keep an open mind to understand why people think and do what they do before shutting them off without even listening or trying to understand them. Even the foolish and the ignorant do have a say, they must be given an ear.
I'll always try to lead someone off a destructive path even if they don't heed, then you must let go with love.
I choose to love unconditional and open my heart to love and be loved in return.
I wish you love and a forgiving spirit to help you move on to better things.
Hugs to you
Written by Dc Perez Copyrighted 2009/07/13
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