CELEBRATING LIFE..

As I write this, I can see tears trailing down the face of my young son as he watches the memorial of Michael Jackson. I'm moved that he can feel such empathy, compassion and grief for someone he's never met but seems to admire his dancing and all the positive things he had done and contributed to humanity. Yet I had to comfort him that his journey had ended and purpose fulfilled as if that would have helped appease him, the sadness he was feeling at that moment was tremendous. I let him let it all out through his tears instead.

We must realize that death is not final, we must believe that it's simply the extraction of our bodies physically from earth to be exchanged for another form in the spiritual realm.

I do not become too absorbed into death because I've learnt it is a part of life. I die everyday and reborn everyday, this is not a cold expression but a realistic expression.

I 've learnt to enjoy each moment with close family and friend and even you; to appreciate, to love in the present and unconditionally, to absorb myself in now, extracting every moment and essence of now, so that when death come to me through family and friends, I can at least be realistic with my emotions, it will be up in my face at first but I have a better understanding of it since the recent passing of my two aunts back to back.

I'll cry, I'll mourn but we must not do it too long, because it is also important to celebrate one's life while on earth. Not stopping you from crying, mourning or grieving, sometimes the best cure is to let it all out as long as you don't let the sad emotion absorb you.

In each passing of my aunts, I asked myself did I learn anything from their life on earth, because they were here for a significant purpose. I don't dwell on their passing but the purpose and how they touched my life in a meaningful way.

My last aunt who died, died suddenly of a heart attack, I pondered a lot on it because it was sudden but then I came to the reality that it was her time, though it seemed untimely, it was the end of her journey here, the first one who had passed a month before her, I'd expected, as she had a terminal illness that was almost incurable so there we had time to prepare for her death.

However, both aunts time on earth was fulfilled and it's most important that I treasured their presence while here, this is why I celebrated and refused to extend mourning their departure. I'm grateful for their time spent here, even if I wished they had stayed longer, I refuse to question why because that was their destined time.

It's sad when I see people have parties or wakes for people who deserved a celebration of their life while they were alive but never was treated as such while alive. We sometimes take each other for granted.

I remember watching tributes to some artists on a channel from time to time, which I found very inspiring; celebrating and acknowledging them while they can hear it, appreciate and accept that acknowledgement instead of the grand tribute only at death.

It happens most of the time, we celebrate with eats, drinks and parties after they are gone but never while alive do we show such deep appreciation.

I am simply saying show appreciation while they are alive, say you love them many times, show you love them countless times so that when they're gone you won't mourn so long and the celebrations will continue and flow easily.

I don't want to be mourned when I'm gone, celebrate my life with a smile, treasured memories, it means my purpose was fulfilled, no death is in vain and my time was up. Destiny fulfilled.

I always chose to celebrate the lives of the ones who passed with thanksgiving, simply appreciating the pleasure to have known and met them on my journey in life, they probably taught me some lessons.

We all have a date with destiny at some point in our lives, the road ends somewhere, don't be afraid. We are so afraid to talk of the topic death, I don't dwell on it, I celebrate life and I celebrate now.

In the meantime, enjoy life, friends, family and all who you meet on this journey here on earth. You're going to meet some you wish you'd never met but they are part of your destiny.

Learn and move on to the next stage. Learn as you go.

My friends, enjoy this journey on earth, it's a wonderful place to live and be, make the very best of life here. We are here to compliment each other, only if we just believe so, we're on the same journey, slightly different roads. The journey finishes at the same end.

Think positive and happy thoughts always. Love endless and unconditional, hug endless, smile long and simply appreciate life. CELEBRATE LIFE NOW.

I write this note to encourage others who have and are taking loved ones for granted so that you can learn to appreciate their presence while they are living and not be sorry you didn't say or do positive things with them. Appreciate them now while they are alive, so that when they are gone, it will be a beautiful transition..

Love and endless hugs to all, making the journey easier for us all

Peace be unto you always

Written by Dc Perez Copyrighted 2009/07/07