What is it with most guys--most of the men are 'taken'; married or not--meaning those who seem to be interested or look interesting; all the things a woman may desire in a guy, are taken; then again that's why they are taken, character speaking guys. Then there are single guys who are 'really taken and are in relationships'; long term relationships, yet carry/hide behind the single label.Some who 'appear' single are really and truly players; the non-commitment ones and remain single because they still want to play their game, be mindful that I am not referring to all. Some 'appear' to be single, but are really in a relationship - but 'open' on their side; while they may have a person waiting at 'home', or want to swing and go back to their bachelor pad they've set aside for surmounting years in 'singlehood'.
How long is a guy really allowed to remain single; the title of waiting for the right woman, while playing and getting it on with and jumping from one bed to another? --- so it will always appear that he doesn't have a woman-- yeah, I see those quite a lot--single for as many years ago and still hold that title but is having snit bits of relationships here and there for sexual fulfillment - those that have a short life span; those that last as long as he changes his clothes; he is a player. I may remind you that there are some sneaky females who practice same.
If you are single; not married and having sex with someone, it means you are in a relationship; sexual relationship - are you hooking up with someone and intend to drop her as soon as you see 'the one'? - that's not nice to a lady who may just be really into you, and hoping the relationship will work out, what is it?
The rule is to avoid or prolong intimacy to avoid being targeted as 'practice and move on' for these guys, the sex as soon as you feel comfortable with the guy is to be avoided, you need more than that to go to bed with him, in fact some will say don't go to bed with him unless he marries you, if he's getting it readily and available from you he may not think he has to marry you ever or in a hurry. The latter, no one wants a hurried marriage:)
With the married guys who still wants to peek at other women; because it's real out there, and 'appear' to be having troubled relationships, they are definitely a turn-off. It's either you work things out at home or get out; don't go assuming another lady may just give you what you're missing, you married her and chances are the sex was great then, and probably now with two kids down the road, all of a sudden she's not that pleasing to your eyes anymore, while she hustles taking care of your kids and home.
I actually detested a guy who was married and 'chased' me down, assuming he can win me over, firstly he was married and came with a BS (The BS means Bachelor of--S*$#):) story, that he and his wife were not in a relationship.
In life being single, you'll met those kinds, so you got to look out for them--- most guys assume you are single because you can't find a guy:) and most may not be aware that you may be single because of a cheating spouse like him:)----or whatever, and now he has thrown acid on your wound - he went on with, that they're only together because he married her a while ago, so he made those vows to her but is now suddenly unhappy, actually he said that he married her to help her ---so what is the problem, you are going to sin your soul continuously cheating on her, while you remain married to her - my advice to him was to get his act together, work things out with her - he seemed to not be able to leave her--well, solution--work things out, sometimes it's a simple as that, who knows?
Chances are, things may have worked out, but as long as he finds a willing participant, bait and hook--he'll continue to go on his prowl---there are many willing participants out there -- yes, you willing and unsuspecting women, you encourage married men to continue to be on their prowl--
There are those who want spontaneous relationships to make them feel wanted and loved while their wife may be at home wanting to be loved as well, only if you took the effort and do things together, the 'for better, for worse' logo, well if she's a pest and nag I can understand what she'll do to your mind and appetite, though I heard sex is better after a quarrel, I never tried it:)..I will attempt to at some time in my life, just to test it---:)
So I ask myself, why are so many guys 'appear to be single' and misleadingly so, yet seem to be hiding in/behind a relationship, but tag themselves single-- are you still looking while you enjoy the comforts of what you are getting from your 'hidden' partner, are you having non-committed relationships or are you simply still wanting to be a player and remain open to the unsuspecting female who assume single means you have no ties to anyone?
Be truthful to yourself always.
It means some of the single guys out there may require investigation; private detective scoop on them to verify their status--before hooking up with them:). Chances are investigations may dig up more than he puts out there...it's not a matter of not trusting someone--but they come in all color and packages----neatly packaged lies that are sometimes easy and convincing to swallow.
Single means--not committed to anyone, animal or thing:)-----well except for kids--that's inevitable.
Make sure that you are single and not really hooking up with a significant other, or you will become your biggest fraud...
What is it--are you still single??--or just baiting--or in a relationship...
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